I see her as a little girl
Hiding in her room
She take another bath
And she spray her mama's perfume
To try to wipe away
The scent he left behind
But it haunts her mind

You see, she's his little rag
Nothing more than just a waif
And he's mopping up his need
She is tired and afraid
Maybe she'll find a way
Through these awful years
To disappear

Ask me if I think there's a God up in the Heaven
Where did He go in the middle of her shame?
Ask me if I think there's a God up in the Heavens
I see no mercy, and no one down here's naming names
Nobody's naming names

Now, she's looking in the mirror
At a lovely woman face
No more frightened little girl
Like she's gone without a trace
Still she leaves the light
Burning in the hall
It's hard to sleep at all

'Til she crawls up in her bed
Acting quiet as a mouse
Deep inside, she's listening
For a creaking in the house
But no one's left to harm her
She's finally safe and sound
There's a peace she's found

Ask her how she knows there's a God up in the Heaven
Where did He go in the middle of her shame?
Ask her how she knows there's a God up in the Heavens
She said His mercy is bringing her life again

Ask me how I know there's a God up in the Heaven
Where did He go in the middle of her shame?
Ask me how I know there's a God up in the Heavens
She said His mercy is bringing her life again

She's coming to life again

He's in the middle of her pain, in the middle of her shame
Mercy brings life
He's in the middle
Mercy in the middle

So ask me how I know
Ask me how I know, yeah

Ask me how I know there's a God up in the Heaven (how do you know?)
Ask me how I know there's a God up in the Heaven (how do you know?)
Yeah, ask me how I know (how do you know?)

Ask me, ask me, ask me (how do you know?)
Ask me how I know


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Ask Me Lyrics as written by Tom Hemby Amy Lee Grant

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    I don't know. I swing back and forth. Sometimes I think that it's sarcastic.. because it's hard for me to accept that a omnipotent god would permit children to be abused in these ways, and obviously they are.. and sometimes I think it's serious, that she's claiming god has some role in healing this child. However, since I've seen people heal from these things without the advantage of religion, I'm not sold on her thesis.

    SMUSER26982on November 20, 2004   Link
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    This song is about a little girl who is sexually abused by someone and the singer is wondering what happened to God and why didn't he stop it.

    NAV

    Never A Victimon July 19, 2007   Link
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    I dont really know what this song is about but I do know that is was written for one of Amy's friends that had been sexually abused.

    Jitneyon July 08, 2002   Link
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    I really don't think Amy Grant was being sarcastic when she wrote this - that's your spin on things.

    I think it's a pretty straight forward song. Amy has a friend who has been sexually abused as a child. Most of the song is empathizing for her friend and what her friend went through. Although Amy believes in a loving God, she still finds it hard to explain how she believes in Him to other people when horrible things like this happen. In the end, the friend says that she's still found His mercy and her friend actually answers the question for her.

    Thesis? I don't think Amy is directly trying to sell Christianity to abuse survivors.

    elwyn5150on December 30, 2005   Link
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    Unfortunately, this song is about a little girl being sexually abused over the course of years and how it affects her as an adult. I think the song's aim is genuine to say that God is bringing this woman to life again, but the lyrics of the second verse actually say the opposite to me as they contradict themselves.

    "Now, she's looking in the mirror At a lovely woman face No more frightened little girl Like she's gone without a trace Still she leaves the light Burning in the hall It's hard to sleep at all"

    Obviously, the frightened little girl is still there, because she can't even get any sleep in her own house even with the night light.

    "'Til she crawls up in her bed Acting quiet as a mouse Deep inside, she's listening For a creaking in the house But no one's left to harm her She's finally safe and sound There's a peace she's found"

    If she's feeling peaceful and as if she's "finally safe and sound," then why is skulking about, tiptoeing around in her own house, acting like she doesn't belong there?

    I think this song isn't meant to be sarcastic, even though it kind of seems that way to me. I think this song just suffers from not being well thought out or proven. Kind of like when you were given an essay topic in class to prove one way or the other, but your three page argument failed to prove your point.

    Pretty song, and I think the writer's heart was in the right place, but unless it IS meant to be sarcastic, the song is ultimately confusing and meaningless.

    thirteencatson July 02, 2022   Link

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