Lonely Boy Lyrics
This song is about the jealousy that most children feel when they're no longer the youngest and their parents attention is focused on a new sibling. Unfortunately for some reason this guy apparently never got over that feeling, which is kind of sad really.
I think this song is about a kid with very over-protective parents, by the lines "we'll teach him what we learned, Ah yes JUST what we learned" and "dressed him up warmly" suggest that they are trying to shield him from the parts of the world that they don't approve of. They tell him that he must be sheltered so much because he's their only son, which he accepts because he will have all of their love and attention. Then, they have another child and give all of their attention to it instead of him, yet continue to shelter him. He lives out his life as a minor very lonely because he is sheltered into loneliness and has no one that fully loves him. When he turns 18 (51-69), he left the family home, hoping to find someone to love him and make up for the sad and lonely life he had growing up.
Ultrasound/Sonograms were not a prenatal procedure in 1951 so how could his parents have known he would have been the only son, fact they would not have known unless he was their only child.
Ultrasound/Sonograms were not a prenatal procedure in 1951 so how could his parents have known he would have been the only son, fact they would not have known unless he was their only child.
https://www.livescience.com/32071-history-of-fetal-ultrasound.html
https://www.livescience.com/32071-history-of-fetal-ultrasound.html
If anyone knows about Andrew the meaning is quite simple. Andrew was born on August 2, 1951 . This is of course referring to Andrew himself. Then his sister was born in 1953, don't have the exact date, but this is referred to in the song as well
@musiqlovr Andy just used these dates for fun - he has said (even to his mom) that the sentiment expressed in this song is not autobiographical. He held no grudge to his parents, neither to his sister. Just for the record.
@musiqlovr Andy just used these dates for fun - he has said (even to his mom) that the sentiment expressed in this song is not autobiographical. He held no grudge to his parents, neither to his sister. Just for the record.
The Lonely Boy has figured out that he is destined to grow up to be someone that he's not - his parents' version of their son - as opposed to the person he wants to be.
Only he understands the situation he's facing which creates emotional distance between him and his Mom and Dad. This is how he became a Lonely Boy.
There's something about this song. I can't place it, but it hits my ear like a great pop song. Love it.
It's about family planning lols. Wait, what?
Normally you'd think having a sibling would make you less lonely, but somehow it didn't work out that way for this guy. Even though it's a substantial chunk of the lyrics of this song, it somehow comes off to me as just like, one example of how even something that should have been great for him didn't quite work out like it was supposed to.
Like a lot of families these days, they just end up moving far apart and he watches the cycle repeat itself from who knows how many hundreds of miles apart. Instead of a payoff where he ends up really close with his sister, they just have to live out their separate lives, far apart.
So in the very beginning of his life, he resents his sister for the attention she got, and somehow he can never shake a guilty feeling for that, and then when they are older, he misses her badly and how physically and also emotionally far apart they have become. And you get this sense that there's this big journey implied in between, where just mentioning this family stuff is like a big secret, the kind of thing you might just barely guess at as being the thing in the corner of somebody's eye, as they stare off into the distance over a beer.
I just saw Atlanta's "Yacht Rock Review" in Athens GA and this was one of their best numbers!
Also, guess who went home losers tonight...GA TECH, that's who! They had it projected on a big screen, it was totally epic. The dorks lose again wooooooo looooosersss WOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!
@LouEx2Obb Really? I was at that Yacht Rock Review. I live in Montana now, if that helps you remember me...
@LouEx2Obb Really? I was at that Yacht Rock Review. I live in Montana now, if that helps you remember me...
About a boy who was very loved then had to learn to live without his parents, at least figuratively.
Agree with La_Grange57. It's a very instructive song which has stuck with many people ever since they heard it, way back when.
I remember this song well as when it was a hit, I was a little boy who suffered from a lot of depression. I knew when I listened to the lyrics that my younger brother's birth was NOT the cause of my loneliness, so I recognized that this song's lonely boy, and perhaps other lonely boys (and girls) out there had different reasons for feeling desperately alone and unloved.
Don't worry, I'm mostly okay now, but thanks for saying "awwwww!' in your mind.
I was, in fact, loved as a boy. For various reasons, I had periods when I did not FEEL loved.
What struck me about this song at the time is how ridiculously short and simple it was.
He was born first and an only child for two years, thought it was made him special,. put all his emotional self-esteem eggs in that basket (at age two, really?) then a sister's birth upsets his worldview and sense of self.
Okay, that is unfortunate, one would hope he'd welcome the new addition and rejoice at gaining a playmate.
For this emotional hurdle to somehow fester and form him into a cold, unloving jerk who bolts for the door the second he reaches 18 is pathetic and quite disturbing....but then....
It ends.
The story just ends.
I know his sister has a family ()a son at that) and she follows her parents' child-rearing philosophy and "the cycle continues", the "wheel turns" and all that, but it's over. The song just ends.
All I can think the end is saying is that possibly Andrew Gold deeply regrets that his EARLY childhood confusion that "only son" meant "only one" prevented him from having a meaningful, loving relationship with his sister and quite possibly any woman and so he is left childless while his sister has managed to procreate.
He is now very lonely indeed, as an adult and is coming to grips with the reasons why.
Still, it is too short. There is no resolution. But then, perhaps Andrew Gold himself had not yet had a resolution to his dilemma at the time he wrote the song. One can only hope it was cathartic for him and his life improved.
