If I give up on you, I give up on me
If we fight what's true, will we ever be?
Even God himself and the faith I knew
It shouldn't hold me back, shouldn't keep me from you

Tease me by holding out your hand
Then leave me or take me as I am
And live our lives stigmatized, yeah

I can feel the blood rushing though my veins
When I hear your voice, driving me insane
Hour after hour, day after day
Every lonely night that I sit and pray

Tease me by holding out your hand
Then leave me or take me as I am
And live our lives stigmatized, oh, yeah

We live our lives on different sides
But we keep together, you and I
Just live our lives stigmatized

We'll live our lives, we'll take the punches everyday, oh
We'll live our lives, I know we're gonna find our way, yeah

I believe in you even if no one understands
Yeah, I believe in you and I don't really give a damn
Oh, we're stigmatized, yeah

We live our lives on different sides
But we keep together, you and I
We live our lives on different sides

We're gonna live our lives
We gotta live our lives
We're gonna live our lives, yeah, yeah
We're gonna live our lives
We're gonna live our lives, yeah, stigmatized


Lyrics submitted by punkmebabygal

Stigmatized Lyrics as written by Alex Band Aaron Kamin

Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.

Lyrics powered by LyricFind

Stigmatized song meanings
Add Your Thoughts

48 Comments

sort form View by:
  • +4
    General Comment

    Actually, the song is about a gay couple. Alex supposedly asked Aaron about gay marriages being hard and he said that they would have to live "stigmatized", hence the song. There is an extra verse, however, that they perform in concert. This is it:

    well i'd write you all a letter to say my last goodbye i just think its time for me to go away well the sun it seems to sink now like my love into a grave this life is not yet over but does it need to be saved? the chambers of my heart echo all the same this solitary man drives himself insane well i'll come back i'll smile once again try and try 'till i die to make you understand my love will make you understand 'cuz we're stigmatized

    manprettys_pantieson May 03, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    After reading the prior comments, I can definitely see the side of this towards a gay couple. I for one knows how it feels, because I'm not sure what I am..though I definitely love guys. Still we must all have felt a connection, that is just a bit beyond one's friendship, etc., I'm not sure if any of the guys are gay, but I'm pretty sure Alex and Aaron aren't..On their band journal, Alex has mentioned going out with their girlfriends. Regardless of which, we should love them either way..They are extremely talented and so much more. Also, even if they look faggish, that means nothing, because looks can never take the place over facts..So you guys should stop classifying that way.

    PunkNerd915on July 01, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    Even though Alex says this song is about being an outcast, I personally think this song is talking about a gay couple. If anyone else has seen them in concert and heard the additional verse it is much more apparent.

    JustThatGoodon July 23, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    This song makes me cry....Its just too good to be true...

    YouLiedon September 02, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    i think its about a person who wants to hold on to their relationship regardless what others think...

    is it really a gay song? :)

    dopeydopeon September 15, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    for me it means one or both of them are already married, thus making their love "illegal".

    mezmeryzeon April 21, 2003   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    Could very possibly be about a gay couple. But it could also about different races dating. Just a thought.

    shouted silenceon May 28, 2004   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    It probably is about a gay couple, and these two lines sort of gave me that notion:

    "Even God himself and the faith I knew Shouldn't hold me back, shouldn't keep me from you"

    A lot of Christian faiths do not believe gay relationships are right, and shun people who are, in fact, gay or lesbian [as well as bi-sexuals.] The lyrics above are stating that this man who used to be a part of a congregation or parish would rather be with the other man he loves, than continue with his religious journey. And he doesn't want the religion he used to be a part of to hold him back from being with the other man, just because it's wrong in their eyes.

    Make sense? No? I figured. XD

    Nonetheless, I usually don't think about the song relating to a gay couple when I listen to it. It's a beautiful song though, I love the lines:

    "I believe in you Even if no one understands"

    The energy, and the emotion displayed in this song is truly amazing. The Calling is a wonderful band.

    Cheers, :: Kat

    enigmatic_gyrationon June 30, 2003   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    I have always thought of this as a song about a gay couple. The title says it all 'Stigmatised' which means to have stigmata put apon, and gay people have alot of that. THis song is the sound track to my life (exept the religion thing lol)

    techno_dykeon June 28, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    i dont think it is partcularly about a gay couple but about all couples that have a stigma put on them such as gay couples, interracial couples, or even like a spouce is having an affair and the other spouce takes him/her back people put a stigma on them because their still together.

    rikaeon July 31, 2005   Link

Add your thoughts

Log in now to tell us what you think this song means.

Don’t have an account? Create an account with SongMeanings to post comments, submit lyrics, and more. It’s super easy, we promise!

