You didn't have to be so nice
I would have liked you anyway
If you had just looked once or twice
And gone upon your quiet way

Today I said the time was right for me to follow you
I knew I'd find you in a day or two
And it's true

You came upon a quiet day (ooh)
You simply seemed to take your place (ooh)
I knew that it would be that way (ooh)
The minute that I saw your face (ooh)

And when we've had a few more days (when we've had a few more days)
I wonder if I'll get to say (wonder if I'll get to say)
You didn't have to be so nice (be so nice)
I would have liked you anyway (would have liked)

Today I said the time was right for me to follow you
I knew I'd find you in a day or two
And it's true

You didn't have to be so nice (didn't have to be so nice)
I would have liked you anyway (would have liked you anyway)
If you had just looked once or twice (once or twice)
And gone upon your quiet way (quiet way)

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You Didn't Have to Be So Nice Lyrics as written by Steve Boone John Sebastian

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    Taking a wild swing at this... I'm guessing the song is about a girl whom the singer liked and went over the top to be kind to him. This causes him to feel bad because he liked her before she even started being really nice to him. The resolution is somewhat unclear but it would appear that they got to know each other at the least.
    Blarnayon November 01, 2008   Link
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    This song makes me cry! You meet the woman of your dreams and she is so really nice and she didn't have to be. She just fit. The line you simply seem to take your place and I knew it would be that way the moment that I saw your face. It probably doesn't happen to everyone but it does happen but probably only once in a life time. Thank John B.
    bcmorrison May 04, 2011   Link
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    I can't believe this song only has one comment. It's so perky and cheerful. I heard it for the first time on a car commercial in the 1990's, but it was played in instrumental format as a narrator did a spoken word rendition of the chorus. Good stuff.
    goddesscarolineon January 28, 2009   Link
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    I never quite got this song. The words seem to be so upbeat, but the melody is in a minor key, which leads me to believe that Sebastian is foreseeing a sad end to this love affair. So this song has been a puzzle to me ever since I first heard it as a young boy 47 years ago.
    mbrachmanon March 13, 2012   Link

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