Your Arms Feel Like Home

Well John and sleepless, 3 is company! Are we doing the right thing though?? I agree with John these lyrics describe my situation as well. I've been married for 21 years, my youngest is 12 and the oldest is 17, Im desperately trying to hang in there for another 6 years, its really getting tough. The home is not violent, it is structured and family oriented, however the 4 kids & myself walk on eggshells. Never a kind word to say to any of us. I have been unhappy for YEARS over half of my...

Well John and sleepless, 3 is company! Are we doing the right thing though?? I agree with John these lyrics describe my situation as well. I've been married for 21 years, my youngest is 12 and the oldest is 17, Im desperately trying to hang in there for another 6 years, its really getting tough. The home is not violent, it is structured and family oriented, however the 4 kids & myself walk on eggshells. Never a kind word to say to any of us. I have been unhappy for YEARS over half of my marriage, 2 years ago someone took me by surprise as well = another relationship began. I agree with John again, it may not be right but it is my only source of joy and positive reenforcement. Its a huge sacrafice for both of us, question is would the kids be better served witnessing one of their parents treated kindly, lovingly, having fun, etc. ?? Is 18 really the right age?

Wow! since both replies come from fellow cheaters. I will reply as the one that has been cheated on. @ john, you don't want a divorce because of religious reasons..isn't adultery worse. There's nothing worse than having the person who thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with you, love someone else. My husband of 12 yrs left me and @ the time our 15 month old daughter and 4 year old son. I had been with him for 15 yrs and in that time took care of him after a catastrophic car accident. He left...

Wow! since both replies come from fellow cheaters. I will reply as the one that has been cheated on. @ john, you don't want a divorce because of religious reasons..isn't adultery worse. There's nothing worse than having the person who thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with you, love someone else. My husband of 12 yrs left me and @ the time our 15 month old daughter and 4 year old son. I had been with him for 15 yrs and in that time took care of him after a catastrophic car accident. He left me for someone he thought was the love of his life. Going to start a brand new life with her, but guess what there's a big difference when it's not a tryst here and there. When you spend a lot of time with a person they are different. There's something exciting about an affair, something secret, almost like your teenagers again. That wears off pretty quickly once the reality sets in. Maybe you are meant to be with these " other" people. But there is a reason on why you married your spouses..when you took the vow 'till death do you part..what changed. Everyone goes through rough patches and sometimes people aren't who they seem. Just a word from someone that lived it and to me this song represents someone that comes along after you've been cheated on " life ain't the fairytale we both thought it would be" When it's so hard to trust after being betrayed by the love of your life. I feel this for the man that made me see not everyone is liars and cheaters. He is my best friend and his arms feel like home. I don't judge..only God can do that, but seriously my husband threw away our family for something that did not last..once the high wore off they saw each others true colours. I did what was best for my children and my sanity. I would not let him come back. I loved saying I told you so :) Wish you all the best of luck and just some food for thought from the other side.