Take my shoulder back now
Your head's too heavy for me
Please don't come around here no more
'cause I asked you to stop
And you wouldn't

[Chorus]
I would give anything to make you better
I would give anything to point you to free
I would give anything to help you realise

I loved you 'til it killed me
So my logic wouldn't hurt you
I know you might blame me anyway
Well I'm sorry, I'm so sorry

[Chorus]
[added]
You're not helping yourself to me

I've tried all the things they told me to do
Trying to close up the wounds left open by you
And if I seem doubtful, distrusting.....I am
You said you wouldn't do it again
You said you wouldn't do it again

Anything just to try and help you see
You ain't helping yourself by hurting me
[I would give anything]
Time to let you go, time for you to see
[To make you better]
You ain't helping yourself by hurting me
[I would give anything]
Anything just to try and help you see
[To point you....to free]
You ain't helping yourself by hurting me
[I would give anything]
Time to let you go, time for you to see
[Oh, anything for you to help you realise]
You ain't helping yourself by hurting me

You're not helping yourself
You're not helping yourself by hurting me






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    is this about a abusive relationship?
    shanimal_caton September 09, 2006   Link
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    It's about being dragged into someones downward spiral. It's about her dad, I think.
    ohsedatemeon August 21, 2007   Link
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    What happened with her dad? I'm really interested to know what it means. It's my favourite Brooke Fraser song!
    turtleyon August 30, 2007   Link
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    i think that this song may be about someone very close to her who is either sick or a drug addicit, as it says in the songs she would give anything to make him better and to help them realise that there not helping anything by doing this. she is also saying that by doing this its hurting her as well
    hanny911on April 02, 2008   Link
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    I think it's as ohsedateme says - someone dragging you into their downward spiral. It's about wanting to do anything you can to help that person - but the thing is they are dragging you down to the point you can't help them. To a point where you can barely help yourself (Your heads to heavy for me) You ask them to stop but they don't they keep you dragging down and as much as you love them you just can't help them anymore.
    Ginger_Kisseson July 15, 2008   Link
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    I think that this song is about being in a relationship with anyone a friend a best friend or a love and it is evident that you love them very much but things are getting to the point where you are putting all the effort and this person won't change their ways. They keep hurting you with their actions but in order to save your self u ask them to leave u bescause change is not of them. You would give anything for them to change their ways and to see this loved one succeed but meanwhile you have to take your space no matter how much you love them because them hurting you isn't doing much for either person.
    malahat27on January 15, 2010   Link
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    The video clip tells the story of a girl with a drunken abusive father, and her search for a way out. It is not about her Dad, but was written for a friend who had an alcoholic father. Overall, it is a song about being in an abusive relationship and realizing that you need to get out, but still feeling guilty about leaving them behind and hurting them, even though the have hurt you so much more. Victims of abusive relationships often blame themselves, and feel they have to fix the problem.
    auntdewon July 31, 2011   Link

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