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When you get older, plainer, saner
Will you remember all the danger we came from?
Burning like embers, falling, tender
Longing for the days of no surrender years ago
And will you know
So smoke 'em if you got 'em 'cause it's going down
All I ever wanted was you
I'll never get to heaven 'cause I don't know how
Let's raise a glass or two
To all the things I've lost on you, oh
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you
Oh-oh, oh-oh
Is that lost on you?
Oh
Baby, is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
Wishin' I could see the machinations
Understand the toil of expectations in your mind
Hold me like you never lost your patience
Tell me that you love me more than hate me all the time
And you're still mine
So smoke 'em if you got 'em 'cause it's going down
All I ever wanted was you
Let's take a drink of heaven this can turn around
Let's raise a glass or two
To all the things I've lost on you, oh
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you
Oh-oh, oh-oh
Is that lost on you?
Oh-oh
Baby, is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
Let's raise a glass or two
To all the things I've lost on you, oh
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
Will you remember all the danger we came from?
Burning like embers, falling, tender
Longing for the days of no surrender years ago
And will you know
All I ever wanted was you
I'll never get to heaven 'cause I don't know how
Let's raise a glass or two
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you
Oh-oh, oh-oh
Is that lost on you?
Oh
Baby, is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
Understand the toil of expectations in your mind
Hold me like you never lost your patience
Tell me that you love me more than hate me all the time
And you're still mine
All I ever wanted was you
Let's take a drink of heaven this can turn around
Let's raise a glass or two
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you
Oh-oh, oh-oh
Is that lost on you?
Oh-oh
Baby, is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
To all the things I've lost on you, oh
Tell me are they lost on you, oh
Just that you could cut me loose, oh
After everything I've lost on you
Is that lost on you?
Is that lost on you?
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Lyrics © Bmg Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group
Writer
Laura Pergolizzi, Nathaniel Campany, Michael Gonzales
Submitted by
erwino91 On Oct 04, 2016
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The singer is reflecting on a relationship that is failing or challenged.
She's trying to shine light to her lover on wisdom regarding what it takes to invest into a relationship and if that investment is not recognized, how that is an indication of how her sacrifices and work is lost on" the person she loves.
"all I ever wanted was you" --- no games. "ill never get to heaven cause i dont know how" -- even though she did right by her lover, it didn't work. "lets raise a glass or two" -- celebrating life / distracting herself while feeling heartbroken
She also reflects on wanting to know more about her lover and her expectations; what are the mappings of her mind are. She's lost and confused about what her partner thinks and feels, but yet hopeful -- "we can turn this around".
"Just think you can cut me loose?" ... She is reaffirming that she isn't someone that can just be discarded or toy'd with I think it's also that her lover may need to recognize how much she's depended on her.
Overall, the song is a tug of war between her love/lover and her willingness to survive her disappointment.
@sharky1234 wow sharky that was deep. i thought i could dive down deep lol. brilliant. very good
@sharky1234 wow sharky that was deep. i thought i could dive down deep lol. brilliant. very good
@sharky1234 The beat to me is sexy and brings to my mind all LP said it wasn't. I take it as a person that is longing for more than they're getting romantically. It brings to mind sexual tension, longing and unrequited desire for this person, and hope that the person will understand how they're feeling. It's a sexy song to ME. Guess it depends on where your emotions are at the time of hearing it. That's the beauty of a song, it's in the eye of the beholder.
@sharky1234 The beat to me is sexy and brings to my mind all LP said it wasn't. I take it as a person that is longing for more than they're getting romantically. It brings to mind sexual tension, longing and unrequited desire for this person, and hope that the person will understand how they're feeling. It's a sexy song to ME. Guess it depends on where your emotions are at the time of hearing it. That's the beauty of a song, it's in the eye of the beholder.
