My father sits at night with no lights on
His cigarette glows in the dark
The living room is still
I walk by, no remark
I tiptoe past the master bedroom where
My mother reads her magazines
I hear her call sweet dreams
But I forget how to dream
(How to dream, how to dream)

But you say it's time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me
Well, that's the way I've always heard it should be
You want to marry me

My friends from college, they're all married now
They have their houses and their lawns
They have their silent noons
Tearful nights, angry dawns
Their children hate them for the things they're not (things they'll never be)
They hate themselves for what they are
And yet they drink, they laugh
Close the wound, hide the scar

But you say it's time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me
Well, that's the way I've always heard it should be
You want to marry me

You say we can keep our love alive
Babe, all I know is what I see
The couples cling and claw
And drown in love's debris
You say we'll soar like two birds through the clouds
But soon you'll cage me on your shelf
I'll never learn to be just me first
By myself

Well okay, it's time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me
Well, that's the way I've always heard it should be
You want to marry me
We'll marry


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    Clearly we have to live within reality This song is written By a male in a few view points as a duet . Let me explain , It get much better and sadder . If you listen . Foot note- Jones beach is a reference to the addiction of love ( the Jones boys, addiction ) First Verse - From a Mans view as the child in him . The Inner child's .Memories My father sits at night with no lights on His cigarette glows in the dark Ext (shortened for readability ) Two and three Duet Chorus Female voice But you say it's time we moved in together And raised a family of our own, you and me,( She is pleading ) Male Voice ,,Well, that's the way I've always heard it should be You want to marry me, we'll marry.(, He submits ) Second verse - My friends from college they're all married now They have their houses and their lawns They have their silent noons Tearful nights, angry dawns Their children hate them for the things they're not They hate themselves for what they are And yet they drink, they laugh Close the wound, hide the scar

    He is doubtful about marriage , from what He has seen as a child . He see's but she is wooing him . Chorus again , The same Female voice , But you say it's time we moved in together And raised a family of our own, you and me He submits again . Last verse - Male Voice , And this is the important part look at the words . You say we can keep our love alive Babe all I know is what I see The couples cling and claw And drown in love's debris You say we'll soar like two birds through the clouds But soon you'll cage me on your shelf I'll never learn to be just me first By myself The words -You say ... He is talking with someone, A female . She is convincing him to Marry . We see this would have made a great duet , But Carly is so good she does it as a ballad . but , she does leave clues to the meaning and why . Beer me ,Thank you .

    joeb3414on May 05, 2015   Link

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