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Smoke & Mirrors Lyrics
You're a fraud and you know it
But it's too good to throw it all away
Anyone would do the same
You've got 'em going
And you're careful not to show it
Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit
It's like magic
But it's always been a smoke and mirrors game
Anyone would do the same
So now that you've arrived, well, you wonder -
What is it that you've done to make the grade?
And should you do the same?
(Is that too easy?)
Are you only trying to please them?
Will they see then-
You're desperate to deliver
Anything that could give you
A sense of reassurance
When you look in the mirror
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
You put on quite a show
Mother
Are you watching?
You're a fraud and you know it
And every night and day you take the stage
And it always entertains
You're giving pleasure
And that's admirable you tell yourself
And so you gladly sell yourself
To others
Mother
Are you watching?
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
Yeah you put on quite a show
But it's too good to throw it all away
Anyone would do the same
You've got 'em going
And you're careful not to show it
Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit
It's like magic
But it's always been a smoke and mirrors game
Anyone would do the same
What is it that you've done to make the grade?
And should you do the same?
(Is that too easy?)
Are you only trying to please them?
Will they see then-
You're desperate to deliver
Anything that could give you
A sense of reassurance
When you look in the mirror
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
You put on quite a show
Are you watching?
And every night and day you take the stage
And it always entertains
You're giving pleasure
And that's admirable you tell yourself
And so you gladly sell yourself
To others
Mother
Are you watching?
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
Yeah you put on quite a show
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This song is about impostor syndrome. Look it up.
I take it to be about imposter syndrome, and listening to it helps me to put things in perspective. This and "Eyes Wide Open" remind me that all humans have major flaws, and we can get along better if we respect boundaries and avoid getting caught up in emotional drama, or letting our own legacy of emotions defeat us.
I take it to be about imposter syndrome, and listening to it helps me to put things in perspective. This and "Eyes Wide Open" remind me that all humans have major flaws, and we can get along better if we respect boundaries and avoid getting caught up in emotional drama, or letting our own legacy of emotions defeat us.
In other words, every day we "take the stage" and continue to live in the world, despite our flaws. This courage is the start of moving pass those flaws and being true human beings, and not just humanoid creatures....
In other words, every day we "take the stage" and continue to live in the world, despite our flaws. This courage is the start of moving pass those flaws and being true human beings, and not just humanoid creatures.
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I think this song is about self-doubt. It's about bluffing your way through life to get ahead. But never really believing in yourself.
I agree
I agree
To me this song reminds me of cramming for a job interview in a field or something that is way over your head. "You're a fraud and you know it / But it's too good to throw it all away"
You aren't really qualified for the job but you know it's your dream job. It's what you've always wanted. You're willing to work your ASS off to pull it off. it's really difficult for you to keep up that intensity. you work overtime 6 days a week just to meet deadlines and keep your job. "Anyone would do the same / You've got 'em going / And you're careful not to show it / Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit"
You're not sure how long you can keep up this charade. "Are you only trying to please them / (Will they see then?) / You're desperate to deliver" Basically, you're trying your best to succeed and impress your boss or the people around you.
It played on the new USA Criminal Drama 'Suits.' Similar concept
@bear72 Just because a TV show used a song, doesn't mean there's any relativity between the two. The producers like the harmonies and the melody, so they use it as the theme song or whatever. Many times the two have nothing in common and it ruins the experience for both. Example; Tubular Bells by Mike Oldfield came out in '69, but will forever be known as the Exorcist theme, which came out in '73, or 74. The song is creepy, but I don't think Mike Oldfield intended for his song to be linked to The Exorcist, one of the scariest movies...
@bear72 Just because a TV show used a song, doesn't mean there's any relativity between the two. The producers like the harmonies and the melody, so they use it as the theme song or whatever. Many times the two have nothing in common and it ruins the experience for both. Example; Tubular Bells by Mike Oldfield came out in '69, but will forever be known as the Exorcist theme, which came out in '73, or 74. The song is creepy, but I don't think Mike Oldfield intended for his song to be linked to The Exorcist, one of the scariest movies in history. "Don't Fear The Reaper" by Blue Oyster Cult was used in The Stand, but DFTR is about suicide. The Stand was about a virus wiping out the world, and good and evil facing off. No suicides, only viral disease. A
@bear72 Just because a TV show used a song, doesn't mean there's any relativity between the two. The producers like the harmonies and the melody, so they use it as the theme song or whatever. Many times the two have nothing in common and it ruins the experience for both. Example; Tubular Bells by Mike Oldfield came out in '69, but will forever be known as the Exorcist theme, which came out in '73, or 74. The song is creepy, but I don't think Mike Oldfield intended for his song to be linked to The Exorcist, one of the scariest movies...