More Featured Meanings

Album art
Son Şansın - Şarkı Sözleri
Hayalperest
This song seemingly tackles the methods of deception those who manipulate others use to get victims to follow their demands, as well as diverting attention away from important issues. They'll also use it as a means to convince people to hate or kill others by pretending acts of terrorism were committed by the enemy when the acts themselves were done by the masters of control to promote discrimination and hate. It also reinforces the idea that these manipulative forces operate in various locations, infiltrating everyday life without detection, and propagate any and everywhere. In general, it highlights the danger of hidden agendas, manipulation, and distraction, serving as a critique of those who exploit chaos and confusion to control and gain power, depicting a cautionary tale against falling into their traps. It encourages us to question the narratives presented to us and remain vigilant against manipulation in various parts of society.
Album art
Mountain Song
Jane's Addiction
Jane's Addiction vocalist Perry Farrell gives Adam Reader some heartfelt insight into Jane’s Addiction's hard rock manifesto "Mountain Song", which was the second single from their revolutionary album Nothing's Shocking. Mountain song was first recorded in 1986 and appeared on the soundtrack to the film Dudes starring Jon Cryer. The version on Nothing's Shocking was re-recorded in 1988. "'Mountain Song' was actually about... I hate to say it but... drugs. Climbing this mountain and getting as high as you can, and then coming down that mountain," reveals Farrell. "What it feels to descend from the mountain top... not easy at all. The ascension is tough but exhilarating. Getting down is... it's a real bummer. Drugs is not for everybody obviously. For me, I wanted to experience the heights, and the lows come along with it." "There's a part - 'Cash in now honey, cash in Miss Smith.' Miss Smith is my Mother; our last name was Smith. Cashing in when she cashed in her life. So... she decided that, to her... at that time, she was desperate. Life wasn't worth it for her, that was her opinion. Some people think, never take your life, and some people find that their life isn't worth living. She was in love with my Dad, and my Dad was not faithful to her, and it broke her heart. She was very desperate and she did something that I know she regrets."
Album art
Mountain Song
Jane's Addiction
Jane's Addiction vocalist Perry Farrell gives Adam Reader some heartfelt insight into Jane’s Addiction's hard rock manifesto "Mountain Song", which was the second single from their revolutionary album Nothing's Shocking. Mountain song was first recorded in 1986 and appeared on the soundtrack to the film Dudes starring Jon Cryer. The version on Nothing's Shocking was re-recorded in 1988. "'Mountain Song' was actually about... I hate to say it but... drugs. Climbing this mountain and getting as high as you can, and then coming down that mountain," reveals Farrell. "What it feels to descend from the mountain top... not easy at all. The ascension is tough but exhilarating. Getting down is... it's a real bummer. Drugs is not for everybody obviously. For me, I wanted to experience the heights, and the lows come along with it." "There's a part - 'Cash in now honey, cash in Miss Smith.' Miss Smith is my Mother; our last name was Smith. Cashing in when she cashed in her life. So... she decided that, to her... at that time, she was desperate. Life wasn't worth it for her, that was her opinion. Some people think, never take your life, and some people find that their life isn't worth living. She was in love with my Dad, and my Dad was not faithful to her, and it broke her heart. She was very desperate and she did something that I know she regrets."
Album art
No Surprises
Radiohead
Same ideas expressed in Fitter, Happier are expressed in this song. We're told to strive for some sort of ideal life, which includes getting a good job, being kind to everyone, finding a partner, getting married, having a couple kids, living in a quiet neighborhood in a nice big house, etc. But in Fitter, Happier the narrator(?) realizes that it's incredibly robotic to live this life. People are being used by those in power "like a pig in a cage on antibiotics"--being pacified with things like new phones and cool gadgets and houses while being sucked dry. On No Surprises, the narrator is realizing how this life is killing him slowly. In the video, his helmet is slowly filling up with water, drowning him. But he's so complacent with it. This is a good summary of the song. This boring, "perfect" life foisted upon us by some higher powers (not spiritual, but political, economic, etc. politicians and businessmen, perhaps) is not the way to live. But there is seemingly no way out but death. He'd rather die peacefully right now than live in this cage. While our lives are often shielded, we're in our own protective bubbles, or protective helmets like the one Thom wears, if we look a little harder we can see all the corruption, lies, manipulation, etc. that is going on in the world, often run by huge yet nearly invisible organizations, corporations, and 'leaders'. It's a very hopeless song because it reflects real life.
Album art
Punchline
Ed Sheeran
Ed Sheeran sings about missing his former partner and learning important life lessons in the process on “Punchline.” This track tells a story of battling to get rid of emotions for a former lover, whom he now realized might not have loved him the same way. He’s now caught between accepting that fact and learning life lessons from it and going back to beg her for another chance.