Take Me For Longing Lyrics
Don't choose me because I am kind.
If your heart settles on me, I'm for the taking.
Take me for longing or leave me behind.
I would be, for you, an opening door.
Time and hard lessons are one kind of wisdom.
Try to forget them or love me no more.
I'm not asking for promise or pledge.
Whatever the answer, it's yes that's the question.
I am the fool dancin' over the edge.
Don't choose me because I am kind.
If your heart settles on me, I'm for the taking.
Take me for longing or leave me behind.
This is one of my favorites of hers and she has impressed me musically with quite a few tracks. This song makes me think of Coming Down by The Weeknd and My Boots by Lights. It's especially about not wishing to be used; rather, to be appreciated and desired and loved for who she is not for what she can do (or does) for another. Being a buddy or nurse or nanny or mother or confidant is not the role that flatters her. Many women are nurturers by nature (some of us feel both blessed and cursed with our comfort in using the title to describe ourselves), but most wish to be viewed as women first and foremost...that means we want to be loved/appreciated for our personalities; our looks (some of us have good looks and some of us do not, but we get by); our sexuality; etc. Alison's song, I believe, speaks for many women...
I do believe that would fall under 'sexuality.' I can't imagine sex without hugs and kisses, although I'm not sure I even recall what sex is now that I think about it :( Gee, thanks for having me think about something I had worked hard to forget. And what's a fake hug? Forget it....I know; my former inlaw used to always kiss me on the cheek while patting my back.
I do believe that would fall under 'sexuality.' I can't imagine sex without hugs and kisses, although I'm not sure I even recall what sex is now that I think about it :( Gee, thanks for having me think about something I had worked hard to forget. And what's a fake hug? Forget it....I know; my former inlaw used to always kiss me on the cheek while patting my back.
Hello. In what century were you born? People don't wait until their marriage day to have their first kiss ;) Then again, there are still arranged marriages. As for bear hugs for friends, that falls into that non-longing role. It's not a fun role.
Hello. In what century were you born? People don't wait until their marriage day to have their first kiss ;) Then again, there are still arranged marriages. As for bear hugs for friends, that falls into that non-longing role. It's not a fun role.
I love this song. I also love the artist. It's about a woman who feels she is needed (or her time is) but not wanted. Like any woman, she wants to be desired as a woman, not because she is maternal or kind or helpful. She wants him to understand that she's not willing to be his friend. It's not the role she wants. She wants him to leave her behind due to his wants/needs being different from hers, and she is convinced they are different. I have a female friend who told someone she loved that it was 5 years and 40 lbs too late for them; she knew that she (the woman she loved) didn't try to woo her for the right reasons. And she knew it was probably why the woman kept her distance when she could have been in her life. Good song and deep meaning.
It's not debatable; the lyrics are simple. She knows what he want is not what she wants so she wishes to be left behind. It's self-explanatory. She knows they're no match and never will be.
I disagree that it's a foregone conclusion that there's no match. I take a much more "just fish or cut bait" tone from it. And that she's saying don't do it because it's the logical or "right" choice (e.g., the singer is faithful and kind), but rather, because you long for me.
The first verse also seems to imply that her audience has had some bad experiences in the past, which appear to be where the stumbling block to this love is coming from (Time and hard lessons are one kind of wisdom. Try to forget them or love me no more).
It's the second verse that I'm a little more hazy on. It seems like she's saying, "I don't really care if you trust me or want to be committed to me, I just want you to love me, and I'm willing to put myself on the line for that." To me, that just doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense- I guess mostly because with me trust and love are pretty intertwined. I'm guessing I'm also significantly less likely to put myself on the line for someone I have to say "just fish or cut bait" to than the protagonist of the song. :)
Any other thoughts on that second verse?