Bloody Motherfucking Asshole

I think it's fascinating how this song has grown into something much bigger than it started out as (and I mean that in the best way possible).

BMFA is an epic, hymn-like song for every woman who's ever been trampled on or questioned, or who had to constantly prove herself. It's an anthem for every woman scorned and cheated on, without being about sacrificing yourself. It's about getting rid of the things that hold you back and hurt you.

It's about rising from the ashes. And after 4 years, it still affects me every single time I hear it.

this is a song directed at her father loudon wainwright III and in my opinion it's her best by far. she really rips into him and you can just tell he deserves it. he left the family when she and brother rufus were really young and they have both written songs confronting him( rufus' is called dinner at eight).

This is my favorite martha song by far-- the line about the mother of gloom sitting in her bedroom hits me at so many levels it almost makes me and probally other people feel as though she is singing about them and not just her self. This song addresses so many things, loneliness, depression, insecurity, not fitting in or being good enough. to me this song is all about trying to reach someones expectations but always falling short, then realizing how depressed they are making them wish that they could be someone else to make everything better. but no matter how hard they wish they are still stuck as themselves hoping that someday they'll be good enough for someone. martha knows how to strike raw emotion.

I connect strongly with this song, not because I think the sweary chorus is the most important thing, but because of the lines 'I will not pretend I will not put on a smile I will not say I'm all right for you When all I wanted was to be good To do everything in truth To do everything in truth'

She is basically saying - just because you are my father it doesn't mean I haveto pretend everything is alright. I read it was written most directly about her experience of discovering a song her father had written was about her. In the song (The name escapes me) he basically sings about her being a pain and wishing she would go away.

I thought this song is about how someone tries to be whatever they are and not mistreated by the society. The swear is like the anger for those how treat and look at her differently.

and this is a pretty good song for those who's being leftout.

I absolutely adore this song. Everytime I hear it I get jerks inside, it's just so passionate the way she sings it...and the fact it's about her dad means I can relate to it a lot, too...

I get that this song is about her dad but it's always meant something different to me - the lines"only desire/for you/whoever you are" especially suggest to me the kind of feeling you get when you've had a really bad date or something and you're sitting there wondering where your soulmate it, angry at them for your being miserable in the meantime. :) Perhaps that's a twisted reading, but still. Beautiful song, beautifully sung.

well. i didnt know it was about her dad till i read these comments. it made amazing sense to me when I was breaking up with someone. I guess everthing makes amazing sense on such occassions.

I think just in general if you're angry at someone it works, definitely.

"I will not pretend I will not put on a smile I will not say I'm all right for you When all I wanted was to be good To do everything in truth"

I really love those lines 'cause when someone treats you badly, a lot of the time they can't see it. And so she's saying, 'why should I pretend everything is okay when it's not?'

love the vitriol. this surely has to be one of the most raw examples of heartbreak conveyed by song.

(even as a guy) nearly everything in this track resonates with me...

been the arsehole, but also been arsehole-d. while probably more of the former, the latter has definitely cut me deep and i still derive a strong sense of catharsis from this song every time i hear martha wailing over her guitar, to this day, several years after my first listen.