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Jars of Clay – Tea And Sympathy Lyrics 16 years ago
How about applying the death of a child (perhaps to war) to these lyrics as a plea from the parent not to be shut out by the other:

Fare thee well = as in goodbye and be well (maybe to the child)
Trade in all our words = there’s nothing to be said (to their spouse)
For tea and sympathy = let’s just sit and be together

wonder why we tried for things = to change the course of life/to protect their child
could never be = fate
play our heart's lament = feel and mourn our sorrow
like an unrehearsed symphony = the loss of a child isn’t something you can truly prepare for

not intent to leave this castle full of empty rooms = a home that a child will never return to is hard
to leave, even for a cup of tea
our love the captive in the tower = what do you do in a tower — you look out and wait for someone —
their love is now captive in the tower, looking and waiting
never rescued = for a child who will never come
and all the victory songs seemed to be playing out of tune = wars are won.....for a cost to some....
at a cost to others

cause it's not the way that it has to be= we lost our child, let’s not lose each other
don't trade our love for tea and sympathy, no = there’s still us, let’s not shut each other out -it’s ok
to feel happiness and love for each other
no, it's not the way
that it has to be

you begin = the other spouse is trying to breakthrough
and all your words fall to the floor = the feelings of love for their child and the years shared can’t be conveyed with mere words
and break like China cups = (china cups are fragile and valuable) the words spoken resurface the loss
and the waitress = someone unconnected, on the outside,
grabs a broom = “grabs”(not gets)/rushes — as in grabbing a towel versus getting a towel when something spills
and tries= because you really can’t
to sweep them up = an effort — usually futile to make it better
I reach for my tea, slowly drink in = some sorrow you learn to live with, to incorporate it into who you are

cause it's not the way
that it has to be
don't trade our love for tea and sympathy, no
and, it's not the way
that it has to be
don't trade our love for tea and sympathy

fare thee well = again trying to find a way to say goodbye and be well (to the child)
the words, the bag of leaves that fill my head (all the feelings, all the years that memory captures)
I could taste the bitterness = choice to isolate, be angry, curse fate
and call the waitress instead = but chooses to reaches out — to a meaningless stranger no less
cuz she holds the answer, smiles = who it may be revealed knows the pain of losing a child too
and asks one teaspoon or two = symbolic for a friend today, perhaps tomorrow too

don't trade us for tea and sympathy = don’t give up
don't trade us for tea and sympathy
we can work it out = we will find our way
don't trade us for tea and sympathy
don't trade us for tea and sympathy
we can work it out
we can work it out

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