Long were the nights when my days once revolved around you
Counting my footsteps,
Praying the floor won't fall through, again
My mother accused me of losing my mind,
But I swore I was fine, you paint me a blue sky
And go back and turn it to rain
And I lived in your chess game,
But you changed the rules every day
Wondering which version of you I might get on the phone
Tonight, well I stopped picking up, and this song is to let you know why

Dear John, I see it all now that you're gone
Don't you think I was too young to be messed with?
The girl in the dress, cried the whole way home, I should've known

Well maybe it's me and my blind optimism to blame
Maybe it's you and your sick need to give love then take it away
And you'll add my name to your long list of traitors who don't understand
And I'll look back and regret how I ignored when they said "run as fast as you can"

Dear John, I see it all now that you're gone
Don't you think I was too young to be messed with?
The girl in the dress, cried the whole way home

Dear John, I see it all, now it was wrong
Don't you think nineteen is too young
To be played by your dark twisted games, when I loved you so?
I should've known

You are an expert at sorry,
And keeping the lines blurry
Never impressed by me acing your tests
All the girls that you've run dry
Have tired, lifeless eyes
'Cause you burned them out
But I took your matches before fire could catch me,
So don't look now, I'm shining like fireworks over your sad, empty town

Dear John, I see it all now that you're gone
Don't you think I was too young to be messed with?
The girl in the dress, cried the whole way home.

I see it all now that you're gone
Don't you think I was too young to be messed with?
The girl in the dress wrote you a song
You should've known, you should've known
Don't you think I was too young? You should've known

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Dear John Lyrics as written by Taylor Swift

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  • +8
    General CommentTaylor has said numerous times that Speak Now is about the last two years of her life. So I'm betting that this is about John Mayer ... especially considering the song 'Story of Us' is about an ex-boyfriend she sees at an award show and how it's killing her that he is avoiding her. The secret message for that song is 'CMT AWARDS' ... and Lautner and Jonas would have never been to thsoe. So,I do think it's about Mayer. And the details fit him so well .. the people warning her, her being so young (why else would she mention her age if he wasn't older than her/), the blatant disrespectful way he destroys so many women that he dates. Mayer is known for being awful in relationships. it all matches up.

    As far as the song itself -- I'm going to agree with a lot of people and say it sounds like emotinoal abuse. She was deeply hurt by him. It sonds like he was manipulative and kept her on her toes and she never knew what to expect out of him. But, I love in the end how she says that she took his matches before fire could catch her. It's like saying she got away before she really got burned all the way. And when she says she's shining live fireworks over his sad empty town .. that suggest that she is able to see how she went wrong and she can work on getting happy .. while Mayer is still miserable and alone, because of his cruel treatment towards the people he dates.

    Thsi song is so raw and it captures a feeling that is very hard to pin down in words .. it's like you're grasping for something for so long and you keep working at it becasue you're so hopeful and then finally you look around and see all the destruction and how hurt you got from it all. That probably didn't make any sense. But I do adore this song and how it's written, the melody, her voice, the lyrics .. all of it. Beautiful.
    rainbowxx7on October 29, 2010   Link
  • +4
    General CommentIt's about John Mayer. I don't know the details but he's a douche either way and always has been.

    I don't get why it's taking people so long to realize that.
    SillyPhuckeron October 23, 2010   Link
  • +4
    General CommentI love how you can hear so much emotion in this song.

    It's about how she started having a relationship with someone who she'd been warned about. but she ignored whatever they had to say because she was "optimistic" about the situation and was falling for this guy (John Mayer) anyways. Seems like the relationship had a lot of ups and downs where he was trying to control her and have the upper hand. Then Taylor ended up getting hurt, so she stopped answering his phone calls before he could do more damage.

    Now SHE sees how she was naïve and too young. which is what makes john Mayer a huge douche, because he is so much older than taylor, HE should've have know. Plus he's a manipulative bipolar womanizer. His music isn't all too bad though, I'll give him that.
    mckennaaax3on October 25, 2010   Link
  • +3
    General CommentHer voice is just amazing in this. In some of her songs I think she can be a little high pitch, but this is just perfect. Her voice actually gets better by each album :D
    ilikeboatson October 24, 2010   Link
  • +3
    General CommentGO TAYLOR! John Mayer may be a good musician, but personally I have no respect for him. This is OBVIOUSLY about him, and I think he deserves it, the other girls he's screwed around with haven't had the opportunity to write a song about it :)
    IMxSARAHHHxon October 26, 2010   Link
  • +3
    General CommentThis is about john mayer. even the music she CHOOSE to use is john mayer riffs. it sounds like a john mayer song. all of his songs have about the same music. I love john mayer and no every single one of his songs from the last two cd's by heart and i can't even tell the difference from the songs until he starts to sing the words. This was when they sang "Half of my Heart" together. Besides, she hasn't been to high school in years. She writes her songs from what is current in her life.
    raechel1309on October 27, 2010   Link
  • +3
    General CommentWhether this song is about John Mayer or not really isn't important in my opinion. It's a perfect and beautiful description of an emotionally abusive relationship. Very sad.
    amygimson May 13, 2011   Link
  • +3
    General Comment"And I lived in your chess game, but you changed the rules every day."
    I've been in a similar relationship, unfortunately.
    midnightcookieson August 31, 2011   Link
  • +3
    MemoryPerfect song to describe being used, too... I just got out of a particularly confusing relationship where, when I moved home, he'd disappear for days at a time only to reappear. I was like a drug addict waiting for a hit. My mother told me I was acting crazy, and I still held onto some hope that it'd be okay.

    In the end, he lied. About everything. Even the reason he dumped me. And everyone saw it but me. I lashed out because I'd been holding it in for weeks and weeks, apologized... And he acted like he was the victim, and used my own pain to hurt me even more.

    I'll be where he is next spring, and I can't wait to "shine like fireworks", seeing as the best revenge is to be better.
    sweetestdownfallon October 10, 2011   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI don't really like Taylor Swift, but this is a perfect description of the emotionally abusive relationship I was in at nineteen. It's amazing what you see in retrospect (the things that yes, my mother said I was crazy for not seeing).

    Literally everything here is on point:

    He was my world, and that world would be a completely different place every day. I never knew when something I did would upset him, and when he was upset, it was awful for everyone. My mom & all my friends told me to run, that he'd never change, that I deserved better, but I was convinced that we just needed to get through this "rough spot" (that lasted a year and a half of our two-year relationship) and it would all be fine. Friends of his said this was nothing new to him, that he pulled similar nonsense on every previous girlfriend and many friends (the ones he claimed were crazy and clingy and never knew or understood him like I did).

    Every time he would lose control and go psycho on me (We had to call the cops on him multiple times for trying to hurt me or himself) he would apologize and say it would be better, and make vague promises and expect it to all be water under the bridge when he never forgave me for a single thing. I was crazy in love with him, and he was playing mind games.

    19 really is too young to go through all that. I definitely feel for her.
    roadtoaweon October 27, 2010   Link

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