dear Joan
I’ve almost forgotten, the pane in the window
blue dress in the doorway
dear Joan
help me remember, the face I forget
and the traps that I’ve sprung
I guess I’ve grown tired, it’s just what’s expected of me
to tear your heart from the inside to the outside
you know I was wired, I just couldn’t help it
the hundred thousand times I hurt you

dear joan, I wanted to say
that I’m sorry for the screaming last night
and the nights before
well I’ve wanted more from this
than anything I’ve ever known
dear Joan

dear joan
your face has a brightness that I’ve never seen
in the years that I’ve known you
dear joan
I pick up the pieces, but some scattered too far
you say they flew when I kicked them

I know you believed when I said it was over
you stood by me patiently waiting and broading
so deeply in love with every face that I’ve shown


once I forgive, twice I’m a fool, three times I wrapped my hands around your neck
while you’re sleeping, you’re quietly sleeping, sleeping and dreaming
dear joan
don’t walk out the doorway
because if you did
I believe I could honestly kill you

(CHORUS) x 2

Lyrics submitted by punkmebabygal

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    General CommentFrom what I can understand, I think this song is about Cheating and how people shouldn't forgive no matter what the situation may be. If you love someone so much, it makes it even harder to accept, but if you forgive them they will keep walking all over you and finally it will start to take effect on you. Which that's what the last verse is referring to. It sort of took me for a loop, a nice song...and then BAM we're talking about killing the other. You won't be a fool the second time if you don't forgive the first.
    lala19on March 26, 2002   Link
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    General Commentk what this song is REALLY about is two friends of rob thomas'. one was a crack addict and the other was his girlfriend. the song is sang from the addict's point of view.
    brokendownpunkon April 27, 2002   Link
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    General CommentFreaking different band, this is freaking tabitha's secret, not matchbox 20. You don't see people putting further seems forever songs on the dashboard page, people who put these lyrics up are stupid...
    Phrenchornon April 10, 2003   Link
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    General CommentGosh Phrenchorn.... what is your problem. I think everyone knows that it's a Tabitha's Secret song but Matchbox Twenty made up 3/5 of Tabitha's Secret when they existed. Chill out. I love this song. This is my favorite Matchbox Twenty song.
    ars musicaon April 23, 2003   Link
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    General Commentyou dumb faggot, you are contradicting yourself, everyone knows that it is a tabitha's secret song, yet it is your favorite mb20 song... still different band, no matter how you look at it...
    Phrenchornon June 09, 2003   Link
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    General Commentyeah, Phrenchorn's right, it is mostly the same guys, but the band names aren't interchangable, great song though
    Running_On_Emptyon June 11, 2003   Link
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    General CommentIt's about being an emotionally abusive person. It's tough knowing that you're doing these things to hurt someone, but not being able to stop it. You just keep apologizing over and over, but it never changes anything. It's espescially hard when you both love each other a lot. It's a really cool song to me, very haunting, no matter who did it.
    Jag3892on October 15, 2004   Link
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    General CommentWrong band, sorry.
    felineon August 14, 2006   Link
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    General Commentyou can tell its not mb20 just by the music and as soon as it talks about having his hands around her neck and says "I believe I could honestly kill you"
    thats a big red flag saying "Hey this is not a mb20 song! ! !"
    kissfreak93on July 15, 2008   Link
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    My OpinionI have to disagree with you kissfreak93 - I think the lyrics are highly recognisable as Rob's (I realise that he isn't the sole writer. I think we have established that there are significant differences between mb20 and tabitha's musically but I don't think I can say the same about the lyrics. Rob has quite a distinctive style - very powerful and very descriptive. His songs are full of raw emotion - Dear Joan is no exception
    Rainmaker91on April 22, 2010   Link

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