Six Degrees of Separation

So the song was written for that cute lady in the Breakeven music video Danny dated for 4 years, we all know that, but 6 degrees of separation is a theory that anyone on the planet can be connected to any other person on the planet through at most 6 chains of acquaintances, or "Friends-of-a-friends". so.. Joe wants to meet Bob. Joe's sister Sally is friends with Ann whose brother is Billy whose boss is Jim who plays golf on sundays with Bob.

The original idea is heartwarming; you're only at most 6 links away from meeting the love of your life!... but they are taking a sad, romantic spin on the original idea; rather than being just 6-steps close to her, it's more like the 6-stages of separation from her we all go through. I think he fucked up, she left, now he's dealing with the separation, wants her back desperately.

"you've read the books, you've watched the shows
what's the best way, no one knows"
how do you deal with heartbreak? no real answer.

"meditate, yea, hypnotized
anything to take it from your mind
but it won't- go"
trying to control your thoughts, control your emotions. never works argh

"you had the drink, you take a toke
watch the past go up in smoke"
get drunk, get high, forget the past. that'll numb the pain won't mend it  -.-

"you fake a smile, ya, lie and say
you're better now than ever and your life's ok
but it's not, no"
trying to BS yourself or your friends that you're actually doing great, but you're not oh no...

"you tell your friends, yea strangers too
anyone who will throw an arm around you"
wanting to do nothing but talk about her and how she up and left you. throw a pity party for yourself, make everyone feel for you.

"talla cards, gems and stones
believing all the shit's gonna heal your soul
well it's not, whoa"
try some crazy voodoo shit, get spiritual, maybe supernatural powers will mend his heartache. but it won't.

"First, you think the worst is a broken heart"
he didn't do anything wrong, she just up and left, broke his heart. shell-shocked

"What's gonna kill you is the second part"
really hits him, sinks in, truth hurts. loneliness, forlorn hope that she's coming back. thinking too much. definitely the longest stage, last time took me good 3 weeks of this day in day out. HORRIBLE.

"And the third, Is when your world splits down the middle"
sick of feeling terrible. forces himself to make a choice: wait

Although this song was wrote in a males's point of view this can be any one's pain when they are not appreciated by the only they truly love. All can say is to people like myself in this situation try to continue your life quite busy. that person will realize the mistake of letting you go someday and hopefully by then you are then truly appreciated for the person you are.

"And the third, Is when your world splits down the middle" sick of feeling terrible. forces himself to make a choice: wait

What most people relate it to is a relationship between a guy and a girl but for me this song relates to divorce.

First, you think the worst is a broken heart {My dad broke our hearts when he left}

What's gonna kill you is the second part {It only got worse from there}

And the third, Is when your world splits down the middle {I felt as if my world was falling apart}

And fourth, you're gonna think that you fixed yourself {Tried to convince my self that I was fine with it }

Fifth, you see them out with someone else { Seeing my dad with the women he choose over his own family}

And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have fucked up a little {I feel as if this line was meant for him to realize that he may have fucked up a little}

The Script - Six Degrees of Separation

MY starting comment of MY interpretation: I see this as different phases or degrees you go through in a real separation. Separation by marriage, relationship, emotional, mental, physical, and this is the journey from the starting point of the separation and the degrees that it will take you to. Six degrees of separation is normally a chain, or a circle, always bringing you back to a person - maybe you hear about them from friends or acquantince's, maybe you run into them in the chain, somehow you're still bound and unable to completely unattach yourself (not that complete deletion from life would work anyway - No one truly understands the mystery of love.)

You've read the books. You've watched the shows. What's the best way? No one knows.

MY Interpretation: OK, so let's look at this in two different views that merge together. You've read the relationship books and watched videos. You've watched everything from how to be successful in dating to getting over your ex. You read about the area in your relationship that you feel has been the problem. You learn some things, but after researching as many as you can possibly stand you may start to get confused. No one seems to agree on every single thing to do to fix the relationship, yourself for the relationship, or how to just get past the heartbreak and let go of the situation. Maybe you've tried and failed, or you tried and you saw no progress, so now you don't believe that anyone knows how to make things good, and there's no exact science that will work for every single person. You know all the self-help books about how to get over a break-up and move on or how to win them back? They all seem to have different ways on how to achieve what you want to achieve. You've read them. You've tried them. Obviously, no one has any clue how to do it because none of it has worked! Maybe you've tried to get them back, or change,or change them, or decided it was their problem and they needed to change, or decided it wasn't worth the work and wanted to get over and past it, or maybe what you tried didn't work in the way you wanted, maybe you at first believe that you are relieved about it even though you ignore all the baggage right infront of your face, maybe they didn't want to work on it.

