| Ben Folds Five – Brick Lyrics | 13 years ago |
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I think it's talking about an abortion for a couple of different reasons.... *The main thing that makes me think it's talking about an abortion is that the father doesn't go in with her-he waits in the parking lot and gets her flowers. It seems that if they were going for an ultrasound or dilation and curettage that he would have been able to/chosen to go with her. *Another clue is that from the first verse, they are trying to hide it from the parents and they are feeling alone and guilty about what happened. Of course, someone can be ashamed of their choice to have sex and still choose to go on with the pregnancy, but it seems to me that if they never wanted to get pregnant, they would be more prone to hide it and less devastated about losing it. Of course, in high school some close friends of mine dealt with an unplanned pregnancy that miscarried early on, and even though they had been horrified about all of the potential consequences of unintentional parenthood, the mother still experienced severe guilt and anxiety about losing the baby, so I am not saying that someone who loses a child they didn't "ask for" cannot be sad about it. I know most mothers are probably devastated by miscarriage, no matter what their circumstances are. *Then when it says, "It's not me you're dying for" this, again, implies that the "death" (whether you believe abortion is killing the baby or not, the word used in the lyric is "dying" so that's why I say that) is planned, or anticipated. I think this is from the parents (or possibly just the father) to the unborn child, sympathizing that they didn't want to abort, but they felt it was the best choice. Now the mother feels more alone because she has just lost a part of her, like women often feel after miscarriage, or even after abortion or healthy childbirth. At the end of the first verse, the father felt more alone than ever, and I think this is because he didn't want to go through with the operation. But now she's feeling more alone, and this continues and she realizes what she's done. Hence, at the end they finally come clean about everything that happened. ***I definitely understand the argument that it's talking about a miscarriage, and it could be applied to those situations too, I'm sure. These are just the reasons I lean towards the belief that it's talking about abortion. Of course, no one actually knows except for Ben Folds Five and whoever else they've personally talked to about it (and, if this is a real story, then the mother of the child and others involved), but it is fun to analyze the lyrics like this I guess. :) |
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| Ben Folds Five – Brick Lyrics | 13 years ago |
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Thank you so much for your comment. I created an account on this website just to thank you for how powerfully it hit me. I'm not a crier but I got chills and started to tear up reading your comment, because I could feel how emotional you really felt writing it. Many people I love have gone through the same thing and it was so much harder than people expect. I love you and your wife for going on through a trial like that, instead of becoming angry and bitter. Call me crazy I know your child's spirit lives on and you will get to be with him or her again. I could feel that as I read your comment. Thank you again for sharing your story. Anyone else who has ever or will ever lost a child in the womb, infancy, or later in life, I know you can find the strength to get through it just like this great man and his wife did. And I believe you can be with your family again. "Everything always works out in the end. If it's not working out, it's not the end." I found the peace to endure the death of loved ones through my Savior, Jesus Christ. Follow these links to learn more about being with your family after death and finding peace to endure trials in this life. http://www.lds.org/topics/death-physical?lang=eng http://mormon.org/plan-of-happiness |
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