The Weakness In Me

I totally agree that this is an excellent song and it is from an excellent movie (10 things I hate about you)

This song means.... oh how silly! If you've lived it..you don't have to recant to others what it 'means.' Its life..its power..its stark reality... and even though I've heard Melissa Etheridge also sing it, I can't imagine anyone else but Joan doing it (except maybe Tracy Chapman). Hey Folks..life is not perfect...but very real! ...........it happens.

For the past 3ish years I have gone through a life-altering experience. I have been in love with a man I am not married to. This song has been my life recently.

He and I became friends immediately. I definitely felt an intense connection with him, I hadn't experienced before. Whether you call it great fondness, true love, major lust- it was real. Every relationship has a unique chemistry and I think ours was pretty special. Every time we were together it was powerful. We saw each other quite a bit, but never enough. I loved spending time with him. Our time together always seemed to go by much too quickly.

When he decided to dissolve our friendship I was devastated, but I also understood. He and I had gotten too close to each other and we were both already married to great people. I knew I needed to carry on with my life. Although I missed him a lot (he had become a very good friend to me), I did my best to "move on" and give him his space. I had no hard feelings because, as difficult as it was, I knew that our friendship could potentially turn into something dangerous at any point.

I'd like to mention that I have been with the same man for 15 years. I have never before acted in a way that could be considered "unfaithful". Obviously, that is no longer the case. This friend threw me over the edge into completely unfamiliar territory.

I took responsibility for my feelings. My husband not only knew from my telling him, but from the look on my face every time I saw this man in my husband's presence. I also apologized to the man that I loved and to his wife for my "crossing the line".

I am not going to get into the traumatic games that transpired, but believe me they were severe. I will never be the kind of person who cries "victim" because it does take two in a relationship. I absolutely accept responsibility for my part in the madness. But, I will forever wonder why a simple face to face conversation could not have sufficed. What he and I have been through is not easy, by any means.

So, if I came into his life to show him that he must value the life he has, then my role was not insignificant. If we are all supposed to live our lives by "God's plan" and do what is considered "right" in his eyes, there is comfort and beauty in that, yet I won't allow that to belittle the love I experienced. It was IMPORTANT to go through that relationship. To realize that you have a wonderful life JUST THE WAY IT IS.

I refuse to believe that a very powerful, life-changing (or not, in this case) experience meant nothing. It can go nowhere, yes, I understand that. But, that is ENTIRELY different than believing it was meaningless. I choose to believe this love I experienced and the trauma of the lessons learned were all in fact, part of God's plan.

Joan Armatrading is a lesbian...so it's probably about two different chics Ashleigh....except that she usually writes about other people's lives and not her own. Anyway, "posers"....this song was written probably before you could walk. It was released in 1983 on her album "Track Record". On vinyl

its about being in a long term relationship, but being tempted by a new boy and feeling guilty because you love the one you're with. shes asking him questions

"I'm not the sort of person who falls in and quickly out of love But to you, I give my affection, right from the start. I have a lover who loves me - how could I break such a heart? Yet still you get my attention." meaning i'm not normally the sort of person who 'window shops' other guys, but to this one i was drawn to from the start. i'm feeling guilty because i;m in a relationship, but still i cant take my mind off you.

"Why do you come here, when you know I've got troubles enough? Why do you call me, when you know I can't answer the phone? And make me lie when I don't want to, And make someone else some kind of an unknowing fool? Make me stay when I should not? If you're so strong then resolve the weakness in me. Why do you come here, and pretend to be just passing by? I need to see you - I need to hold you - tightly." shes trying to blanme him for making her like hjim back bbecause he calls her etc etc, but the lat line shows this is all her trying to deny it to herself because deep down she needs to have him.

"Feeling guilty, And I'm worried, and I'm waking from a tormented sleep 'Cause this old love, you know it has me bound, But this new love cuts so deep. If I choose now, I'm bound to lose out; One of you is gonna have to fall... I need you, baby." meaning its worrying her and she can;t get it off her mind, she has been in love with her boyfriend for a long time, but this new lust is powerful. she knows she cannot go on like this, and has to choose between them, and the final line i think shows how something new and dangerous andexciting can be so tempting, rather than something old and reliable.

basically, its a take of love and lust, and how despite being in love and loved back, sometimes lust can be incredibly over powering, its something to do with the new ex itement of it. (i read somehwere its just a natural thing, its the way we are made!) this song means a lot to me because i was sent it by a boy.... and i was the new thing. a year on i still love him even though we knew nothing could happen.

hate to hark, but theres also a coupla lyrics wrong here. 'if you're so strong, then resolve the weakness in me' is actually, 'are you so strong, or is all the weakness in me' and the 'and i need you baby', is actually, 'and i need you, and you' (reference to not being able to choose between the two). makes it much easier to understand, and much deeper, with the right lyrics.

I like the Melissa Etheridge cover better. But the meaning is the same anyway.

I feel it is about someone who is in love with two people. Two lesbians sang this song, so I always imagine it is about someone loving two women and having a difficult time choosing between them. It fits me very well, at least it used to.

I was in love with my wife but also very much in love with a long term friend.

I met this other woman when she was separated. I was single but she wanted to work on her marriage. She told me to move on, so I did. I met someone and we were together for 5 months before this other woman moved out of state and had a baby. They had not met each other yet. When this other woman came back to town to visit me and let me meet her daughter, I took my soon to be wife with me as well as my 16 yo daughter. Once we left, my daughter stuck her head between the seats of my van and asked my soon to be wife, "did you see that?" My soon to be wife said "yes I did" and I saw tears in her eyes. I asked what they were talking about and my daughter said the love between me and this other woman, they could see it in the way we looked at each other. I blew it off, downplayed it, but I knew what they were talking about.

I got married and my wife left me after 10 months for another man. She always said that I loved this other woman more than I loved her. Honestly, I loved them both

I feel the passion in this song, the pain and suffering of wanting to love both of these women, and having to pick one.

It has been 5 years and this other woman is not in my life anymore but my current fiancee says she is worried she will lose me if this woman ever comes back into my life. It scares me too. It may return me to feeling the way this song portrays. How do you get over a love that is so profound?

Excellent song

this song sticks out because the voice is so.... different.

i love this song... it kinda makes me think of the way someone else would say stuff to me... which kinda screws with my head a bit... damn...