In an interview with Stephan Jenkins published in Billboard in 1998, he explained:...
I'm only pretty sure that I can't take anymore
Before you take a swing
I wonder what are we fighting for
When I say out loud
I want to get out of this
I wonder is there anything
I'm going to miss
I wonder how it's going to be
When you don't know me
How's it going to be
When you're sure I'm not there
How's it going to be
When there's no one there to talk to
Between you and me
Cause I don't care
How's it going to be, How's it going to be
Where we used to laugh
There's a shouting match
Sharp as a thumbnail scratch
A silence I can't ignore
Like the hammock by the
Doorway we spent time in, swings empty
Don't see lightning like last fall
When it was always about to hit me
I wonder how's it going to be
When it goes down
How's it going to be
When you're not around
How's it going to be
When you found out there was nothing
Between you and me
Cause I don't care
How's it going to be
And how's it going to be
When you don't know me anymore
And how's it going to be
Want to get myself back in again
The soft dive of oblivion
I want to taste the salt of your skin
The soft dive of oblivion oblivion
How's it going to be
When you don't know me anymore
How's it going to be, How's it going to be
How's it going to be

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"How's It Going to Be" as written by Stephan Jenkins Kevin Cadogan

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  • +15
    General CommentI think everyone can agree that this song brings back memories, it just has that type of an atmosphere..
    and its so relateable, everyone's been through something like that or similar.
    But the general feeling i get from the song is....fear. The fear we all have. The fear that we will never be able to go back to the good times that we are missing right now. The fear of change. That, even though you know the situation you are in needs to end (whatever the situation is), not wanting it to end. Not wanting to take that step that will change everything, even if that change is needed. The fear of making the wrong decision, and then realizing your mistake only after its too late. The whole 'This needs to happen, but....what's it gonna be like? When i can't talk to you anymore?' The lines "How's it gonna be..when you don't know me? How's it gonna be..when you're sure i'm not there? How's it gonna be..when there's noone there to talk to..between you and me" capture that feeling perfectly. The hesitation. The unsure-ness. The fear.
    They won't know your life, your problems, your joys anymore. They won't know YOU anymore.
    The thought that someone who is so much a part of your life right now....will eventually be nothing. It's terrifying.
    meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeon March 22, 2012   Link
  • +6
    General CommentThis song is definitely about someone who knows he has to get out of the relationship but he's not quite ready yet. He's sitting down wondering how it'll be when they're finally over; they won't associate with eachother anymore so it'll be like the don't know eachother. He wishes he could go back to the way things used to be when he was cluelessly in love and that's why he's hesitant to end the relationship.
    FavSongon July 04, 2012   Link
  • +4
    General CommentThere's an entire aspect to breaking up that deals with something other than the initial sadness and hurt you feel when the break-up happens. This part deals with the feelings that happen afterward. Its the feeling you get when you realize you aren't going to be able to see, hear from, talk to that someone you have spend so much time getting close with. It is a powerful longing feeling, and I think this song really does an excellent job tapping into that level. This song is very powerful, and sometimes I have a hard time listening to it. It's heartbreaking.
    amc83on August 11, 2010   Link
  • +2
    General CommentThree words: Stupid highschool romance...Not to say I don't miss those days, this song captures that for me.
    thisboyon January 28, 2002   Link
  • +2
    General CommentThis song reminds me of my my EX so bad i just think maybe if she could have changed and stop what she was doing i wouldnt have broken up with her.. Shitty Days
    MacBlueson December 12, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General CommentWhen a girl dumps a nice sucks! The boy starts singing, how's it gonna be...
    MisterMeaningon June 25, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI love this song because it reminds me of me and my boyfriend, we break up like all the time...and I wonder how it's gonna be when we don't get back together. You gotta love the sad depressing songs that you can relate to.
    twisteron January 06, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is the most amazing song in the world! The 4th and 5th lines hit me every time! There aren't even words for this one.....
    riskbreaker419on April 18, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis is a really great song.
    "i wanna taste the salt from your skin"
    pumpkingirlon May 03, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentOkay, this is defintiely a song about a relationship that's going down the drain. It starts out telling about the relationship and what's wrong with it. The chorus goes into "How's it going to be / When you don't know me anymore", that part seems almost spiteful towards the girl. Then, during the bridge, he reveals that he really doesn't want it to end ("I wanna get myself back in again / The soft dive of oblivion / I wanna taste the salt of your skin")
    Overall, I really like this song. One of my favorites on 3EB.
    SweetestSirenon May 14, 2002   Link

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