| Lagwagon – Tomorrow Is Heartbreak Lyrics | 2 years ago |
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It's an old song but I thought I'd share my understanding of it. As far as I know, Emily is Joey's toxic ex who's referenced in many songs. And the way she is described in those songs reminds me very very strongly of an ex of mine who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), this song here especially. People with NPD are abusive and follow some very clear patterns in their behavior. With this perspective in mind: "Bitter ex, it must feel better holding that grudge" - Narcs are always shifting blame. The ex is wrong, he is holding a grudge against her to make himself feel better, and she's not at fault. "Unrequited she's scarred in hatred" - same, she is the one hating, but thinks of herself as the victim, unrequited and scarred. "Yesterday's moving" - moving, possibly, in the meaning of emotionally moving. Narcs always have very touching stories about the past that aren't necessarily true but designed to make you feel compassion for them. "Better nest" - they very easily jump partner to partner, being very selfish and forming no genuine attachment "Tell them you never lived in such a mess" - can be two things... either denying how much of a mess the relationship was, or the opposite - exaggerating, as in they never lived in such a mess (before you), wanting to make you look bad and crazy "reminds them all to stand back/in the distance they won't notice the act" - narcissists are liars and fakers, all their interpersonal relations are shallow because they tend to hide behind a mask, and they cannot allow anyone to get close and see how nasty and broken they truly are. "Can't expect the creep to stay long/he's not the one who pissed her off" - narcs need constant attention so they might go to dates or start temporary relationships with people they don't even like just to not be alone... and the less they care the more abusive and prone to raging they are and it's not the target's fault. "Today is denial" - again, narcissists are fakers. They are prone to forming delusional beliefs about themselves and their lives, including denial of things they don't wanna see or admit. "Easier if she won't see him again" - they are avoidant and favor jumping ship over admitting their faults or issues "Emily may be odd, but she always gets even" - narcs are extremely vengeful even over petty things. They will go out of their way to "get even", always. "Another short term boyfriend" - recurring theme. They easily switch partners and can't hold a longer commitment due to their own selfishness, greed and abusive behavior. "Tomorrow is heartbreak" - obviously, pretty soon the narc will ruin the current relationship and cause heartbreak. And probably the strongest line in here that makes me 100% think of narcissists: "So bitter ex I'm sorry, sorry you bit that hook, now I'm just a bad cliche in your black book" - all over again, the blame shifting. It's the ex's fault that he "bit the hook" and loved her and tried to be with her. Her abuse is his fault, he could have been more careful and not get involved with her, right? And now that he sees her abuse and doesn't want to be with her anymore she is a "bad cliche" to him... and it's spoken with bitterness, like she doesn't deserve to be labeled like that. |
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