Perfect Girl

This will someday be a Sarah Mclachlan classic. I think this is about a woman struggling to live up to her lover's expectations, which seem to lofty for her to reach. "Your vision of romance is cruel All along I played the fool." She rebukes her partner's unreasonable expectations, but what makes this song so wonderful for me is that, at the same time, she loves him anyway; she just wants him to "come around." At the beginning of the song, she stresses what should be important in a relationship: faith and strength. Definately a song to live by.

She is with someone who is not good for her. She leaves because she's knows its bad. He has to be right no matter what. She lets him win. She leaves him to his own demons who he thinks is her, in reality his demons are him. She is better without him. She wants him to remain in her life, but she knows he's should just be with himself. It's better for her and him in the end, so he can find himself.

today, this is my song. relationships take work, but there's only so much you can do when the person you're in a relationship with is not secure with themself. this isn't just true with romantic relationships. the insecure person doesn't hear your words for what you're saying - like sarah says, they twist your words until YOU are the one - you are the person to blame, because it is easier to blame you than to blame themself, come to terms with it, and move on.

ah, but actually telling that person this... and actually doing what you say... that's another story altogether.

I've heard Sarah explain this song before... It's someone singing to a friend who's going through a rough breakup. Letting her know that she's still ok, that she's loved, has friends that support her, and hopefully she'll be ok on her own one day. She wrote it for a friend.

this is one of my fave sarah songs, love it.

This song makes me think that the singer(lets just say female) is obsessed with her lover. He ( the lover) is not sure about his feelings towards her. She tells him she will always be there for him, and that he has to let her go to realize how much he loves her. this is a beautiful song. One of my favourites, and easy to play on the piano too.

one of my fave songs.

this song, everytime i listen to it, seems to tell of someone who is taking a step back from the relationship with someone who has a lot of issues to deal with, and it is with this distance the partner should work himself/herself out (a task that the girl feels should be done alone). Perfect girl hopes that in time, her partner would fix him/herself up (realize that Perfect girl should be loved as who she is-- free from all his expectations. I love how in the chorus, she tells her partner just how to do that-- to let go (of the expectations), to let yourself falter, and that to know that whoever you are whatever you do... you are loved.

really good, this song.

I absolutely love this song. One of my favorites from Sarah McLachLan!

Love this song. These are my favourite lines: "I own my insecurities, I try to own my destiny, that I can make or break it if I choose..."

i've never really thought about this song as having to do with being in a relationship, maybe partially because i've never been in one myself, but looking over the lyrics again i can see how that would work. to me anyways i think it's about someone who feels kind of inferior to everyone around her no matter how hard she keeps trying to do things right. then the chorus and the bridge ('you need everybody with you on your side...") is someone coming along and telling her that things will turn out ok in the end.