@bear72 Just because a TV show used a song, doesn't mean there's any relativity between the two. The producers like the harmonies and the melody, so they use it as the theme song or whatever. Many times the two have nothing in common and it ruins the experience for both. Example; Tubular Bells by Mike Oldfield came out in '69, but will forever be known as the Exorcist theme, which came out in '73, or 74. The song is creepy, but I don't think Mike Oldfield intended for his song to be linked to The Exorcist, one of the scariest movies in history. "Don't Fear The Reaper" by Blue Oyster Cult was used in The Stand, but DFTR is about suicide. The Stand was about a virus wiping out the world, and good and evil facing off. No suicides, only viral disease and murder
This song is a good picture of Borderline Personality Disorder. Poor sense of self you are a people pleaser so you can get a positive projection of self from others that you can see when you look in the mirror. In other words, they dont really know who they are so they put on fraudulent displays. Emotional disregulation, the hallmark of the disorder, is also evident by the "highs and lows."
Finally, the origin of BPD, although unknown, most studies point to issues in parental attachment explaining the mother reference. A good example would be an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments. She too likely suffers from the same disorder.
I've spent over a year researching the disorder and not once did the following appear in any text "an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments." Sexual abuse at the hands of a mother appeared many times, but it is not a prerequisite for acquiring BPD. Those who have BPD parents (or one parent) may have a higher likelihood of acquiring BPD, but that also is not required. I do agree with you that the song does have similaries to traits of someone with PBD. It's very simplistic, though.
I've spent over a year researching the disorder and not once did the following appear in any text "an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments." Sexual abuse at the hands of a mother appeared many times, but it is not a prerequisite for acquiring BPD. Those who have BPD parents (or one parent) may have a higher likelihood of acquiring BPD, but that also is not required. I do agree with you that the song does have similaries to traits of someone with PBD. It's very simplistic, though.
*similarities" ugh.
*similarities" ugh.
Yeah, the example was pretty bad I should of explored the other side. Overbearing vs unavailable both have occurrences. They have the same pathology centered around attachment. A child with an overbearing mother must produce results to feel love and still never gets it. A child with an unavailable mother tries to get his mother attention and love and doesnt. Similarly, abuse of any kind will disrupt proper attachment. All different, but all have the same outcome and underlying pathology.
Yeah, the example was pretty bad I should of explored the other side. Overbearing vs unavailable both have occurrences. They have the same pathology centered around attachment. A child with an overbearing mother must produce results to feel love and still never gets it. A child with an unavailable mother tries to get his mother attention and love and doesnt. Similarly, abuse of any kind will disrupt proper attachment. All different, but all have the same outcome and underlying pathology.
I agree, but I don't agree. Neglect does not make a child feel loved in any way. However, if someone is overbearing, a child will often feel loved (it's not healthy love, but s/he at least believes someone cares enough to be unhappy with her). When one is overbearing, s/he hovers. When one neglects, she's emotionally absent and may eventually disappear from the child's life altogether. And if something causes her to disappear (a divorce; a death; a military tour; etc) than abandonment is the result. And the fear of abandonment is at the crux of BPD. It's also why...
I agree, but I don't agree. Neglect does not make a child feel loved in any way. However, if someone is overbearing, a child will often feel loved (it's not healthy love, but s/he at least believes someone cares enough to be unhappy with her). When one is overbearing, s/he hovers. When one neglects, she's emotionally absent and may eventually disappear from the child's life altogether. And if something causes her to disappear (a divorce; a death; a military tour; etc) than abandonment is the result. And the fear of abandonment is at the crux of BPD. It's also why many with BPD have short-time, multiple lovers (other than the relationships being chaotic). They fear emotional attachment. If the man or woman (the easy lover) leaves them, it's no big deal. They can find other lovers. But if the lover is a true love (someone they actually care for and about...and perhaps even respect), the fear of abandonment is central to the relationship. Fear becomes the issue.
