| Taylor Swift – Anti-Hero Lyrics | 2 years ago |
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I believe this is another amazingly on point and nuanced commentary on the insanity that follows emotionally abusive relationships. The abuser has no anxieties, no emotional pain, or salience/memory for that matter, so the survivor appears to be the crazy one, obsessed with the abuse and that buzzword that seems to ignite arguments about diagnosing people without a degree, etc. funny how you say the words domestic violence, abuse, abuse survivor and boom the subject changes. Anyways, I especially relate to her midnights becoming afternoons, complex PTSD often leads to this phenomenon, whether due to purposeful sleep deprivation by the abuser, or just hyper vigilance associated with the PTSD, along with the fear of facing people, especially your loved ones, who Never actually understand, even if they try, because all they see is you, on fire, screaming about the arsonist that no one ever sees, and who has been spreading lies about your alleged mental instability, deceptive personality, etc. the whole time. While the last thing survivors need is more blame, our society supports a narrative that blames the objectively innocent party because the blatantly guilty party has spent their entire lives fabricating a persona and we’re just being human, and human psychology is quite counterintuitive especially in the context of trauma. Look at Amber Heard. Vilified and not believed, regardless of what any abuse survivor could recognize as a fellow survivor instantly. But Johnny depp is a malignant narcissist, a man, and wealthy as all get out. It’s sick. |
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| The Avett Brothers – The Ballad of Love and Hate Lyrics | 2 years ago |
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@[emp93:47390] love was selfish? I’m sorry but I had to protest. Not saying anything about you of course, but the concept that love, in taking a few extra days for herself to Enjoy her vacation (I interpret it differently but for the sake of this comment) is somehow hurting hate in some way reminds me exactly of my abusers philosophy. The fact is, when you love someone, as opposed to possess, obsess over or need someone, you want them to be happy and comfortable even if you’re not included, you love and support them outside of what goes on within the relationship, or between the two. Because hate is miserable and alone, which if he lived in love, he too Could move about the world with peace and positivity just like love, he wants love to be as well-that’s selfish and narcissistic and just further breeds more Hate. |
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| The Avett Brothers – The Ballad of Love and Hate Lyrics | 2 years ago |
| @[Josh305:47389] well said. Exactly. | |
| The Avett Brothers – The Ballad of Love and Hate Lyrics | 2 years ago |
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This is quite literally about love and hate. Personifications of each emotion, although I don’t believe love and hate are actually emotions, more like philosophies, states of being, or active ways of life. It casts light on the punishment that hate inflicts upon those that choose to carry it, a self inflicted pain, whereas love is a gift to carry with you, one you can give to every person you encounter and still never lose a thing or run out.I absolutely adore this song, which never would have struck me so much had I not been pouring love into an horribly abusive partner at the time. Through that experience I developed a moral Compass that stays at the forefront of all my interactions, and that reminds me that love is not something you get or expect from others, but something you give, seek, live in, and show. And the only time that love will not return tenfold is when you sow the seeds in areas where love cannot grow, ie narcissists, emotionally manipulative people and anyone else that views the world as something that revolves around them and only them, and therefore owes them everything. |
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