I didn't mean to make you feel out of place
By the comments on your clothing or the makeup on your face
I didn't mean to preempt the chase
You're the drama queen of every scene perfectly out of place
So you cry yourself to sleep on your blanket of snow
With your tiara of Barbie doll heads and your arms crossed for a pillow
If you can't make up your mind just how different you should be
Reorganize your priorities to expect more sympathy

Only cynicism can get through to you
Expand the image, up the insults
Negativism through and through
All of this pretending makes me feel a bit confused
You've spent your life losing yourself
And now you're marked as used
So you cry yourself to sleep on your blanket of snow
With your tiara of Barbie doll heads and your arms crossed for a pillow

If you can't make up your mind just how different you should be
Reorganize your priorities to expect more sympathy


Lyrics submitted by badsrx7, edited by Mellow_Harsher

I'm Afraid of Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf song meanings
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    To me this song is about a girl who loses herself in trying to be what everyone else is or expects her to be...and she just becomes used to changing her personality from situation to situation until she realizes what she's doing to herself-the mess she's made of her life. "You've spent your life losing yourself and now you're marked as used." I'm not sure what the title has to do with it. 'Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf' is a play by Edward Albee that has NOTHING to do with Virginia Woolf. It's actually about a very fucked up couple. Here's an excerpt from the synopsis: "In the end, the mystery in which the distressed George and Martha have taken refuge is exposed, once and for all revealing the degrading mess they have made of their lives." I don't know if any of that makes any kind of sense. Perhaps it is a comparison to the character Martha?
    saraisnotcleveron March 29, 2005   Link
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    that and the fact you seem to like Oasis.
    blanktomon March 22, 2006   Link
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    the relation between the song, play and writer is this- the song is a play on 'whose afraid of virginia woolf' if youve read the play, the wife drunkenly sings "whose afraid of virginia woolf" to the tune of "whose afraid of the big bad wolf", which, according to Albee, the wolf, and what it, and Virginia Woolf represents is THE TRUTH (about life, relations, everything i suppose). i guess that means that MBD are saying they are afraid of someone who fears the truth...
    chordmongeron March 09, 2008   Link
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    He said at last night's show at the Abbey Pub in Chicago that this song is a rip on Emo that he wrote while back-packing in Italy in 2001.
    theorgangrinderon March 30, 2008   Link
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    Before Murder by Death was Murder by Death (Little Joe Gould)....These guys are absolutely amazing live and the cello adds a whole new dimension to their sound. I think this band is great not just because they are all strong musicians who play well and interact on stage well, but because their lyrics are well thought out and meaningful. The introduction to this song was what caught my attention the first time I heard it...very haunting
    unionpunkgirlon May 26, 2004   Link
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    what was the introduction?
    theDubScouton June 18, 2004   Link
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    Virginia Woolf is a character in the cartoon Rocko's Modern Life, just in case you didn't know
    Morning Gloryon October 11, 2004   Link
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    Sure, but in reality the title is a parody of the title of a book, "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf," Virginia Woolf being a famous writer. She wrote quite a number of books.
    prayingmantis84on October 22, 2004   Link
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    Excuse, it's a play.
    prayingmantis84on October 22, 2004   Link
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    I love how people today have so little culture that they draw more connections to characters in cartoons than famous writers.
    oh_doctor_doctoron October 30, 2004   Link

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