The Woman In You

I came back home with head swimming with issues about a girl and the tune to this song miraculously popped in my head. I brought my attention to the song and listened to the lyrics for the first time with intention and with great clarity. It's amazing what a personal experience can do to a song for you.

He is not sure whether this girl is the sweet angel she appears to be. The girl is not a one night stand, it is a girl he feels deeply for and wants her to be true to him. But he feels that she is promiscuous. Is she really a sweetheart? Or does she just know how to act sweet and play on her innocent looks. The woman in you refers to the fact that woman want to be romanced, and that woman fantize about a perfect man who will be a 'man' for her. She can't help to do it, its in her nature to be attracted to certain things and to have sex with someone who switches on all the right emotional responses for her. And THAT is the worry he has for this woman. "You're so innocent I'll take the blame" Here he is being facecetious. Saying that its his fault if she is with other men because he is not always the perfect man m that she is atracted to and excited by. He says he'll take the blame because he believes that its only in a womans nature to act how she does. When he says "Sometimes I wonder if I know her or if I really need to ask" *I believe he is saying that sometimes he wonders "would this girl really cheat on me?" and then sometimes he wonders "ofcourse she would you can't hold this woman back, there's no question about it.

I don't have much of an opinion on the last verse. I guess because nothing from itreally connects with the experience that I am having but I would love to hear a good interperetation of it.

Great song, really reminds me of Led Zeppelin when the groove kicks anyone. Anyone else feel that?

the keyboard rips in this song. By far my favorite song by the great ben harper.

This song helped me to finally ask my girlfriend out. I am not outgoing at all so I've never had a girlfriend before. My mom divorced my dad when I was in 6th grade causing me to not be able to create relationships with females. Unlike other girls in my school, church, etc. she was the only one that I never stopped liking. The song means (at least to me) that what really worried me about this girl is the fact that she is a woman. I was so afraid of being rejected again, that it took me forever to ask her out. All is well now with us, I'm deeply in love and she is as well. I don't plan on letting her go. I have this song to thank for her.

I was quite puzzled by the meaning of this song so did a search and this site came up. Just joined. It's hard to actually figure out the meaning, because "the woman in you" and "the worry in me" seems to refer to a view he has that women in general are plagued by worry and anxiety. No idea if this is correct but those are my thoughts.

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why hasnt anyone written any comments for this? its a kick ass song, i think this song is written about me!

I'm not to sure what this song is about, but i love the guitar riff in it.

i think that the "i" character, ben or whoever ben's writing as, doesn't know how to feel about this girl. like she seems all innocent, and he can't decide if the bad experiences he's had with her are the result of his own corruption or if she really is duplicitous. the element of this song i always identify with most is the chorus, because it just reminds me of those relationships where all you do is worry about whats going to go wrong next. i love this song.

this is my favorite ben harper song ever, i love how it starts out so slow and then he just starts singing. I love ben harper cuz he has an amazing voice but doesn't feel the need to make it sound pretty, he sings from his soul and i can feel it through his music

Only six comments!? shocking! This is a great song. It displays the lyrical talent as well as musical talent that Ben Harper possesses. As if any guy hasn't felt this way about a girl. But how many composers can actually convey the feeling successfully? not many

I wrote that comment only two months ago, and now I actually know what this song is about lol. Funny how I've known this song for a few years, and only now after personal experience do I understand it. Ben in this song is saying how he's afraid of losing his relationship with this girl, and he finds nothing to blame his fear on except for the fact that shes a woman. He doesn't understand why the girl acts like she does sometimes (for whatever reason it may be) and he can't tell her that shes the one to blame so he'll "take all the blame". And he hates to remember how the relationship used to be because if its a memory, its past, and it will never be like it was ever again. I really like that comment by jaywarrietto, I'm happy for you mate. I'm in a similar situation to what you were in, except I've just been told that this girl who my heart has been set on for ages doesn't like me in the way that I like her...its pretty crushing, I mean I've been a great friend to her for so long, but I wont wallow here. All I'm saying is that is what this song is to me. I'm afraid that I'm going to lose this girl to some guy who might be better looking or more outgoing. The woman in her is what is worrying me heh.