Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
I wanna let you know
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
Now it's obvious you need a friend to come hold you down
Be that one to share your everything when no one's around
Baby, come tell me your secrets, and tell me all your dreams
'Cause I can see you need someone to trust
You can trust in me
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world (whoa-oh)
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
It's been so long I've had this feeling
That we could be
Everything you've ever wanted, then you
Your fantasy
I won't push too hard or break your heart
'Cause my love's sincere
I'm not like any other girl you know
So let me erase your fears
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl (ooh)
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl (make me your girl, baby)
If it's loving that you need (baby)
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world (I got what you need, so come share my world)
If it's loving that you want (oh)
Come and take a walk with me, walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby (whoa-oh)
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world (oh-oh)
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, walk with me (come and take a walk with me)
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
I want to let you know
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you
What I think about you, boy
I got what you need so come share my world, oh, no
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
Now it's obvious you need a friend to come hold you down
Be that one to share your everything when no one's around
Baby, come tell me your secrets, and tell me all your dreams
'Cause I can see you need someone to trust
You can trust in me
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world (whoa-oh)
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
It's been so long I've had this feeling
That we could be
Everything you've ever wanted, then you
Your fantasy
I won't push too hard or break your heart
'Cause my love's sincere
I'm not like any other girl you know
So let me erase your fears
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl (ooh)
If it's loving that you need
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, a walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl (make me your girl, baby)
If it's loving that you need (baby)
Then baby, come and share my world, share my world (I got what you need, so come share my world)
If it's loving that you want (oh)
Come and take a walk with me, walk with me
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby (whoa-oh)
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
So just call me whenever you're lonely
Di di di di di da di di di da di dey
I'll be your friend, I can be your homie
If it's loving that you want
Then you should make me your girl, your girl
If it's loving that you need
Baby come and share my world, share my world (oh-oh)
If it's loving that you want
Come and take a walk with me, walk with me (come and take a walk with me)
'Cause everything that you need, I got it right here baby, baby
I want to let you know
That you don't have to go
Don't wonder no more
What I think about you
What I think about you, boy
I got what you need so come share my world, oh, no
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If It's Lovin' That You Want Lyrics as written by Scott Monroe Sterling Lawrence Krsone Parker
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