| Gotye – Smoke & Mirrors Lyrics | 13 years ago |
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I tend to see fear of abandonment/rejection as more of a symptom of the disorder. At its core is a poor/negative sense of self. They fear rejection because they simply cant tolerate being alone. The depression, feelings of emptiness are overwhelming. They dont view themselves as lovable. This is why they are so self destructive with self harm and suicidal. A suicide attempt can be a good source of attention to help relieve the loneliness. Similarity, cutting produces endorphins and puts them in control. They are feeling something aside from emptiness. A relationship can initially give them an emotional high because they receive praise and affection which can temporarily give them a positive self image. But in time they will fall back to their doubts. Small things in the relationship will have big consequences to the pwBPD. They will become paranoid and hypervigilant to rejection because at their core they feel unloveable. If the pwBPD ends the relationship they likely have another person in line to fill them positive ego to relieve their pain and doubts. If the other party terminates the relationship you see the self destructive symptoms discussed earlier. |
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| Gotye – Smoke & Mirrors Lyrics | 13 years ago |
| Yeah, the example was pretty bad I should of explored the other side. Overbearing vs unavailable both have occurrences. They have the same pathology centered around attachment. A child with an overbearing mother must produce results to feel love and still never gets it. A child with an unavailable mother tries to get his mother attention and love and doesnt. Similarly, abuse of any kind will disrupt proper attachment. All different, but all have the same outcome and underlying pathology. | |
| Gotye – Smoke & Mirrors Lyrics | 13 years ago |
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This song is a good picture of Borderline Personality Disorder. Poor sense of self you are a people pleaser so you can get a positive projection of self from others that you can see when you look in the mirror. In other words, they dont really know who they are so they put on fraudulent displays. Emotional disregulation, the hallmark of the disorder, is also evident by the "highs and lows." Finally, the origin of BPD, although unknown, most studies point to issues in parental attachment explaining the mother reference. A good example would be an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments. She too likely suffers from the same disorder. |
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