The song lyrics were written by the band Van Halen, as they were asked to write a song for the 1979 movie "Over the Edge" starring Matt Dillon. The movie (and the lyrics, although more obliquely) are about bored, rebellious youth with nothing better to do than get into trouble. If you see the movie, these lyrics will make more sense. It's a great movie if you grew up in the 70s/80s you'll definitely remember some of these characters from your own life. Fun fact, after writing the song, Van Halen decided not to let the movie use it.
You're a fraud and you know it
But it's too good to throw it all away
Anyone would do the same
You've got 'em going
And you're careful not to show it
Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit
It's like magic
But it's always been a smoke and mirrors game
Anyone would do the same
So now that you've arrived well you wonder
What is it that you've done to make the grade
And should you do the same?
(Is that too easy?)
Are you only trying to please them
(Will they see then?)
You're desperate to deliver
Anything that could give you
A sense of reassurance
When you look in the mirror
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
You put on quite a show
(Mother)
Are you watching?
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
You're a fraud and you know it
And every night and day you take the stage
And it always entertains
You're giving pleasure
And that's admirable, you tell yourself
And so you'd gladly sell yourself
To others
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
Yeah you put on quite a show
But it's too good to throw it all away
Anyone would do the same
You've got 'em going
And you're careful not to show it
Sometimes you even fool yourself a bit
It's like magic
But it's always been a smoke and mirrors game
Anyone would do the same
So now that you've arrived well you wonder
What is it that you've done to make the grade
And should you do the same?
(Is that too easy?)
Are you only trying to please them
(Will they see then?)
You're desperate to deliver
Anything that could give you
A sense of reassurance
When you look in the mirror
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
You put on quite a show
(Mother)
Are you watching?
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
You're a fraud and you know it
And every night and day you take the stage
And it always entertains
You're giving pleasure
And that's admirable, you tell yourself
And so you'd gladly sell yourself
To others
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
(Mother)
Are you watching?
Such highs and lows
You put on quite a show
All these highs and lows
And you're never really sure
What you do it for
Well do you even want to know?
Yeah you put on quite a show
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@[Diderik:33655] "Your a holiday!" Was a popular term used in the 50s/60s to compliment someone on their all around. For example, not only are they beautiful, but they are fun and kind too ... just an all around "holiday".
I think your first comment is closer to being accurate. The singer/song writers state "Millions of eyes can see, yet why am i so blind!? When the someone else is me, its unkind its unkind". I believe hes referring to the girl toying with him and using him. He wants something deeper with her, thats why he allows himself to be as a puppet (even though for her fun and games) as long as it makes her happy. But he knows deep down that she doesnt really want to be serious with him and thats what makes him.
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This song was originally written by a guy called Peter Gutteridge. He was one of the founders of the "Dunedin Sound" a musical scene in the south of New Zealand in the early 80s. From there it was covered by "The Clean" one of the early bands of that scene (he had originally been a member of in it's early days, writing a couple of their best early songs). The Dunedin sound, and the Clean became popular on american college radio in the mid to late 80s. I guess Yo La Tengo heard that version.
Great version of a great song,
This song is a good picture of Borderline Personality Disorder. Poor sense of self you are a people pleaser so you can get a positive projection of self from others that you can see when you look in the mirror. In other words, they dont really know who they are so they put on fraudulent displays. Emotional disregulation, the hallmark of the disorder, is also evident by the "highs and lows."
Finally, the origin of BPD, although unknown, most studies point to issues in parental attachment explaining the mother reference. A good example would be an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments. She too likely suffers from the same disorder.
I've spent over a year researching the disorder and not once did the following appear in any text "an overbearing mother who is never satisfied with her child's accomplishments." Sexual abuse at the hands of a mother appeared many times, but it is not a prerequisite for acquiring BPD. Those who have BPD parents (or one parent) may have a higher likelihood of acquiring BPD, but that also is not required. I do agree with you that the song does have similaries to traits of someone with PBD. It's very simplistic, though.
*similarities" ugh.
Yeah, the example was pretty bad I should of explored the other side. Overbearing vs unavailable both have occurrences. They have the same pathology centered around attachment. A child with an overbearing mother must produce results to feel love and still never gets it. A child with an unavailable mother tries to get his mother attention and love and doesnt. Similarly, abuse of any kind will disrupt proper attachment. All different, but all have the same outcome and underlying pathology.