This song is about a relationship between a narcissist and a co-dependent person, when the co-depended is starting to feel that the relationship is failing and she is the only one working to save it, meanwhile the narcissist do whatever and doesn’t care. She starts questioning if her partner would remember their time together in the future, as she feels they won’t be together then and s/he doesn’t seem to appreciate it. She recommends her lover to do what s/he want while s/he can because she doesn’t know how long she’s gonna be able to take it. She reminds her partner that she doesn’t want anything more than them. S/he is the only thing she wants, nothing else matters, that’s why she gave, gives and will give anything to save the relationship. “I'll never get to heaven 'cause I don't know how” it’s what the narcissist makes the co-dependent feel, that she can’t do anything right, that she is incapable of achieving any goal, that she doesn’t know anything and she won’t be able to satisfy them, because s/he is like a bottomless pit that never gets enough and is always asking for more. I believe “heaven” refers to the beginning of the relationship, when all was good and it’s the thing she’s working so hard to recover. “Let's raise a glass or two to all the things I've lost on you”. She propose a toast for all the sacrifices she have made for her lover, like for the memory of something cherished that is gone. In the relationship with the narcissist she might given up family, friends, places, activities, hobbies, pleasures, trips, opportunities, jobs, her joy, her sanity, her entire life, anything that wasn’t the narcissist, because the narcissist doesn’t care about her needs, they assume she has to be there only for them. She’s an object with no feelings or needs which only purpose in life is to provide the supply that the narcissist needs. That is so painful to realize that when she does she ask her partner “Tell me are they lost on you?” or they are gone forever, if they were lost in vain, “Just that you could cut me loose”, because s/he doesn’t explicitly leaves her, but s/he neither shows any concern about the ending of the relationship, like s/he doesn’t love her and stays only out of habit (or any other excuse like kids, pets, housing, etc.), leaving the co-dependent with the hard decision to end it even though she still loves them to death. And she doesn’t want to because all the things she did for the narcissist would be definitely gone for nothing. “Wishing I could see the machinations, understand the toil of expectations in your mind”. She feels that she doesn’t understand what the narcissist wants, because s/he’s always changing it. S/he asks for something and when she does it s/he’s not satisfied, and s/he’s always twisting things, gaslighting, working very hard on making her look like she’s wrong. “Hold me like you never lost your patience”, like in the beginning, when the narcissist showed their love to her, before s/he started getting mad, furious, enraged with her. “Tell me that you love me more than hate me all the time” because the narcissist doesn’t say they don’t love her, but only shows anger, hate, disdain, contempt towards her. She still hopes that her lover still belongs to her “[tell me that] you’re still mine” and the relationship is still salvageable. “Let's take a drink of heaven, this can turn around” maintains the same idea, both have to remember what was like at the beginning and work towards that. The sad thing is that that’s not going to happen. LP said in an interview that she wrote this song a year before the break up. So she endured this awful mistreatment for a long time. I love this song, I cry every time I listen to it. I apologize for my English and I hope this wasn’t too hard to read, but I really wanted to share this interpretation as it’s so close to my heart.
@Cigburn Very good psychological analysis. Serge Gainsbourg once said : In love, there is always one that suffers and one that is bored. That being said, LP also said she was never faithful to any of her lovers but that one. And it made her realize how awful it is to make someone else suffer when they are in love with you. In each of us there is a victim and a tormentor and : '' When we get older, plainer, saner. When you remember all the danger we came from...'' Maturity brings a balance and hopefully love. Cheers !
@Cigburn Very good psychological analysis. Serge Gainsbourg once said : In love, there is always one that suffers and one that is bored. That being said, LP also said she was never faithful to any of her lovers but that one. And it made her realize how awful it is to make someone else suffer when they are in love with you. In each of us there is a victim and a tormentor and : '' When we get older, plainer, saner. When you remember all the danger we came from...'' Maturity brings a balance and hopefully love. Cheers !
@Cigburn I created an account on this website just so I could comment on your spot on and such deep interpretation. As a narcissist myself I can confirm this is an exact dynamic I've been putting my partner through and the song hits close to home. Maybe that's why it was a soundtrack of my mental breakdown -- it shed light on my own ugly side and forced me to see myself for who I really am. And I'm not an easy partner to have, that much is clear.
@Cigburn I created an account on this website just so I could comment on your spot on and such deep interpretation. As a narcissist myself I can confirm this is an exact dynamic I've been putting my partner through and the song hits close to home. Maybe that's why it was a soundtrack of my mental breakdown -- it shed light on my own ugly side and forced me to see myself for who I really am. And I'm not an easy partner to have, that much is clear.
But one has to fall apart before reassembling...
But one has to fall apart before reassembling himself into a new, better version, so let's raise a glass to introspection, therapy and love.
@Cigburn i just got out of a relationship that sums this up
@Cigburn i just got out of a relationship that sums this up
@Ragazzarita Serge Gainsbourg quoted Sacha Guitry. Here is the exact dialogue:
@Ragazzarita Serge Gainsbourg quoted Sacha Guitry. Here is the exact dialogue:
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To me this song expresses, in a whimsical way, a need for the singer to point out all they've done to attract the person they want to be with.
I see no hard feelings..thus the verse about 'raising a glass or two'....But Love is Love, and feelings don't just die. They just ride off into the sunset....