With starving appetites for arguments
you remind me of a secret
I was never supposed to tell

The time is up, the verdicts in: Everybody's right, everbody wins
The time is up, the verdicts in: Everybody's right, everybody wins

Did you know you were a saint?
What a shameful fall from grace.
But I'll catch you, I'll catch you
Everybody's waiting for that something they can hold onto
While tripping over our own words to self-dug graves for an excuse to fall
Because every failure's just as sweet as the last

The time is up, the verdicts in: Everybody's right, everybody wins
The tims is up, the verdicts in: Everybody's right, everybody wins

Did you know you were a saint?
What a shameful fall from grace.
But I'll catch you, I'll catch you
Everybody's waiting for that something they can hold onto
While tripping over our own words to self-dug graves for an excuse to fall
Because every failure's just as sweet as the last

The sun is set. The summer waiting, waiting
The sun is set. The summer waiting
Did you know we wear the same, the same pretentious name
Let's trade for a while, I'm so curious

Everybody's waiting for that something they can hold onto
I'm tripping over our own words for an excuse to fall
Because every failure's just as sweet as the last
Every failures just as sweet as the last



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Against My Better Judgement song meanings
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    this song is about telling someone you will never live up to an impossible standard. the secret he was never supposed to tell is that there is no perfect, right or wrong, everybody's right, everybody wins. everyone is perfect just the way they are, but we have a impossible standard we try to live by, and when we remind ourselves that we do not live by this impossible standard we fall from grace in our head, which leads to living in sorrow. the chorus tells us, everybody's waiting for that something they can hold onto while tripping over our own words to self dug graves for an excuse to fall, cause every failure's just as sweet as the last. everyone is trying to reach their destination, but the destination is in the journey. when you reach your "destination" you realize that the journey itself was the destination, which also comes back to what i was saying before about reaching this unrealistic impossible destination. the self dug grave is the one you make for yourself when you have the standard in your head, and the excuse to fall (into the grave) is being unable to live up to the standard.

    someoneelsesarmson November 05, 2005   Link
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    i like this song, i like this band...they are much better off without chris..

    likeicare05on June 20, 2003   Link
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    with or without chris, they are a fabulous band that plays very beautiful and admirable music.

    LoveIsARoseon June 27, 2003   Link
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    i can't figure this song out. stop talking about how great fsf is and give me an analysis! help.

    Rachey3on June 21, 2004   Link
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    I have a correction. The part where you have that it says "The sun is set, summer is waiting ..." actually says:

    As the dream comes, when there are many cares So the speech of a fool, when there are many words The sun it misses summer in winter, winter, winter

    Yeagerchickyon July 01, 2004   Link
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    much much MUCH better off without chris.... too bad jason gleason left.

    Die80sdieon November 14, 2004   Link
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    without a doubt this is a song about Christian morals and such. where it says in the background "as a dream comes when there are many cares, so the speech of a fool when there are many words." that is a direct quote from the book of Ecclesiastes 5:3. This entire chapter talks of how important it is to keep our mouths tamed and be slow to speak. As it later says "Tripping over our own words to self-dug graves" pretty self-explanatory. As the song begins about starving appitites for argumetns and reminding him of a secret. It's in reference to everyone ready to argue and quick to speak these days and God reminding him of a secret he was never suppose to tell. Because he is so important so life changing, however he does not truly mean keeping him a secret. As Christians our main goal is to spread the word of the Lord.

    It's strange i was reading this chapter today and came across this verse and it was erely familiar, and then it dawned on me it was a FSF quote. Sweet sweet stuff.

    New Year's Projecton January 04, 2005   Link
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    I think I somewhat agree with NYP but this song means something a little different to me. First off this is my very favorite FSF song, by a long shot.

    We live in a society today where Christianity and Christian living is scrutinized to no end. Non Christians and those apathetic to religion are waiting for Christians to do something wrong to prove their point hence "With starving appetites for arguments". As NYP mentioned above no christian or anyone else is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes yet Christians are judged by society through how they carry themselves/act. "Did you know you were a saint? What a shameful fall from grace."

    Its your Christian brother/sister's duty as it is your's to not only hold you accountable but to pick you up and dust you off after you've screwed up... "But I'll catch you, I'll catch you"...

    Now here's the meat of the song:

    "Everybody's waiting for that something they can hold on to While tripping over our own words to self-dug graves for an excuse to fall Because every failure's just as sweet as the last"

    Each and all of us no matter what we believe in are seeking something out of life. On this path those in disagreement with Christianity use examples they've seen in Christian friends stumbling to argue the realness and validity of the Christian faith. Non-Christians use these examples (...tripping over OUR own words...) to in a sense justify why they think Christianity is pointless and are thus digging their own graves.

    As Christians, we must be careful in the way we carry ourselves because we're influencing people's decisions without even knowing them. Its also a message to non-Christians challenging them not to base their opinions off of imperfect Christians because Christians as imperfect humans will fail you everytime.

    If you want to make an argument against Christianity strike it at the heart through Christ's teachings and not take the easy way out by observing imperfect followers.

    To Christians its saying don't give non-Christians the chance to do this. Strive to be Christ like.

    Everyone's looking for excuse to take the easy way out. They're all going against their better judgement.

    pnewon April 01, 2005   Link
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    fsf is good, but this song has a horrible message.

    masterdebateron August 16, 2005   Link
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    care to elaborate?

    pnewon September 10, 2005   Link

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