I can't let you be, cause your beauty won't allow me
Wrapped in white sheets,
Like an angel from a bedtime story
And shut out what they say,

'Cause your friends are fucked up anyway
And when they come around,
Somehow they feel up and you feel down.

When we were kids, we hated things our parents did
We listened low to Casey Kasem's radio show
That's when friends were nice,
To think of them just makes you feel nice

The smell of grass in spring
And October leaves cover everything.

[Repeat: x2]
Have you forgotten how to love yourself?

I can't believe all the good things that you do for me
Sat back in a chair like a princess from a faraway place
Nobody's nice, when you're older your heart turns to ice
And shut out what they say;
They're too dumb to mean it anyway

When we were kids, we hated things our sisters did
Backyard summer pools and Christmases were beautiful
And the sentiment of coloured mirrored ornaments
And the open drapes
Look out on frozen farmhouse landscapes

[Repeat: x6]
Have you forgotten how to love yourself?


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Have You Forgotten Lyrics as written by Mark Edward Kozelek

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  • +5
    General Comment

    ive never felt more introspective or vulnerable from a song before. i heard it for the first time yesterday, driving through the mountains of pennsylvania.my tears came streaming. "have you forgotten?" was all i could focus on the first time i heard this song, and it evoked this feeling of the loss of a relationship i had once loved with all my heart. The pain came through me, and i was reminded that even though i suffered greatly, the loss of that love was more painful than the actual loss of the person. Upon listening to it again, I was reminded of my mother and how she haphazardly injures and destroys the relationships she has with my brothers and i "when we were kids we hated the things are parents did". Lastly, "have you forgotten how to love yourself?", this line shook me to my soul because i questioned the authenticity of loss of love for anyone else or from anyone else as compared to myself. I have to love myself before anyone can love me, or even forget about me. Haunting and true, this song is wildly powerful.

    rahanleyon August 17, 2009   Link
  • +3
    My Opinion

    It's easy to twist the facts and become nostalgic as you grow old, but there's an undeniable simplicity that's inherent to youth. Probably because we're so uncomplicated then, and also because we're much easier on ourselves, which I think is part of the point the song is driving home. The lovely memories of childhood juxtapose perfectly with the idea of remembering how to not be too harsh on yourself. I guess we all can identify with growing up to become adults who take everything much too seriously, until all we're able to do is reach out for the time when things seemed fun and exciting. That's the reason this song resonates with so many people.

    The beautiful delicate music makes the lyrics even more meaningful to me. I love the way Mark sings this lovely melody over a plain guitar for most of the song - almost like the type of ballad you learn to play with your friends when you're a teenager - only to be joined by a breathtaking steel guitar near the end. The song successfully awakens a nostalgic feeling, becoming nostalgic itself.

    This is no ordinary song. This is the kind of music that enriches our existence, drawing from us moods we then become aware and grateful of. Few can evoke these sensations through their arts, and Mark Kozelek is definitely one of them.

    transeunteon November 23, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    i agree with gleebs there. this is a fucking amazing song, absolutely stunning

    daffyon January 22, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    i particularly question the line "hated things our parents did" i think it can be interpreted as they hated the same things as their parents. like influecned. rather than the parents actions. like listening casey kasem for instance.

    gueveraliveson August 01, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    I'm not crying, I just have something in my eye.

    Waves Of Delusionon September 25, 2005   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation

    I am the girl that he sings about, in my own world

    Bee_keeperon November 18, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    Beautiful. Makes me think of innocence, of childhood.

    xmakesherflyxon January 09, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    oh, God, this is so tender and touching

    gayakahon August 25, 2011   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    one of the most beautiful songs in the world. it's just gorgeous. i don't even know what else to say about it.

    gleebson January 21, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    this song is definately in my all time top 10, it just reminds me of life and how one person can chang everything

    justsumguyon February 23, 2002   Link

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