Tell Me How

I think this song is about Jeremy leaving the band.

"I can't call you a stranger But I can't call you I know you think that I erased you You may hate me but I can't hate you And I won't replace you"

She's letting Jeremy know that even though he won't answer her calls and wants nothing to do with her, she still loves him and doesn't want to get rid of their friendship.

"Think I'm tired of getting over it Just starting something new again I'm getting sick of the beginnings And always coming to your defences I guess it's good to get it off my chest I guess I can't believe I haven't yet You know I got my own convictions And they're stronger than any addiction But no one's winning"

In this verse she's talking to her fans directly. She is saying that she is getting tired of having to start new bands all over again, and she's also tired of having to defend Jeremy from both her fans and maybe even possibly her bandmates. She also admits that her actions played a role in him leaving the band...and for that, she feels both sorry but happy that she can admit that. In the line where she says: "You know I got my own convictions/And they're stronger than any addiction /But no one's winning" she says that this is a bad situation all around, and that everyone feels pain about it.

"You keep me up with your silence Take me down with your quiet Of all the weapons you fight with Your silence is the most violent"

Jeremy's silence makes the situation worse. He refuses to talk to her, and she feels as though that's the worst he could have done.

"Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go?"

She questions if she should keep fighting to keep their friendship. Should she just let their friendship go, or should she keep fighting for it despite how much it hurts her? She's basically saying that it's up to him whether or not they rekindle their friendship.

"You don't have to tell me If you ever think of me I know you say you're busy Wildly, in the fog of your memory You don't have to tell me, I can still believe"

She knows that he still thinks of their friendship, and even if he doesn't she still knows that in his heart he still loves her. And regardless of whether or not he's willing to admit that, she's going to keep believing that he does.

I agree with "UnderTheWind", it's about Jeremy.

To me, it’s about a girl who has been ghosted by a guy who she thought was perfect for her. Maybe he wasn’t ready for the intensity and he knows he’s probably broke her heart… but all he would have to do is tell her to feel like not giving up… but he’s stubborn…

I can't call you a stranger But I can't call you

Because they aren’t strangers, but she can’t call him, he won’t answer.

I know you think that I erased you You may hate me but I can't hate you And I won't replace you

He ghosted her, but that doesn’t diminish what they had.

Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go?

She wants to know if he wants her to love him, all he has to do is tell her, and she will.

Think I'm tired of getting over it Just starting something new again I'm getting sick of the beginnings And always coming to your defenses

She is tired of looking for love, when she knows that she found it. She doesn’t want another beginning, she’s defending his silence knowing the love was real.

I guess it's good to get it off my chest I guess I can't believe I haven't yet You know I got my own convictions And they're stronger than any addiction But no one's winning

She’s trying to tell him that it’s worth the effort… but with his silence, no one’s winning.

You keep me up with your silence Take me down with your quiet Of all the weapons you fight with Your silence is the most violent

She can’t sleep because she can’t stop thinking of him, and his silence hurts the worst.

You don't have to tell me If you ever think of me I know you say you're busy Wildly, in the fog of your memory You don't have to tell me, I can still believe

She’s okay with it… she knows there is no resolution, he doesn’t have to say anything, she knows, and regardless, she still believes.

this song meaning related me to dealing with a breakup over addiction

I can't call you a stranger But I can't call you

I love him, but his drinking was first. It always was no matter how hard I tried to “fix” it. I can never look at him as a stranger even tho I didn’t even know who he was when he was drinking.. I just knew I had to leave that situation. As well as stop calling him whenever I terribly missed him

I know you think that I erased you You may hate me but I can't hate you And I won't replace you

**during the last years of our four year relationship, I did a coward thing instead of breaking up with him, I ended up talking to another man who I grew very fond off and got caught speaking to him. It was very romantic and with him seeing those broke my heart even more. He thinks I replaced him even tho it wasn’t like that.. I was so lonely and just didn’t have anyone to talk to about this. My family and friends already judge him, still doing that didn’t make me feel any better after I got caught***

Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go?

i have my days where I’m so upset and on the verge to calling him but I always remember how we could never fix the problem at this time, all we can do is just enjoying each other’s company, even tho deep down I was suffocating

Think I'm tired of getting over it Just starting something new again I'm getting sick of the beginnings And always coming to your defences I guess it's good to get it off my chest I guess I can't believe I haven't yet You know I got my own convictions And they're stronger than any addiction But no one's winning

dealing with an addiction from a love one is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life. I know he loves me , and if it wasn’t for drinking, we would be together.. be married. And start growing our family, but it was always back to start one, once the drinking got out of control again.. I also realized how me being so upset and angry at him when he was trying to sober and get help didn’t help when all I would do is bring up the past..

Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go? Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go?

You keep me up with your silence Take me down with your quiet Of all the weapons you fight with Your silence is the most violent

**its always when I’m alone or I look at our pictures and videos we shared the past four years.i look at all the good times but quickly see scars on my arms that remind me going so crazy for him and climbing on top of trash cans to beg him to speak to me again. To him punching the window telling me to get lost and never speak to him again.. we definitely got violent, it was more if anything.. I hated when he became a zombie whenever he was drunk and honestly it made me feel somewhat relieved to get some reaction from even if it was completely negative, it was better than seeing him being past out for hours***

Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go? Tell me how to feel about you now Tell me how to feel about you now Oh, let me know Do I suffocate or let go?

You don't have to tell me If you ever think of me I know you say you're busy Wildly, in the fog of your memory You don't have to tell me, I can still believe

**this lyric at the end still hasn’t hit me, because I’m still in the process of not accepting things of how our beautiful relationship was ruined by an addition. I love him. I truly do and know he is a good guy, I still hope I will get a text or even a letter just to see if he thinks of me.. I guess I’m slowly getting it. Even if I’m in denial.***