[I've debated on these next lines, but this is what I've decided to go with the ones I've put down] Ya Meditate. Yeah, Get hypnotized. Anything to take (it) from your mind. But it won't- Go

My interpretation: When you feel the bottom caving in ... you'll do just about anything. Whether you want to save the relationship or get over it. I mean think about it meditation (yoga, journaling, trying to block out everything) and yeah, sometimes you're desperate enough to try to see if hypnotizing you could achieve what you needed (make it all go away) and you get what you want. You get them back, or you get over past it through fast healing that was almost effortless. You'll try anything when you get desperate because of the hurt and inability to attain what you want and need.

You're doing all these things out of desperation. Whoa, Ooh You're going through six degrees of separation.

MY Interpretation: Nothing seems to be working, and you seriously are desperate for something, ANYTHING, to work - fix you, the othe person, the relationship or your heart. Six degrees of separation...You've started in the degrees of the separation. You wanted it to be easy and simple. You did take time to try to research how to gain them back or stop the heart from breaking. It all comes back around again. It's all connected in the end. It's the chain that keeps coming back around.

You hit the drink. You take a toke. Watch the past go up in smoke. You fake a smile. Ya lie and say, 'You're better now than ever and your life's okay' When it's not- No

MY Interpretation: You try to use recreation to numb yourself, but somehow you just keep seeing everything the bridge is burning on what you had. Maybe you're hurt, angry, numb, scared and you surround yourself in an environment where you can just dull it. Everything you built together (good times and bad) All the memories and events that were so sweet and loving and special and the person you and they were when you fell in love. In your numbness, when talking about it, you say: Hey, I'm doing alright. You know I'm really OK. That was bringing me down, and now I feel free. I can see the greener grass now. They were the one that messed things up, so why would I be messed up over them screwing it all up? They are losing the best thing they'll ever have. You know all the BS you say to play off that you're wanting to really just be fixed. You know you're only getting messed up and having as good of a time as you can but subconsciously you're pretending to have a good time because you want to feel better (sometimes that drink makes it worse). You also know that what you're saying isn't true. It's not OK. The grass isn't greener because you've been doing that and all that baggage isn't going anywhere. It'll carry over into every other part of your life if you don't address it. But how do you address it? Are you confused about which result you want? It's safer to not feel anything for someone, but if you can fight through the hurt-you'll come out in a better relationship with them and with yourself. The question is which one are you going to do?

You're doing all these things out of desperation. Ooh, Whoa You're going through six degrees of separation.

First, you think the worst is a broken heart. What's gonna kill you is the second part. And the third - Is when your world splits down the middle. And fourth - You're gonna think that you fixed yourself. Fifth - You see them out with someone else. And the sixth is when you admit that you may have f***ed up a little.

MY Interpretation: The checklist of how it starts out with what feels like just going to be a broken heart, but you still are trying to figure everything out. You're still trying to get over it while still trying to wonder if you could get it back. Kinda like the pain scale...On a scale of 1-10 how much does this hurt now? What degree are you in? Are you just a little hurt, really hurt, numb, wanting to give up? By the time you get to 6 you've lost your pride and stubborness and realize that even though you might be thinking it's mostly their fault...you realize that you weren't perfect either and dang you really might have harmed the relationship yourself (even if you still say...maybe a little bit my fault.) If you were perfect, then how could the relationship gotten to this point? It's time to admit that I contributed to this. That makes everything feel worse, because you are just now able to realize that ... hey, if I knew this I could make it right. But you're scared it's gone too far. You're scared that it's gone forever. It looks like they're moving on and now that hurts as the realization that you could have worked on it at the time instead of working on it now and it wouldn't have gotten to such an extreme situation that feels like it's impossible. There are fighter's and there are flighter's.

