Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
I finally realized today that your the reason I hesitated
To live life without regrets
I placed you on a pedestal beneath which all comers seemed dull
Cause I still remember every detail of the day we met
You were sleeping on my shoulder before we even said a word
And as I recall you wore a hair tie on your wrist
It took four days and I was caught in forces I couldn't understand
Cause I'd never believed in love but you left me convinced
I'm left with no choice but to tell you that I won't forget I won't ever forget
But we can't be like we were in the beginning and I can't handle that
No I can't handle that
You went north and I stayed south leaving endless questions in my mouth
About how you really felt
You said that we could still be friends something that we had never been
Cause somehow we skipped that step as far as I can tell
You were sleeping on my shoulder...
I'm left with no choice...
If I can't have you the way I want then this needs to be over
So move on and don't look back, cause I can't stand any other way
And I hope you can forgive me for pushing you away
So let this be our last goodbye.... let me go... let me go... let me go
To live life without regrets
I placed you on a pedestal beneath which all comers seemed dull
Cause I still remember every detail of the day we met
You were sleeping on my shoulder before we even said a word
And as I recall you wore a hair tie on your wrist
It took four days and I was caught in forces I couldn't understand
Cause I'd never believed in love but you left me convinced
I'm left with no choice but to tell you that I won't forget I won't ever forget
But we can't be like we were in the beginning and I can't handle that
No I can't handle that
You went north and I stayed south leaving endless questions in my mouth
About how you really felt
You said that we could still be friends something that we had never been
Cause somehow we skipped that step as far as I can tell
You were sleeping on my shoulder...
I'm left with no choice...
If I can't have you the way I want then this needs to be over
So move on and don't look back, cause I can't stand any other way
And I hope you can forgive me for pushing you away
So let this be our last goodbye.... let me go... let me go... let me go
Lyrics submitted by kaitlynn422
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I completely agree with yellowraincoat. One of those things where you fall so quickly you hardly even understand it, but it feels perfect. And then all the sudden it's over with no warning. I think those are the hardest because you never want to forget, but at the same time, it just begins to feel like it was all some dream