Another night with open eyes
Too late to sleep, too soon to rise
You're short of breath, is it a heart attack?
Hot and feverish you face the fact

You're in love, and it feels like shame
Because she's gone and made a fool of you in public again
You're in love, and it feels like pain
Because you know there's too much truth in everything she claims

So ask yourself now: Can you forgive her
If she wants you to?
Ask yourself: Can you even deliver
What she demands of you?

You drift into the strangest dreams
Of youthful follies and changing teams
Admit you're wrong, oh, no, not yet
Then you wake up and remember that you can't forget

She's made you some kind of laughing stock
Because you dance to disco, and you don't like rock
She'd make fun of you, and even in bed
Said she was gonna go and get herself a real man instead

So ask yourself now: Can you forgive her
If she begs you to?
Ask yourself: Can you even deliver
What she demands of you?
Or do you want revenge?
But that's childish, so childish!
(That's childish, so childish!)

Remember when you were more easily led
Behind the cricket pavilion and the bicycle shed
Trembling as your dreams came true
You looked right into those blue eyes and knew

It was love, and now you can't pretend
You've forgotten all the promises of that first friend
It's bad enough, she knows how you feel
But she's not prepared to share you with the memory

So ask yourself now: Can you forgive her
If she begs you to?
Ask yourself: Can you even deliver
What she demands of you?
Ask yourself now: Can you forgive her
If she begs you to?
And ask yourself: Can you even deliver
What she demands of you?
Or do you want revenge?
But that's childish, so childish!



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  • +8
    General Comment

    A fairly obvious one, this. A man who is in love with a woman, who also feels sexual attraction to men. His love for the woman is platonic, his attraction to men is sexual, and he is ashamed of it, and she knows it.

    warmerdayson September 27, 2008   Link
  • +2
    General Comment

    This is about a gay guy who's trying to pass as a str8t man, but he's girlfriend has figured it out already and had embarassed him by disclosing he's gay tendencies.The third verse points to homosexual experimentation with friends during boyhood.

    Sozlukon January 05, 2005   Link
  • +2
    General Comment

    This is more than just a gay guy trying to be straight. His girlfriend did humiliate him in every way possible. He experimented in youth with another boy with blue eyes who he knows he loves, and yet he still is wondering if he's gay or not, and if he should forgive the girl who hurt him as badly as she could. Even more so he has to wonder if even if he forgave her and they got back together, could he even be her boyfriend when he's still in love with the blue eyed boy he experimented with.

    Jaberwockyon May 09, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    "changing teams" "Because you dance to disco, and you don't like rock"

    Is he gay or bisexual?

    michaelwesleyon June 18, 2008   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation

    I wouldn't have even gone for a gay/straight interpretation. I just thought it was about a man who has no authority or say in the relationship ("because she's gone and made a fool of you in public again").

    But ultimately the woman needs that authority/power hence asking for forgiveness ("if she begs you to?")

    Just my interpretation.

    DeadParadeon January 10, 2012   Link

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