I tend to see fear of abandonment/rejection as more of a symptom of the disorder. At its core is a poor/negative sense of self. They fear rejection because they simply cant tolerate being alone. The depression, feelings of emptiness are overwhelming. They dont view themselves as lovable. This is why they are so self destructive with self harm and suicidal. A suicide attempt can be a good source of attention to help relieve the loneliness. Similarity, cutting produces endorphins and puts them in control. They are feeling something aside from emptiness.
I tend to see fear of abandonment/rejection as more of a symptom of the disorder. At its core is a poor/negative sense of self. They fear rejection because they simply cant tolerate being alone. The depression, feelings of emptiness are overwhelming. They dont view themselves as lovable. This is why they are so self destructive with self harm and suicidal. A suicide attempt can be a good source of attention to help relieve the loneliness. Similarity, cutting produces endorphins and puts them in control. They are feeling something aside from emptiness.
A relationship can initially give them an...
A relationship can initially give them an emotional high because they receive praise and affection which can temporarily give them a positive self image. But in time they will fall back to their doubts. Small things in the relationship will have big consequences to the pwBPD. They will become paranoid and hypervigilant to rejection because at their core they feel unloveable. If the pwBPD ends the relationship they likely have another person in line to fill them positive ego to relieve their pain and doubts. If the other party terminates the relationship you see the self destructive symptoms discussed earlier.
Yup
Yup
You left out the picking fights because they'd rather feel something (anything) rather than nothing. And the reckless behaviors such as overspending; multiple sex partners and risky unprotected sex; reckless driving; binge drinking; etc. There's a great deal to BPD. And there's also treatment, but the brighter then person the less likely s/he'll ever seek it. They learn to live with it, and to do so they learn to manipulate to get desired results. I wonder if the person I know got his desired results from this conversation.
You left out the picking fights because they'd rather feel something (anything) rather than nothing. And the reckless behaviors such as overspending; multiple sex partners and risky unprotected sex; reckless driving; binge drinking; etc. There's a great deal to BPD. And there's also treatment, but the brighter then person the less likely s/he'll ever seek it. They learn to live with it, and to do so they learn to manipulate to get desired results. I wonder if the person I know got his desired results from this conversation.
Just so we're clear, Oats. You started this thread and you kept it going. I just served the food, which you could eat or return to the kitchen. I didn't ask for a tip. Heck, I didn't even cook the meal. I just contributed, and if you don't like my part in this than simply don't return to the joint. As for the artist, I adore him. As for the song, it could be about many things, not just BPD. We all experience self-doubt from time-to-time, and we all make believe in different ways. I do my part by always...
Just so we're clear, Oats. You started this thread and you kept it going. I just served the food, which you could eat or return to the kitchen. I didn't ask for a tip. Heck, I didn't even cook the meal. I just contributed, and if you don't like my part in this than simply don't return to the joint. As for the artist, I adore him. As for the song, it could be about many things, not just BPD. We all experience self-doubt from time-to-time, and we all make believe in different ways. I do my part by always walking into places standing tall; smiling; and being friendly. Sometimes I'm far from confident, but I've learned that by feigning it, eventually (with practice) it takes little effort to get the reaction you want from others.
The reason the song mentions "Mother, are you watching?" is because the song is about Narcissism. The Mother forms the personality traits of her Son and therefore creates the Narcissist. If you read the studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will find the complete meaning of the song. Â :)
The reason the song mentions "Mother, are you watching?" is because the song is about Narcissism. The Mother forms the personality traits of her Son and therefore creates the Narcissist. If you read the studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will find the complete meaning of the song. Â :)
Oats2005 seems to have a clearer and broader understanding of BPD. The symptoms and causes and are all fundemental elements in understanding the disorder. But it goes beyond reading and researching what information is presented to you online or through a book. Individuals who are trained and actually qualified can properly diagnose people who need treatment. The origin is key in knowing how this developed to being with. Because it's not entirely proven either way, it's important to note that a person's environment and or upbringing is just one hypothesized reason for the cause. Brain pathology and genetics...
