Digging a hole
And the walls are caving in,
Behind me,
Airs getting thin,
But I'm trying,
I'm breathing in,
Come find me,

It hasn't felt like this before,
It hasn't felt like home for you,

And I know it's easy to say,
But it's harder to feel this way,
I miss you more than I should,
Than I thought I could,
Can't get my mind off of you,

I know you're scared,
That I'll soon be over it,
That's part of it all,
Part of the beauty,
Of falling in love with you,
Is the fear that you won't fall,

It hasn't felt like this before,
It hasn't felt like home for you,

And I know it's easy to say,
But it's harder to feel this way,
I miss you more than I should,
Than I thought I could,
Can't get my mind off of you,

And I hate the phone,
But I wish you'd call,
Thought being alone,
Was better than,
Was better than,

And I know it's easy to say,
But it's harder to feel this way,
I miss you more than I should,
Than I thought I could,
Can't get my mind off of you,

Can't get my mind off of you,

And I know it's easy to say,
But it's harder to feel this way,
I miss you more than I should,
Than I thought I could,
Can't get my mind off of you,

And I know it's easy to say,
But it's harder to feel this way



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  • +3
    General CommentGreat song.

    I don't think it's a break-up song. I think it's about a guy who is feeling a bit overwhelmed by his first experience with "real love".

    I think there's a mistake in the lyrics above. I think it should read:
    It hasn't felt like this before,
    It hasn't felt like home before you

    "felt like home" means his heart is completely "at home" & comfortable with her, and it hasn't been that way when he was "in love" before. That's why he's feeling so nervous and uptight.

    He feels like he's digging himself into a hole and the walls are about to cave in on him.

    He's worried that maybe she won't feel the same way about him.

    She seems to think that it's just a passing thing for him.
    "I know you're scared,
    That I'll soon be over it"

    But he says
    "Part of the beauty,
    Of falling in love with you,
    Is the fear that you won't fall"

    He has really put himself "out there", and realizes that she might reject his love, but the nervous uncertainty is actually a big part of his excitement. The risk is an added thrill for him.

    I know, I've been there. It's scary, but exhilerating to know that you've put your nickel down, and you might get rejected.
    And you know it's worth the risk, when you are certain that she's the one for you. That happened to me 13 years ago, and I'm still in love with her today - like a school kid.
    CoachB110on December 29, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General Commentthis song is so good, sweet and honest
    youngandnloveon April 13, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General Commentthis is perfect.
    honestly, it's so real. love isn't perfect. sometimes you wonder whether or not the other person is still in it with you, and sometimes, hey, they're not. but if it's really love, they'll come back. staying in love is one of the toughest things! "the fear you won't fall" - exactly. i know what it feels like. but when it's strong enough, you realize why you're together, and that's the beauty of it.
    youarethemusicon April 15, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI love this song - it's very well written. It resonates with me right now because of where I'm at, relationship wise. I'm not "falling in love" but have been in love for some time and things are in limbo right now, but anyway... I think the 2 phrases that stand out to me the most are:

    "Part of the beauty of falling in love with you is the fear that you won't fall." Because this is so true, whether we enjoy it or not.

    and

    "I hate the phone but I wish you'd call"... I mean, who hasn't felt like that? It's such a paradox - hating something, but wanting it anyway because it would mean so much.
    getlostbeccaon April 12, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI heard this song on an episode of Grey's Anatomy and it was so beautiful the way it was used.

    My favorite part is the phone.
    it_girl_ragDOLLon April 14, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentJoshua has such a soulful voice, very reminiscent of Damien Rice.
    This part is about the loneliness he is feeling without the person in question.
    I think it is about breaking up or having a fight with someone and finally realising how much the person means to you during the person’s absence.
    It is easy to say you miss someone but, it is very hard to cope with that feeling.
    webb girlon April 17, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is my favorite joshua radin song. I love its simplicity, honesty... anyone whose been in love can easily relate to this song... missing someone you just last seen a few minustes ago (missing you more than i thought i could or should)... tolerating, even almost liking something you hated before, just because of this special person (the phone in this case)...
    rjson July 30, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentTHis song is about being in love with a friend and dealing with the issue of telling your best friend you're in love with them. He misses her more than he should because he sees her as a possible love. "It hasn't felt like home before" because all the girls he's dated before have never been his best friend.

    So he's dealing with the turmoil of should he tell her or not "part of the beauty of falling in love with you is the fear you won't fall" The line "I know you're scared that I'll soon be over it" to me says that he's trying to reassure her that this isn't some fluke feeling, that he really does love her that that he's not just going to change his mind in the middle of it all.

    "I hate the phone, but I wish you'd call" he obviously wants to talk to her. I don't know the reason he can't talk to her... maybe they've talked about being a couple and he was unable to tell her that it wasn't some fluke relationship.. and he thought that being a lone was better than feeling this way. Maybe he screwed things up.

    Anyways... boy and girl are best friends, he likes her, she's scared, they talk about it and either decided to not go through with it or that he is unable to completely commit to her... she leaves, he decides she's all that he wants and now he can't reach her.


    that's what I get.
    RayneQueenon January 17, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song means so much to me. My ex-boyfriend kind of dedicated this song to me. It fit perfectly, because I was scared that it was just something he was feeling for me at one moment and he would find someone else soon.

    I was very reserved and I didn't show him that I could love him, and I didn't show him that I really did care as much as he showed me. I regret that so much, because he is so amazing and wonderful.

    I think Joshua Radin puts a first love, or a first serious love into words just right. He knows how I felt, and many other people, too.
    omuseoon January 28, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Comment"I miss you more than I should, Than I thought I could, Can't get my mind off of you." Wow...these words just get me. They seem to sum up what I feel right now. I know that I shouldn't care this much. Yet, my mind won't wander any other direction than him. I'm not sure if it's right or not, but it feels that way... if only he thought so too....
    marie11885on January 28, 2007   Link

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