With that, I think I'll check him out on Wikipedia since it's nearly 40 years later...
Ha! Here's what Wiki says:
"Although Gold put personal references in the lyrics to "Lonely Boy" (including his year of birth), he admitted in an interview that it was not autobiographical: "Maybe it was a mistake to do that, but I simply put in those details because it was convenient. I hadn't been a lonely boy at all — I'd had a very happy childhood."
Also, since Gold died of heart failure in 2011, we cannot ask him "WTF?" about this song since if it wasn't autobiographical at aside from his birth date, what was this song really about?
@CravenImages You say some good things here. What stands out to me is
@CravenImages You say some good things here. What stands out to me is
" "wheel turns" and all that, but it's over. The song just ends."
" "wheel turns" and all that, but it's over. The song just ends."
Book-ended there are; one thought about perpetuation (and with that, infinity), and the other, the opposite....Entropy in , "The song just Ends.
Book-ended there are; one thought about perpetuation (and with that, infinity), and the other, the opposite....Entropy in , "The song just Ends.
If you're familiar with books like "Golden Escher Bach" or even some good books out there about Greatest truths/ideas being the synthesis of opposites, which is often coined paradox. But there's the rub, you see? Because especially at the time of his writing "Lonely Boy", Andrew Gold was...
If you're familiar with books like "Golden Escher Bach" or even some good books out there about Greatest truths/ideas being the synthesis of opposites, which is often coined paradox. But there's the rub, you see? Because especially at the time of his writing "Lonely Boy", Andrew Gold was in a time when ideas broiled under a confrontation & coming together of Western & Eastern Thought. IN less than a decade, the meaning of paradox became confusing; meaning unsolvable conundrum in one breath, and then the result of synthesis from opposites (turning paradox into a miracle machine) in another. Now, while that may seem cerebral, it's the contrary, as the most basic truths of the Universe, and most notably our lives, are ultimately simple expressions of truths that are far greater & beyond their scope (of our lives), yet hold firm to them. Yet, as the song makes great musical & lyrical efforts to convey, what is simple & even seemingly finite never in fact ends. This is a cycle that is much more than cyclical, because those repeated tragedies are the very antithesis of great Universal Truths, which we can't help but perceive as disconnected,opaque & un-relatable, because they are Infinite & Universal, while our lives are anything but. Hence, a paradox itself.
The idea that some are doomed/destined to have parents who don't get it, who confuse security for safety, and safety for happiness, there is very little that you can say for those poor, poor "lonely boys & girls". Life simply had it in store for them to have to learn those painful and difficult lessons on their own and largely alone. It may even be (in one possible reading of the song) that the truth could well be that Lonely Boy's isolation comes from his own mistaken outlook, rather than a universal sense of judgement on a short-worded life pattern. Because in life it's often much harder to tell what the right side is, as there is still no valid formula or equation for it. Gold nuances his very short story with the line,
"Teach him to fight, be nobody's fool",
which is, in fact, antithetical to the accepted doctrine of the nature and consequences of over-coddling. Where does the truth hide here?
I think that's a big part of the whole song: That the answers to these (& many other heart-wrenching questions & situations) are always hidden...within the questions & situations themselves (a Detective's outlook), and/or "simply" within ourselves, in our own time.
My take on this song is that it was written by Gold about someone he knew growing up; someone for whom he felt a great deal but, in the end, could never do anything for, at least in terms of preventing the car crash of life he/she seemed to be heading towards. There is a profound nature to that of Observer shackled by its own role: For ppl who are capable of seeing outside their lives to peer into another's, yet with no tint or glare from their own reality and/or POV. In the latter, almost everything is to be boiled down to what we can relate to. But with good observation and a modicum of intelligence, some begin to see (mostly by the age of 10 or so), that people are far, far different from each other than we ever consider. This opening up of possibilities also comes at a cost: It means we are also far more limited in our ability to genuinely reach out to them as a result.
There is such melancholy to this song, intertwined with an upbeat, beautiful melody, that it really does often feel like The Eternal Golden Braid (GEB).
Me? most of the time I cry when I hear this song. Mostly because for me the most obvious reading of Gold's story is exactly mine (my life, that is). The only differences are a decade, one instance of gender & ages reversed. And while it doesn't mean I don't love my parents (perhaps the first great lesson of childhood is that nobody's perfect, especially our parents!), their decisions, actions & values were widely seen as perplexing at best. But what are you gonna do about flawed parents and life's little plans?
How funny and cool that lyrics with so few words (simple, final, eternal, perplexing...) can pack such powerful & diverse punches.
Some dance in their living rooms while others cry, alone. Who knows? Maybe life makes Lonely Boys & Girls of us all, one way or another, and perhaps that isn't a bad thing. As long as we know how to be alone sans loneliness. Gold may be commenting on the juxtaposition of recognizing/witnessing tragedy & suffering from afar, all the while seeing how odd and petty it seems from our own distant POV?
Or it's the first song about First World Problems...? ;-P
Anyhoo! Dn't worry, Be happy
@CravenImages In a way, Gödel is golden.
@CravenImages In a way, Gödel is golden.
D's explication: The protagonist, the "Lonely Boy," got conscripted and never returned from Vietnam.
Meanwhile his sister had a son thus completing the Circle of Life.
Ultimately he [LB] suffered inexorably the fate of destiny.
Therefore it wasn't fear or isolation from family, etc., it was the foreboding knowledge of existential doom, unusual in youth.