Oh no, there ain't no help. It's every man for himself. No, no, there ain't no help. It's every man for herself.

My Interpretation: Here comes the hopeless feelings. You're in this alone. You're gonna have to get through this ans survive this alone. It's sink or swim. You've tried self-help. You've tried reading, listening, and watching how to help. It hasn't worked. Who's gonna help you? It's like you're in this alone. It's sink or swim. You've already tried self-help. You don't want it to get around to the other person, you don't want pity or to ruin someone else's party, or worse, let everyone know how bad it hurt you. You're gonna have to survive this alone. Who do you tell that understands and can help you fix it? Who do you trust to be your TRUE friend when you need guidance? The one you're thinking about is the last person you want to show your vulnerability to, but secretly the only person you want to share it with. You had a hand in the breakdown of this relationship, but can you admit it? If you shared it, would you be rejected? How can you fix this relationship on your own by yourself? Maybe there's still anger and resentment overlooking the pain and hurt. The desperation of this revelation is starting to unfold...

You tell your friends, yeah, and strangers too. Anyone who’ll throw an arm around you Tarot cards, gems and stones... Believing all that s**t's gonna heal your soul. Well it's not- No

MY Interpretation: Well, the hurt and desperation is coming unglued. You start to talk to the people around you about it. You're even desperate enough to talk to strangers. Maybe they can help? You can't sleep, eat, or think straight. You will go to any length to see the present or the future. You'll go to anyone who might have any insider scoop that you don't see. Gems and stones...they may help you sleep, eat, and think straight. They might lead to healing. It won't hurt you even if it doesn't work or help right? You know it isn't working, but while you were trying at least it gave you something positive to take you away for a moment. Who'd need a shrink if all that stuff was accurate and really worked? You start thinking if this gets any worse, you might be willing to buy and drink some liquid with writing with something like "Broken Heart Be Gone Potion."

You're only doing things out of desperation. Whoa, No You're going through six degrees of separation.

MY Interpretation: This reminder is just telling you you're going further into the degrees. You're getting more and more desperate. These degrees are more desperate. You started out in the separation at the first phase, and now by ignoring the baggage and giving up but not able to give up at the same time is messing with your head. Now, you want someone to help you fix it-together or apart. You just want to be fine again. You're not working at fixing it or addressing the issue to be able to part without carrying the baggage with you. You still have them in your heart and mind no matter what you say. The thing is, are you going to fight for it, go dark and hate them, or run away and let your heart mend and maybe you'll be good enough for the next relationship even with the unloaded baggage that you just can't escape. Maybe the other person isn't willing to work on getting rid of the baggage or fixing the relationship and you're stuck.

First, you think the worst is a broken heart. What's gonna kill you is the second part. And the third - Is when your world splits down the middle. And fourth - You're gonna think that you fixed yourself. Fifth - You see them out with someone else. And the sixth is when you admit that you may have f***ed up a little.

MY Interpretation: Yet again, another reminder of the degrees you'll go into through the separation. Each step, and where it leads you to. It doesn't have to be negative in the end. It can become positive. Everything comes full circle. Everything has a season. You learn in sadness.

Oh, no there’s no starting over… Without finding closure. You’d take them back — no hesitation. That’s when you know you’ve reached the sixth degree of separation.

Oh, no there’s no starting over… Without the find in closure. You’d take them back- no hesitation. That’s when you know you’ve reached the sixth degree of separation.

MY interpretation: You can start over with them, or you can start over without them; BUT, you gotta find the closure in that relationship. When you're ready to work on what was wrong in the relationship, then you're ready to move on either way. You can start over in that relationship and have a better one than you've ever had before. Maybe you just need to sit down and find the closure in what went wrong and realizing that if you can figure this out, you can work on fixing what went wrong. If you or the other person doesn't see that this relationship can be saved and want to walk away...at least you opened the baggage and you loved and hurt enough to try to make things right before you moved on carrying all that extra weight with you. This is repeated back to back. It could mean that whether it's saving it or being able to heal and let go that it still requires the same thing. When you finally go through everything and realize that you need to fix the separation one way or another, then that's when you've dropped your guard and opened your heart. You will take them back. You will let them in. You will decide to find out where things went wrong and if you can fix it. I believe you always can. Forgiveness is a choice, and forgetting it not keeping score. Before you can start over and find even a greater love than you ever had at the highest, you gotta go back and work through some issues. Going through all the degrees of the separation might be the only way to get to where you need to be to fix the relationship in a healthy way, or at least work out for yourself and them what happend so you can learn if you have no other choice than to walk away. Think of how many years couples remain disconnected. How many times have you heard stories of old flames reuinited? Maybe it takes these steps for a broken relationship to get to the point of healing. I think he's speaking positively here about how you can come back from a separation through it all. I think he's saying that you can start over, but you gotta do it the right way. You gotta hit the bottom to get to the top. You'll come out better than you were before if you are able to hang in there. I think the separation is fixed and wins in the end.

