i want somebody who sees the pointlessness
and still keeps their purpose in mind
i want somebody who has a tortured soul
some of the time
i want somebody who will either put out for me
or put me out of misery
or maybe just put it all to words
and make me say, you know
i never heard it put that way
make me say, what did you just say?

i want somebody who can hold my interest
hold it and never let it fall
someone who can flatten me with a kiss
that hits like a fist
or a sentence, that stops me like a brick wall
if you hear me talking
listen to what i'm not saying
if you hear me playing guitar
listen to what i'm not playing
and don't ask me to put words
to all the silences i wrote
don't ask me to put words
to all the spaces between notes
in fact if you have to ask, forget it
do and you'll regret it
i'm tired of being the interesting one
i'm tired of having fun for two
just lay yourself on the line
and i might lay myself down by you
but don't sit behind your eyes
and wait for me to surprise you
i want somebody who can make me
scream until it's funny
give me a run for my money
i want someone who can
twist me up in knots
tell me, for the woman who has everything
what have you got?
i want someone who's not afraid of me
or anyone else
in other words i want someone
who's not afraid of themself

do you think i'm asking too much?


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    "someone who can flatten me with a kiss that hits like a fist or a sentence, that stops me like a brick wall"~great line

    babyMEon June 19, 2002   Link
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    if you hear me talking listen to what i'm not saying if you hear me playing guitar listen to what i'm not playing

    hell yeah

    sara_rachelon June 21, 2002   Link
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    this is the best part of the song because unlike so many pop songs out there shes not saying "i'm pathetic and you walke all over me" its like rock i'm this amazing woman and what do you have to offer for me?

    tell me, for the woman who has everything what have you got? i want someone who's not afraid of me or anyone else in other words i want someone who's not afraid of themself

    goodkarma49on September 16, 2002   Link
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    this song is amazing...."if you hear me talking listen to what i'm not saying if you hear me playing guitar listen to what i'm not playing and don't ask me to put words to all the silences i wrote don't ask me to put words to all the spaces between notes... i want someone who's not afraid of me or anyone else in other words i want someone who's not afraid of themself " ~ the song states want everyone wants in a mate...and the words she uses "flatten me with a kiss" for ex. are such powerful illustrations of what we all want and need. this song is beautiful

    4:20chick4eva!on April 21, 2003   Link
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    tell me, for the woman who has everything what have you got?

    never put me on a pedestol. always let me strive, and don't think i have won. becuase when i win, there's nothing more i can still achieve. let me achieve you and strive to make our love better everyday. . . . just a thought on what it means.

    Tars05ozon April 21, 2003   Link
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    the title and last line pose and interesting question -- is that asking too much? while her lyrics are bold, specific, and truthful, i think that it can apply to us all in each of our individual circumstances. is it really too much to ask for someone who is an equal partner, who gives as well as recieves, who treats you as well as you treat them? humanity has spent so much time being desensitized and dehumanized, i think it's time we all start demanding a little more from eachother. it's like another of her lyrics states "we owe eachother the world" -- let's take a second, acknowledge that we are all essentially the same and are trudging through the same life, so why not pause for a second and share some love and respect. fuck yeah ani d!

    fireygoddesson June 09, 2003   Link
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    Well everything Ani sings in this song, i can relate to. I also want all of these things in a man! So no, i don't think she's asking too much atal! This song is amazing. Unfortunately, to most men, these things really are asking too much. And i think that's Ani's point.

    Licion October 13, 2004   Link
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    I agree with what some of you said about demanding more from eachother but my theory is-- she wrote the entire song, and then looked back at it and realized that maybe she should try giving people a little more slack and not expect them to "don't ask me to put words to all the spaces between the notes " I mean people cant read your mind and as much youd like to have someone who can see into your soul and understand you without you having to say a word I think that in the end she does realize that her expectations are a bit unrealistic-- and to prove my point she does name the song "asking too much".

    L-E-7on December 25, 2004   Link
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    This song is great, it helped me figure out my own personal list of what I want in a relationship.. And it turns out small feats of carpentry, good conversation, lots of laughter, and creativity are it.. If I don't get it, that's okay too. It's all good. I adore this song.

    xinniefulon March 04, 2005   Link
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    I love this song because every single thing she lists I want in a man. The only difference is she describes it in an eloquent way that I never could have!

    city212girlon June 28, 2006   Link

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