I agree, but I don't agree. Neglect does not make a child feel loved in any way. However, if someone is overbearing, a child will often feel loved (it's not healthy love, but s/he at least believes someone cares enough to be unhappy with her). When one is overbearing, s/he hovers. When one neglects, she's emotionally absent and may eventually disappear from the child's life altogether. And if something causes her to disappear (a divorce; a death; a military tour; etc) than abandonment is the result. And the fear of abandonment is at the crux of BPD. It's also why many with BPD have short-time, multiple lovers (other than the relationships being chaotic). They fear emotional attachment. If the man or woman (the easy lover) leaves them, it's no big deal. They can find other lovers. But if the lover is a true love (someone they actually care for and about...and perhaps even respect), the fear of abandonment is central to the relationship. Fear becomes the issue.
I tend to see fear of abandonment/rejection as more of a symptom of the disorder. At its core is a poor/negative sense of self. They fear rejection because they simply cant tolerate being alone. The depression, feelings of emptiness are overwhelming. They dont view themselves as lovable. This is why they are so self destructive with self harm and suicidal. A suicide attempt can be a good source of attention to help relieve the loneliness. Similarity, cutting produces endorphins and puts them in control. They are feeling something aside from emptiness. <br /> <br /> A relationship can initially give them an emotional high because they receive praise and affection which can temporarily give them a positive self image. But in time they will fall back to their doubts. Small things in the relationship will have big consequences to the pwBPD. They will become paranoid and hypervigilant to rejection because at their core they feel unloveable. If the pwBPD ends the relationship they likely have another person in line to fill them positive ego to relieve their pain and doubts. If the other party terminates the relationship you see the self destructive symptoms discussed earlier.
Yup
You left out the picking fights because they'd rather feel something (anything) rather than nothing. And the reckless behaviors such as overspending; multiple sex partners and risky unprotected sex; reckless driving; binge drinking; etc. There's a great deal to BPD. And there's also treatment, but the brighter then person the less likely s/he'll ever seek it. They learn to live with it, and to do so they learn to manipulate to get desired results. I wonder if the person I know got his desired results from this conversation.
Just so we're clear, Oats. You started this thread and you kept it going. I just served the food, which you could eat or return to the kitchen. I didn't ask for a tip. Heck, I didn't even cook the meal. I just contributed, and if you don't like my part in this than simply don't return to the joint. As for the artist, I adore him. As for the song, it could be about many things, not just BPD. We all experience self-doubt from time-to-time, and we all make believe in different ways. I do my part by always walking into places standing tall; smiling; and being friendly. Sometimes I'm far from confident, but I've learned that by feigning it, eventually (with practice) it takes little effort to get the reaction you want from others.
The reason the song mentions "Mother, are you watching?" is because the song is about Narcissism. The Mother forms the personality traits of her Son and therefore creates the Narcissist. If you read the studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will find the complete meaning of the song. Â :)
Oats2005 seems to have a clearer and broader understanding of BPD. The symptoms and causes and are all fundemental elements in understanding the disorder. But it goes beyond reading and researching what information is presented to you online or through a book. Individuals who are trained and actually qualified can properly diagnose people who need treatment. The origin is key in knowing how this developed to being with. Because it's not entirely proven either way, it's important to note that a person's environment and or upbringing is just one hypothesized reason for the cause. Brain pathology and genetics play a crucial role as well. (Hence, a chemical imbalance) A person's seratonin level is largely related to to how their emotions unveil. That's why many individuals suffer from one or more disorders. If you notice, many have the same signs but it's the main aspects that distinquish between them. People with Bpd are manipulative because deep down they desire the need to feel and be loved. I don't think that's a crime. It's one part of the unfortunate affliction of having it. I feel it's irresponsible to not seek treatment because a person who suffers from it never learns to live with it. That would be a condition like diabetes that is manageable. Unless you try and help it, it is never okay and your life will always be an emotional rollercoaster and unstable ultimately.
@sweetcheeks, I am sorry you failed in your research but just as BPD patients, you have black and white thinking. Just because wiki (or wherever your mind or brain originated that thought) states that the causes could be due to neglect and abuse isn't always the case. Please try and gather everything all your ideas rationally before you try and debate or debunk someones opinion. It can most definitely be due and overbearing mother. If you can't understand that, you obviously wasted a year of your life and don't truly understand the disorder or psychology in general.
However, smothering love or unrealistic expectations from a parent can be a form of abuse. But I'm just responsding to your response and not getting too much into specifics.
Lol anyone who says something either is or isn't a certain way is pretty full of themselves and may or may not lean toward tendencies of some or the other that you're discussing in this thread x) I think you all had some valid points, some more than others, but anyway people please put your energy elsewhere geeze. I know I'm 8 years late lol but had to say something if nothing else for other potential readers.
@Oats2005<br /> I liked your description of BPD.