First, you think the worst is a broken heart. What's gonna kill you is the second part. And the third - Is when your world splits down the middle. And fourth - You're gonna think that you fixed yourself. Fifth - You see them out with someone else. And the sixth is when you admit that you may have f***ed up a little.

MY Interpretation: Maybe he figured out the stages of a broken relationship. Each step I totally get and understand. When you've gotten to the point where it's got to be repaired seriously, and then going through all the stubborness, hurt, and pride that kept you from healing. Learning that you can forgive. It takes work, but look at all the work you spent trying to just get over it and NOT work on the relationship. At the end of the song, don't you have a little hope even when you think your heart will never be healed? :)

Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for himself. Oooh, You’re going through a six degrees of separation. Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for herself. Oooh, It’s a six degree step of separation. Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for himself. Oooh, It’s a six degree step of separation. Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for herself. Oooh Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for themself. Oooh, It’s a six degree step of separation. Oh mother, there ain't no help. It's every man for yourself. It's only after six degrees of separation. MY interpretation: Maybe someone as close as a mother said there was help, but he couldn't believe it. Maybe it's about guarding your heart. If you don't protect it, then it can get hurt. In this game of relationships it's ever person for their own hearts. Yet, he says it's only after six degrees of separation. Maybe it was in that sixth degree that the circle came back around-he learned the secret to the chain...Once you hit six degrees, then help can be done. :) He got hurt and tried a few things to fix it, then came the real pain of everything washing up and couldn't do anything about it, then he wasn't sure about whether he wanted to fix it or be able to walk away, then he convinced himself that he was OK-His life was better without her. His life was great and he had worked out all his issues and she probably hasn't and had nothing to offer or for him to want and it would only make him miserable, then he sees her out and that someone appreciates her and that she's surviving and possibly working on being happy (even if he was just a friend...he doesn't know but it bothered him enough to know that....), then he realized that he messed up and he didn't even try to fix it. It was at that point, that he fought to take her back, and he wanted to get rid of the problems that were in their relationship, so their relationship could be greater, happier, stronger, and more loving than it had ever been. It took him all that time to realize what he wanted-he was willing to fight and risk having his heart broken for the sake that he saw something better than he could have imagined.

this song brings tears to my eyes.

Totally agree with the lyrics.

read everything but nothing is working.

In my experience in dating, I've only had my heartbroken and been cheated on (at least to my knowledge), so the last line of the chorus doesn't apply, but the rest of it, and the way it's sung, hit my heart hard. A heartbreak and the aftermath described perfectly:

"First, you think the worst is a broken heart. What's gonna kill you is the second part. And the third - Is when your world splits down the middle. And fourth - You're gonna think that you fixed yourself. Fifth - You see them out with someone else."

The radio version has the last line of the chorus as "And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have messed up a little" which I had always heard as "when you admit that you miss them just a little"

Either way, the 6 degrees of separation are similar to the 5 stages of grief and overcoming pain. In order to reach that last stage you need to accept that you had a part to play.

It takes two to fight. Now you might not have been the instigator (or the one who cheated), but that doesn't mean that you didn't help fuel the fire. If you look deep enough, you can find your flaws which contributed to the demise, which is important so that you don't go down that road again.

this song finally broke me down after i found out that my husband is cheating on me. hadn't been able to cry (was numb)..then heard this song...bawling my eyes out.,,thank you, now i am feeling a bit of relieve..and want to cry some more...just for this weekend..afterward..trying to find my old self...

This song demonstrates what happens to a regular person when they lose someone special. They go through six tough stages which have been mentioned in this song very beautifully.