I picked you out
Of a crowd and talked to you
Said I liked your shoes
You said, "Thanks, can I follow you?"
So it's up the stairs
And out of view, no prying eyes
I poured some wine
I asked your name, you asked the time

Now it's two o'clock
The club is closed and we are up the block
Your hands are on me
Pressing hard against your jeans
Your tongue in my mouth
Trying to keep the words from coming out
You didn't care to know
Who else may have been you before

I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a girl who's too sad to give a fuck
Where's the kid with the chemicals?
I thought he said to meet him here
But I'm not sure
I've got the money
If you've got the time
You said, "It feels good"
I said "I'll give it a try"

Then my mind went dark
We both forgot where your car was parked
Let's just take the train
I'll meet up with the band in the morning

Bad actors with bad habits
Some sad singers, they just play tragic
And the phone's ringing
And the van's leaving
Let's just keep touching
Let's just keep, keep singing

I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk
And where's the kid with the chemicals?
I got a hunger and I can't seem to get full
I need some meaning I can memorize
The kind I have always seems to slip my mind

But you, but you

You write such pretty words
But life's no storybook
Love's an excuse to get hurt
And to hurt
Do you like to hurt?
I do, I do
Then hurt me
Then hurt me
Then hurt me


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Lover I Don't Have to Love Lyrics as written by Conor Oberst

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    Conor is a very prolific and honest songwriter, and yes, very very sexy inside and out. About the "I want a boy lyric"...my guess is that it more written from her perspective. It sounds as if the song was written very closely from real life, based on certain events. However, as all good song writers, within the specifics he also uses examples that are meant to be ambiguous. I think he just wrote the song and didn't over analyze it, or didn't care. Whether or not he's bisexual I don't think it's exactly about that - either it's from her perspective or it could be construed as an "I'll take anything" kind of desperation, which inofitself is probably more interesting.

    StarMeKittenon February 05, 2005   Link

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