| The Dresden Dolls – Delilah Lyrics | 19 years ago |
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Also I wanted to add I love part in this song Amanda says "And you thought you could change his mind/ By changing your perfume/ To the kind his mother wore." I think girls often times assume the maternal role in relationships like AlphaOmega mentioned earlier her tendency to become involved with men she feels she can rescue. A mother's job is to take care of her child no matter how many times he messes up always be there for him because he is in fact a child and children need parents to take responsibility for them, obviously. Anyways I just think it's interesting that "Delilah" tries to influence her lover by wearing the same perfume as his mother- or to have the same scent or essence. As if to say she could influence his behavior, mold him, change him, as women often times think ( in my experience ) they can with their counterparts in the same way a mother does with her child. Then of course there is a problem because in a romantic relationship both individuals must be responsible for his or her behavior. Anyways just interesting I thought. |
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| The Dresden Dolls – Delilah Lyrics | 19 years ago |
| I think is so effective, because of course this girl is a sort of "victim" in an extremely dysfunctional not to mention abusive relationship, but doesn't really want help. Amanda perfectly articulates the frustration anyone is certain to feel when trying to help an individual who knows her behavior is self destructive, acknowledges the fact they are putting themselves in a terrible place, and continues to be consumed with the consequences of that behavior . While one side of her (Amanda) is of course compelled to have compassion upon her friend, she also expresses her exasperation when at last she says "if you take him home then you get what you deserve." Not that I think she is saying her friend deserves to ever be beaten and not to say that phrase isn't also referring to what the abuser might say to his victim. However, I think what is so great about this song is that Amanda realizes she cannot rescue her friend and that, ultimately, Delilah is the one who must make the choice to save herself from the vicious cycle that is abuse and codependency. I also love the beginning: "There's no end to the love you can give/When you change your point of view to underfoot." As if to say Delilah can love every man because she will compromise herself for anyone. Disclaimer: I in no way think victims of abuse are to blame for the way they are treated. I simply think it wonderful the way Amanda inadvertently comments on the way young women must commit to ending their dysfunctional relationships because another human being isn't capable of saving them. | |
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