Stigmatized

Actually, the song is about a gay couple. Alex supposedly asked Aaron about gay marriages being hard and he said that they would have to live "stigmatized", hence the song. There is an extra verse, however, that they perform in concert. This is it:

well i'd write you all a letter to say my last goodbye i just think its time for me to go away well the sun it seems to sink now like my love into a grave this life is not yet over but does it need to be saved? the chambers of my heart echo all the same this solitary man drives himself insane well i'll come back i'll smile once again try and try 'till i die to make you understand my love will make you understand 'cuz we're stigmatized

After reading the prior comments, I can definitely see the side of this towards a gay couple. I for one knows how it feels, because I'm not sure what I am..though I definitely love guys. Still we must all have felt a connection, that is just a bit beyond one's friendship, etc., I'm not sure if any of the guys are gay, but I'm pretty sure Alex and Aaron aren't..On their band journal, Alex has mentioned going out with their girlfriends. Regardless of which, we should love them either way..They are extremely talented and so much more. Also, even if they look faggish, that means nothing, because looks can never take the place over facts..So you guys should stop classifying that way.

Even though Alex says this song is about being an outcast, I personally think this song is talking about a gay couple. If anyone else has seen them in concert and heard the additional verse it is much more apparent.

This song makes me cry....Its just too good to be true...

i think its about a person who wants to hold on to their relationship regardless what others think...

is it really a gay song? :)

for me it means one or both of them are already married, thus making their love "illegal".

Could very possibly be about a gay couple. But it could also about different races dating. Just a thought.

It probably is about a gay couple, and these two lines sort of gave me that notion:

"Even God himself and the faith I knew Shouldn't hold me back, shouldn't keep me from you"

A lot of Christian faiths do not believe gay relationships are right, and shun people who are, in fact, gay or lesbian [as well as bi-sexuals.] The lyrics above are stating that this man who used to be a part of a congregation or parish would rather be with the other man he loves, than continue with his religious journey. And he doesn't want the religion he used to be a part of to hold him back from being with the other man, just because it's wrong in their eyes.

Make sense? No? I figured. XD

Nonetheless, I usually don't think about the song relating to a gay couple when I listen to it. It's a beautiful song though, I love the lines:

"I believe in you Even if no one understands"

The energy, and the emotion displayed in this song is truly amazing. The Calling is a wonderful band.

Cheers, :: Kat

I have always thought of this as a song about a gay couple. The title says it all 'Stigmatised' which means to have stigmata put apon, and gay people have alot of that. THis song is the sound track to my life (exept the religion thing lol)

i dont think it is partcularly about a gay couple but about all couples that have a stigma put on them such as gay couples, interracial couples, or even like a spouce is having an affair and the other spouce takes him/her back people put a stigma on them because their still together.