Oh no, it's not me
I just forgot to tell you
Didn't mean, it seems obscene
We just lost track along the way

I'm coming to terms
I'm starting to learn
This ain't all it's cracked up to be
Cause I'm using you, you're using me
It's never as easy as we believe

Cause this hurts, I can't leave
I understand, but can you
I'm just scared, you're lonely
Everyone knows you're better than me

I'm coming to terms
I'm starting to learn
This ain't all it's cracked up to be
Cause I'm using you, you're using me
It's never as easy as we believe

Is this what you need?
Am I what you need?

I'm coming to terms
I'm starting to learn
This ain't all it's cracked up to be
Cause I'm using you, you're using me
It's never as easy as we believe

Na na na na...


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Coming to Terms Lyrics as written by Tobias Erik Karlsson Chad Wolfinbarger

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    Love this song

    heard it on one tree hill season 6 promo

    Nikki--xoxoon August 06, 2008   Link
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    GREAT SONG!! LOVE THIS BAND!

    CabforCutieon August 20, 2008   Link
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    "this ain't its all cracked up to be cause i'm using you, you're using me" possibly friends with benefits

    lyricalrockstaron March 12, 2009   Link
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    the lyrics are very simple but there's something special about this song that gets me everytime i listen to it. it makes me happy in a strange way. great song.

    KONK22on March 26, 2009   Link
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    hmph only 4 comments? carolina liar is amazing it seems like all their songs speak to me in some way. . . still trying to figure out what this song means :/

    BECKERZ13on May 08, 2009   Link
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    I heard this on the OTH S6 promo. So good - when they are all like "hello?" and he's like do you wanna get married tonoght. So good. x

    Karishmaxon May 16, 2009   Link
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    I think I agree with lyricalrockstar-- This definitely sounds like a friends with benefits relationship causing a mental dilemma. The singer is realizing the relationship isn't healthy anymore and not as "easy as [they] believed"

    ccladybug17on July 16, 2009   Link
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    I'd say this is about two people who aren't meant to be together, but they can't leave each other because they don't want to be alone.

    Such a good song though.

    hayyylayyyon October 24, 2009   Link
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    i telate to this song alot..... "i'm coming to terms, i'm starting to learn" im trying my hardest to try to quit and talk about ,y problems and im realizing just how bad that it was......... "this aint all its cracked up to be"it use to make me feel really good but now iot just hurts and it hurts my friends........ "Oh no, its not me I just forgot to tell you" i just recently told my closest froend and my boyfriend that i cut myself..... "Cause this hurts, I cant leave" i cut myself really bad but i just couldnt quit no matter how hard i would try......... "i'm just scared" i would try to refuse trying to find another way to deal with my problems but now im trying mu hardest........

    I really love this song, and i always listen to it when i start to feel lyk im going to break down and cut mtself and it gives me the strength to keeep trying and to not give up..........

    eMoFrEaK247on March 05, 2010   Link

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