| Carly Simon – That's The Way I've Always Heard It Should Be Lyrics | 6 years ago |
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@[john101169:21385] OR, maybe it simply means that the person in question will just go along with what is expected and never learn to be by his/herself and never put him/herself first. My view is that there should be a balance. It is good to share your life with someone, but it is also good to be yourself, learn to be comfortable with yourself and, at times, it is right to put yourself first, but perhaps not "to be just me first". Sometimes it is best to put others first, but not always. There needs to be a balance so that you have an emotional self-fulfilment, which, ideally includes sometimes putting others first and sometimes putting yourself first. If someone truly loves you, then they will understand this need as it applies to them as well as you, and both partners should help the other to be happy. |
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| Carly Simon – That's The Way I've Always Heard It Should Be Lyrics | 7 years ago |
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I agree mostly with the previous comments, but believe that the words "I'll never learn to be just me first By myself" mean that it actually takes the restricting nature of marriage to bring forth one's own identity; only when one realises that you are not happy by succumbing to another's wishes and desires, can you start to look around and find yourself. Until you marry or live with someone you expect that to be the end goal, but then afterwards you realise that you actually need to be yourself, whatever that happens to be. Almost paradoxically, it takes being with someone else to help you learn to be yourself. |
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