Oats2005 seems to have a clearer and broader understanding of BPD. The symptoms and causes and are all fundemental elements in understanding the disorder. But it goes beyond reading and researching what information is presented to you online or through a book. Individuals who are trained and actually qualified can properly diagnose people who need treatment. The origin is key in knowing how this developed to being with. Because it's not entirely proven either way, it's important to note that a person's environment and or upbringing is just one hypothesized reason for the cause. Brain pathology and genetics play a crucial role as well. (Hence, a chemical imbalance) A person's seratonin level is largely related to to how their emotions unveil. That's why many individuals suffer from one or more disorders. If you notice, many have the same signs but it's the main aspects that distinquish between them. People with Bpd are manipulative because deep down they desire the need to feel and be loved. I don't think that's a crime. It's one part of the unfortunate affliction of having it. I feel it's irresponsible to not seek treatment because a person who suffers from it never learns to live with it. That would be a condition like diabetes that is manageable. Unless you try and help it, it is never okay and your life will always be an emotional rollercoaster and unstable ultimately.
@sweetcheeks, I am sorry you failed in your research but just as BPD patients, you have black and white thinking. Just because wiki (or wherever your mind or brain originated that thought) states that the causes could be due to neglect and abuse isn't always the case. Please try and gather everything all your ideas rationally before you try and debate or debunk someones opinion. It can most definitely be due and overbearing mother. If you can't understand that, you obviously wasted a year of your life and don't truly understand the disorder or psychology in general.
@sweetcheeks, I am sorry you failed in your research but just as BPD patients, you have black and white thinking. Just because wiki (or wherever your mind or brain originated that thought) states that the causes could be due to neglect and abuse isn't always the case. Please try and gather everything all your ideas rationally before you try and debate or debunk someones opinion. It can most definitely be due and overbearing mother. If you can't understand that, you obviously wasted a year of your life and don't truly understand the disorder or psychology in general.
However, smothering love or unrealistic expectations from a parent can be a form of abuse. But I'm just responsding to your response and not getting too much into specifics.
However, smothering love or unrealistic expectations from a parent can be a form of abuse. But I'm just responsding to your response and not getting too much into specifics.
Lol anyone who says something either is or isn't a certain way is pretty full of themselves and may or may not lean toward tendencies of some or the other that you're discussing in this thread x) I think you all had some valid points, some more than others, but anyway people please put your energy elsewhere geeze. I know I'm 8 years late lol but had to say something if nothing else for other potential readers.
Lol anyone who says something either is or isn't a certain way is pretty full of themselves and may or may not lean toward tendencies of some or the other that you're discussing in this thread x) I think you all had some valid points, some more than others, but anyway people please put your energy elsewhere geeze. I know I'm 8 years late lol but had to say something if nothing else for other potential readers.
@Oats2005 I liked your description of BPD.
@Oats2005 I liked your description of BPD.
I think this is about a person that maybe grew up with a overbearing mother that only cared about achievements. They live their life in a way that they are not happy about, but they are really keen to impress/satisfy the mother, as well as everyone around (That could as well be the father, or both parents, it's just my interpretation of "Mother, are you watching"). They pretend to be what they are not, because they seek acceptance. Sometimes they even fool temselves a bit, that this is what the they really want: a career, a fmily, whatever.
My opinion is that it's a reflection on Gotye's success as an artist or at life in general- in interviews, he's mentioned he doesn't always feel he deserves the praise he's been given, and that most of his "original" ideas come from putting together ideas from artists that have come before him. At the same time, he's also often thankful for the opportunities his success has given him; this may be a part of the "highs and lows" referred to in the song.
Given that Gotye said "a lot of the lyrics in the songs are the different voices in my head sort of having it out internally"), the song is most likely a discussion on the Gotye's thoughts about it, asking himself if he should "put on the show" and keep selling this "act" because people enjoy it. He's reassured and validated by the reaction, but he's worried he can't keep up with expectations. Finally (a bit of a stretch) when he calls out "mother, are you watching?" I believe it's sort of a desperate plea for a higher authority to tell him what he's doing is right.
Having struggled with many of these feelings myself, I understand where Gotye would be coming from; unless you're able to convince yourself you really did deserve something, you can never truly escape that feeling of guilt it brings.
@standros I like your interpretation. It's solid, and some we like feel that God is a woman, or that there is a co-creator for females.
