It's hard to wake up
When the shades have been pulled shut
This house is haunted, it's so pathetic
It makes no sense at all
I'm ripe with things to say
The words rot and fall away
What stupid poem could fix this home?
I'd read it every day

So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time, you gave it all away
It was mine, so when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night, twenty years now lost?
It's not right

Their anger hurts my ears
Been running strong for seven years
Rather than fix the problems
They never solve them, it makes no sense at all
I see them every day
We get along, so why can't they?
If this is what he wants, and it's what she wants
Then why's there so much pain?

So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time, you gave it all away
It was mine, so when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night, twenty years now lost?
It's not right

So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time, you gave it all away
It was mine, so when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night, twenty years now lost?
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right


Lyrics submitted by ScreamingInfidelity, edited by Mellow_Harsher

Stay Together For The Kids Lyrics as written by Travis L. Barker, Thomas DeLonge, Mark Hoppus

Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Warner Chappell Music, Inc.

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  • +11
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    I dont think its about divorce.. when i read it i get sense that the parents that are being spoken about are still together just fighting all the time... and the parents are staying together just for the kids... the parents are always wanting a divorce but they just stay together basically... perhaps this is my opinion as this is the situation between my parents...

    KiLLOggSon March 10, 2002   Link
  • +4
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    i have to agree with KillOggs b/c although the song is talking about divorce, it does not mean the parents are getting into one, b/c they are 'staying together for the kids'. i too, among so many others can connect with this song on a personal level. there have been many rough times, but my parents are doing the best they can together, and it's basicly for the sake of my sister and i. i also have to say that i love blink...one of my favorite bands, and NO i dont think they have turned "pop", they have just become "popular".

    BlindBlinkon March 23, 2002   Link
  • +3
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    Yeah, I agree with the majority here. It's about parent's staying together when they blatantly need to get a divorce. Mine've hardly spoken in three years and when they do it's to have a blazing argument. They still live in the same house with me and the complicated situation with the house and business means that they can't/won't get a divorce.

    Their anger hurts my ears, Been running strong for seven years, Rather than fix the problems, They never solve them, It makes no sense at all. I see them everyday, We get along, so why can't they? If this is what he wants, And this is what she wants, Then why's there so much pain?

    Replace the seven with thirty five and that's pretty much the situation i'm going through. A lot of parents don't give their children enough credit. They are strong enough to handle a divorce. What they are not designed to handle is the unnatural situation of having their parents live together but being separated. It's a fantastic song. Not that I can listen to it, it makes me and i'm sure millions of others break down.

    Blink_182_son May 07, 2007   Link
  • +3
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    ok so i had to make an account because i think i finally understand the song completely.

    the first verse is talking about how its hard to get up and try living when everything seems to being going wrong and everything is depressing. he has things he wants to say but he cant find a way to express it. if he had a "poem" referring to a way to fix his broken home. hed "read" or try it everyday.

    the chorus was the challenging part i think it hes talkin to the parents "so heres your holiday" or heres your brake from the other person "you gave it all away" they gave away the life they had together as one family. it was his to enjoy, but they took it away. the last twenty years then all go to waste and he doesnt think its right

    second verse

    their constant fighting hurts his ears and feelings.he then says he hopes they "remember this night" or the day they split up, when there dead and gone. again he says they just threw away the last twenty years and it isnt right tell me what you guys think of my interpretation

    superzakeatscakeon July 31, 2009   Link
  • +2
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    Personally, I really like this song. It can connect with a lot of people becaue divorce is pretty common these days.

    For me, my parents have never really gotten along. My dad recently told me that when I'm in college they're going to get a divorce. I asked him why they can't just do it now, because personally I think having your parents living in different homes is better than having them fighting all the time. He said that they're staying together for my sister and I. They're "staying together for the kids", haha.

    Liciaon October 02, 2008   Link
  • +1
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    Ultimately, the song is about divorce, though, I'm not sure the parents are actually getting one. I think the parents are "staying together for the kids" even though that might not be the best decision. In the music video, you see all of the kids sitting around, curled up, almost terrified of what may come next. And then the wrecking ball hits the home-- much like an yelling battle between parents. And instead of getting out of the "home" they stay. And like the chorus goes away and things remain calm for a few moments, so does the house- but it always comes back until the end when the house is completely broken. Many couples "stay together for the kids" so that they don't come from a broken home. I think this song- and greatly demonstrated by the video- shows how good intentions can dangerously turn into selfish acts.

    ital07on August 16, 2009   Link
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    ok so 4 years ago my parents got a nasty divorce and im 15 this song means so much to me me and my friends made a band and this is the song we try on the most because of how much it means to me it pisses my mom off wen i play it on my guitar because she knows that it shows my feelings about her and my dad splitting up and i think about it everyday and it drives me crazy

    churchman1234on January 17, 2011   Link
  • 0
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    in case you didn't know, this song is about divorce. it's pretty simple to figure out. even though i personally don't like blink 182 anymore since they've gone more pop than punk, i do have an appreciation for the message of this song, having seen my parents split up when i was still young. divorce is something that totally changes lives and i think blink has caught the idea very well in this song

    limegreenguitaron December 05, 2001   Link
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    General Comment

    Interesting... I kind of guessed that from the title of the song, but I could never have figured it out otherwise... Sad, but true, for children the worst thing to see is his/her parents splitting up...

    penwhaleon December 05, 2001   Link
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    General Comment

    even though i've never actually had my parents or anyone i know go through a divorce, this song shows the pain the children go through and it makes a lot of sense... esepcially this line "if this is what he wants and this is what she wants then why is there so much pain?" i admit, i really don't like anything blink182 post enema of the state, but this song is the only exception because it actually sort of has a message

    MrAcidXon December 15, 2001   Link

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