| Ben Folds – Losing Lisa Lyrics | 12 years ago |
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This song is about two people becoming disillusioned by a long term relationship. It's written from the perspective of a "typical" male (read: oblivious) observing the response of a "typical" female (read: over sensitive) during this time. She is getting to the end of her tether with all the things he does that make her angry eg. things that may appear to be inconsiderate or selfish and her "black tears" are tears of anger and frustration that nothing's changing. She has got beyond explaining why she's pissed off (She won't say what I've done) However, a lot of the conclusions she has come to are a result of how she interprets his actions as opposed to how he means them. so while she assumes he's well aware, he genuinely doesn't understand what he's done wrong, he just knows that is her default attitude (black tears are falling down her face and I am wrong) and despite them still bothering to spend monotonous time around each other (we don't do anything we didn't do the day before) she seems to have checked out of the relationship (She's sitting here beside me and she is gone) thus, he can see he's losing her but doesn't have a clue how to prevent it or, indeed, whether he even wants to any more. They had a great relationship in the start, built on friendship and mutual understanding (remember long ago, together laughing loving) but also characterised by youth and naivety, forged before they grew up together and became jaded by all of life's necessary sacrifices. Back when they both believed in hope and promises (oh so long ago, when we were buying something). He still remembers all that and does, on some level, still consider her to be the same person she was (she's my everything, she's my best friend and more), which refers to his memory of them at their best and what there relationship was intended to be but he's heard the same things from her so many times that they've become meaningless, he's zoned out and, in this particular case, has entertained himself by watching the movements of her angry complaints causing lines to appear on her face. Lines from ageing that never used to be there (her lips are moving, I am mesmerized by tiny lines) This is about a couple who are RIGHT on the brink of their relationship breaking down through lack of communication. Neither of them knows how to fix it because they're not listening to each other. They never evolved from the initial spark in to learning to understand each other but the memory of what they used to be has driven them to drag it out regardless, sticking with their respective bad habits to the point of no return. It's an extremely common scenario that a lot of people can identify with. Neither party is at fault, but it just doesn't work. |
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