@standros I like your interpretation. It's solid, and some we like feel that God is a woman, or that there is a co-creator for females.
Alright guys, I'm going to give you my opinion of what the song means. It reminds me of my ex girlfriend. There are people out there that have mental problems and disorders of certain kinds, and this song explores an example of an individual like this.
"You're a fraud and you know it But it's too good to throw it all away Anyone would do the same You've got 'em going And you're careful not to show it Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit It's like magic But it's always been a smoke and mirrors game Anyone would do the same"
Basically this is saying this individual (in my opinion, a female or ex g/f) puts on a "Show", being one person, but acting like another, like split personalities. The person is a "fake" or "fraud". They're a fraud. It's a smoke & mirrors game means that this person is putting on a front, working magic to get what they want, they are selfish.
"So now that you've arrived, well, you wonder - What is it that you've done to make the grade? And should you do the same? (Is that too easy?) Are you only trying to please them? Will they see then- You're desperate to deliver Anything that could give you A sense of reassurance When you look in the mirror"
The making the grade part is meant to come off as sarcastic, meaning this person really hasn't accomplished anything. Pleasing people is mentioned in here as well, which is self explanatory. They will do anything, even act out of desperation to make themselves feel better at the end of the day, they are insecure.
"Such highs and lows You put on quite a show All these highs and lows And you're never really sure What you do it for Well do you even want to know? You put on quite a show"
High and lows refers to how inconsistent this person is with their life, whether emotions, relationships or career. This person is unsure about why they do what they do, but at the same time you wonder if they do it on purpose, to put on a show. Ultimately, this person, deep down does not have a purpose for what they do, no excuse for their actions.
"You're a fraud and you know it And every night and day you take the stage And it always entertains You're giving pleasure And that's admirable you tell yourself And so you gladly sell yourself To others Mother Are you watching?"
This is saying that the person puts on a show, like an entertainer, both physically and mentally. Playing mind games with people, while also selling herself or her body to get what she wants, no matter the consequences. "Mother, are you watching?" has stumped me, but my best guess is that he's asking the person's mother if she is watching how crazy and psychotic this person is, the one she raised.
That's my opinion, any comments are welcome.
The reason the song mentions "Mother, are you watching?" is because the song is about Narcissism. The Mother forms the personality traits of her Son and therefore creates the Narcissist. If you read the studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will find the complete meaning of the song. Â :)
The reason the song mentions "Mother, are you watching?" is because the song is about Narcissism. The Mother forms the personality traits of her Son and therefore creates the Narcissist. If you read the studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will find the complete meaning of the song. Â :)
This song is about how the famous are put on a pedestal. It may seem they have it all...But deep inside, they don't feel great.
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This song reminds me of the guy I was with at the time. He was a former heroine addict and current cocaine addict. I didn't know it at the time but gradually realized this as I began to unravel the well crafted wall of lies he built. Drug addicts are truly gifted at lying. He had me defending him when other people called him out on it and he would tell me lies upon lies about everything. This song actually fits the situation so perfectly from my perspective it's creepy. He had issues with his mother which he of course distorted when telling me about it. He made her out to be the bad guy but really she just wouldn't let him come home until he could pass a drug test. He only ever admitted to me once that he was still using then tried to deny it afterwards. I honestly think that sometimes he even thought he was okay. It got the point where it was like he was hanging off a cliff and I was holding his hand, constantly slipping closer to the edge, and I realized that if I let go, he would hit the bottom, and if I held on, he would hit bottom. It came down to whether or not I was going to fall too. I couldn't save us both, and I didn't even do drugs. It was the emotional burden of trying to help someone who isn't ready to be helped.
i'm sure every song has a different meaning to the artist and to everyone who hears it but that's just what this song means to me.
I could be completely off, but my interpretation of this song is about maybe a girl working as a stripper or at a burlesque club.
to me, it's her struggle to justify it to herself as she hides her 'second life' from friends and family. when she takes to the stage she 'gives them pleasure 'And that's admirable, you tell yourself And so you'd gladly sell yourself to others'
@yolandawhi The song is very acidic and full of venom. Don't think she would speak to herself like that.
@yolandawhi The song is very acidic and full of venom. Don't think she would speak to herself like that.