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    Song Meaning

    Ultimate reconciliation. We hurt each other, we love each other, life goes on. Hate dies, Loves lives forever. Please forgive me for your sake, not mine; as I have forgiven you for my sake not yours. (^_^) Even if, even if you don't love me aaannyyymmoorree.

    PhoenixSouvenir75on October 20, 2011   Link
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    I heard this song on the radio about 23 years ago. After it finished, the radio announcer said, "That's Don Henley with a song about letting go of anger after suffering a broken heart."

    jerambamon November 21, 2012   Link
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    The person who said this is about divorce is right on. He's singing about life being too short to hold grudges after a messy and bitter divorce. He can't seem to pinpoint exactly what happened to where the relationship went wrong, all he knows is that it's about getting over the pain and forgiving and moving on, no matter how bad.

    Pizasteron June 16, 2009   Link
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    Believe it or not, this song actually has a happy ending. It was written by a guy named Rodney Eubanks. I may have the story a little wrong, but here's the gist of it: Rodney and his high school sweetheart went their separate ways and she married someone else. He wrote this song for her, then went on with his life. Years later, after separate divorces, they are now married to each other.

    gilby_jron April 01, 2006   Link
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    My interpretation of the song is that it is about divorce When a couple who have been married for a long time decide to break the relationship, it breaks your heart and that's what Don Henley talks about in this song. And then, after the split up has occured, they start to find someone else and that can either make someone feel a bit sad or make them happy for the person. And eventually, it's not about all of that, it's eventually down to forgiveness for all the bad times they went through and being happy that they aren't there anymore.

    Dan101on March 01, 2007   Link
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    i think this song is about a guy who has sat around waiting for his ex to get back together with him, but with little success. in the end, after an "old true friend" tells him his ex has moved on with her life and is seeing another man he realises its time he does the same.

    i do like the idea of the song representing the breakup of the eagles though, aslthough it is most probably an after thought of the dons and not the original intention.

    leedslukelad1on April 17, 2007   Link
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    this songs is about don henley and his wife . . . on a dvd i have before he sings the song he says "this song took me 42 years to write but 4 mins to sing" 42 being the number of years that hes been with his wife .. this song is about him forgetting about his wife because he got caught up with the eagles and his career that he didnt think of her anymore and just forgot her .. . he speaks of how he wants her to forgive him even tho he knows that she doesnt love him anymore.. his wife found somebody new so she left him . . ..

    spoton February 09, 2008   Link
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    has nebodi noticed that most of the songs that have comments r from the Actual Miles cd ?

    hippie-chickon July 03, 2004   Link
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    Like most art, the artist leaves it to interpretation of the listener, melding together with what they bring to it. Likewise, the artist may be inspired by more than one thing in writing it...

    I think this is a synthesis of many things in Don's life (and the co-writers as well), certainly it has part of its genesis in the breakup of the Eagles, but also more than likely personal relationships as well, which we can all relate too.

    Katherine mentioned (in the other thread) about Don's intro to this on the 'Hell Freezes Over' DVD, that this song "took 42 years to write, and about 4 minutes to sing. So..." - and he leaves it at that... but if you saw his face when he said it, you know it means so much to him that mere words cannot do it justice. You have to hear it, you have to sing it, you have to live it.

    One other thing you might consider, is that this sing is really a conversation with a friend, which is continued in 'My Thanksgiving': "A lot of things have happened since the last time we spoke Some of them are funny, some of em ain't no joke And I trust you will forgive me if I lay it on the line I always thought you were a friend of mine"

    ...and ends with:

    "For every moment of joy every hour of fear For every winding road that brought me here For every breath, for every day of living This is my thanksgiving

    For everyone who helped me start And for everything that broke my heart For every breath, for every day of living This is my thanksgiving"

    Isn't that the ultimate expression of forgiveness?

    These two songs make a beautiful pair of bookends to the same thought, about personal spiritual growth.

    RealityByteson January 04, 2008   Link
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    I have to agree after doing research I think that Justintime has a great point on the credits on Don Henley's song! Why is Eubanks not mentioned? What makes Gilby jr so right? I am curious as to what other work Eubanks has done and what other singers has he written for? Great song though, but is just a basic guy loses girl, etc. etc.

    lyricman01on January 25, 2008   Link

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