I think this song is about going through life and becoming more of aware of the world around you and who you are. Past experiences have helped you realize that people aren't always how you perceived them and because of these experiences you're not as naive and maybe not as trusting as you once were. And you're involved with someone, and they're wanting you to give more emotionally possibly, but you're not sure if you can. And all you can really do is try because you honestly care about this person. At first it makes you wish you hadn't experienced the things you had, so you could be exactly what this person wanted.

But in the end, you realize that you and this person are wasting time trying to change each other. Because you can only be free in life and in love if you truly love each other for who you are as a person and not just who you want them to be.

I think there's a reason that this song (and Part I, of course) were, and perhaps still are, on the top charts. I'm not a fan of rap myself, but this song hit a soft spot inside me. Its meaning is crystal clear. A relationship that starts out perfectly, with two people who're head over heels for each other, but it soon turns out to be nothing but an abusive relationship. They hate and love each other at the same time, fighting and then feeling sorry about it. They're indeed two psychopaths, whose love is so strong they think they can move mountains. And just because their love is so strong, they overlook the fights, the pain and the horror they inflict on each other, because they can't go on without one another.

So, this song is about a hate/love relationship, and how people can be stuck in an unhealthy relationship just because their feelings are too strong for them to give up on their other half, even though they're hurting. In my opinion, this song is a true piece of art.

I share your pain.

I do not doubt the depth of his love for me neither, yet he will never understand the depth of my love for him. He is blinded by anger, frustruction and hurt cos I left him twice. Out of love, out of anger, out of fatigue, out of love and freedom for both of our souls..

obviously about a both verbal and physically abusive relationship and how it seems the guy will say anything to keep his girl with him even though he's just spewing lies.

There is domestic violence where the abuser who has no remorse and the victim, who at 1st thinks it is love but later realizes the other person is just abusive & really wants to leave the other but is afraid of what the other will do to them or their children if they do leave.. then there is the other..

and to me this is what Eminem is addressing, the dynamic of a relationship when 2 people have the most TOXIC LOVE imaginable for one another. They victimize the other person as well as themselves. They are both victims as well as guilty of being literally crazy for one another. I hope people dont have to experience this type of relationship but if you do I believe you go through it once. It's hard to truly understand unless you have been through it but the song as well as the video paints the picture of the turmoil that the extremity of emotions and how it is handled effect the people in these relationships. What they go through and what happens when they have no control of those emotions. You see what they are willing to endure for one another because no matter how bad it gets nothing seems worst then leaving each other. Their destructive relationship is a contradiction of what love should be but they truly are madly in love, Its heartbreaking...


- "And I love it the more that I suffer. I suffocate and right before I'm about to drown she resuscitates me. She fucking hates me and I love it."
- "Just gonna stand there and watch me burn. But that's alright because I like the way it hurts"
- "It's so insane 'cause when it's going good, it's going great... But when it's bad, it's awful. I feel so ashamed"
- "You're the same as me. When it comes to love you're just as blinded. Maybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it seems, maybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a volcano. All I know is I love you too much to walk away though"

those are the verses that really hit home when I hear this song.
I have to say the hardest thing about being in that relationship was realizing that even though we wanted to to be together we needed to be apart. He showed me how much he loved me by leaving me. I knew it was killing him just as much as it was killing me.. Maybe years from now we can try again or maybe not but, one thing is for certain I dont ever doubt the depth of his love for me.

It's funny how I have been hooked to this song from the moment I heard it. A year ago. Without even realising the lyrics to it, I just love the beat to it. It evokes extreme emotions from deep within and often brings tears which were supressed many a times. Relating to another area of my life at the time.

It is also funny how i can only release and express emotional sufferings, inklings, thoughts and reflexions, through the median of music, which evokes and aids the inner self, expels the emotionally suffocated soul, where it's voice can be heard, it's deepest, most truthful feelings to the world, can be disclosed.

Tonight, a year later, I looked up the lyrics and it is an apt description to the situation I just lived through.

I was entangled in a destructive relationship for almost two years. It was filled with passion, fun, lies, deceit and a whirlpool of emotions. I tried to end it almost monthly, yet we got back together again and again. The act of staying together was easier than the act of seperating, as it involved alot of emotional stress, physical fatigue and mental space, for me.

After two years I left. However, neither of us could let go. We kept in touch / long distance for almost six months, and reunited once more, continuing the long distance effect. Six months further, we moved in together. Two months later, I left once more. Now I am experiencing the lyrics of this song. Which I believe that this was initially suffered by the other a year ago, when I initially departed.

There is no trust in the relationship. No communication. One often wondered what the other was doing, messages sufficed not in answering the much sought questions, fuelled by insecurites and anxieties of the heart, stemmed from substance abuse. Yet one was too scared to question the other in person, lest it led to the unwanted reality; lies, deceit, betrayal, cheat, the hurt and pain which followed suit. One chose to live in the world of lies, to escape into the world of denial. Pretending all is fine.

Funny how the heart can be deceiving..  more than just a couple of times..

why do we fall in love so easy.. even when it's not right..

As time went on, the fights turned into verbal abuse, into violent physical aggression, to spiteful words coupled with extreme anger, frustration, and finally, hatred.

Just like the video of the this song. It depicts exactly the physical and emotional scenes suffered. So close physically, let so painful being together..

So the leaver, often takes a break from the fight, desperatley hoping for some peace and normality to be restored. Yet when away from each other, the other would feel extremely lonely and badly needed the other to come back.

Once back in each other's space, this viscious cycle of violence, aggression, betrayal, cheating, deceits, lies, hatred, anger, contempt, spite, would all return.

Where was the love?

Love turned into hate. The flame which one was so passionate, has turned into hatred, a hatred that burns, so vividly. One was too broken and damaged when the leaver left for the first time.

Both have thorns, pierced too deeply in the hearts, even love cannot detox such a toxic relationship. Perhaps time?

We are soulmates, and woundmates at the same time. Love and contempt bred on the battle grounds.

Today, a year later, I forgave us both. I have no more anger, hatred. Just sadness. Sad how the other has turned into the me, one year ago.
The other, is one year behind, still suffers what I went through. I know not, whether anger will really leave, if love will be awaken again, in the purest form.  I hope peace, love and sweetness will befall the other one day, when real issues such as childhood trauma, and affairs of the psyche such as borderline, have been confronted and dealt with, so no more escaping into the land of denial, no more taking out all personal issues relative to the psyche, onto the relationship, no more harming oneself, no more harming the other.  I really hope the soul that was long buried away, can be let free, once again.

Now, both have to really let go, both running in different directions, as fast and as far away as we can, just like in the video.. this won't kill us, it doesn't mean we are going to die.. just.. gotta get up and try, try, try..