I've driven round in circles for three hours
It was bound to happen that I'd end up at yours
I temporarily forgot there's better days to come
I thought that I would give it just one more chance

'cause I want, tonight, what I've been waiting for
But I found, tonight, what I'd been warned about

You think you are complicated, deep mystery to all
Well it's taken me a while to see, you're not so special
All energy no meaning, with a lot of words
So paper thin that one real feeling, could knock you down

And I've seen, tonight, what I'd been warned about
I'm gonna leave, tonight, before I change my mind

So see you when you're 40, lost and all alone
Being comforted by strangers you'll never need to know
Not sad because you lost me
But sad because you thought it was cool to be sad

You think misery will make you stand apart from the crowd
Well if you had walked past me today I wouldn't have picked you out
I wouldn't have picked you out
I wouldn't have picked you out

Now I've seen, tonight, how could I waste my time
And I'll be on my way, and I won't be back
'Cause I've seen, tonight, what I've been warned about
You're just a boy, not a man, and I'm not coming back


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See You When You're 40 [DVD] Lyrics as written by Aubrey Vernon Nunn Dido Armstrong

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    A more literal interpretation of this song could go as such: She thinks she's in love with this guy who is "all talk and no walk." She makes it clear that while he wants to seem mysterious and deep, this is all just a show; in reality, this guy doesn't know anything about emotion. She knows this, but can't help but still want him, even though whenever she spends time with him she knows he is completely false.

    She decides to leave - "I'm gonna leave, tonight, before I change my mind," reassuring herself that this guy isn't going anywhere with his life and he's a complete downer. ("You think misery will make you stand apart from the crowd") By separating herself from this guy, she'll rise above him and stand out, not wasting her time anymore - "now I've seen, tonight, how I could waste my time / and I'll be on my way, and I won't be back."

    KatieCon December 24, 2004   Link
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    I actually like it. Whenever i'm thinking irrationally about things around me it's a bit like a wake up call. But whatever.

    shadowangelon May 04, 2004   Link
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    I really like this song too..from the first time I heard it it's really stuck with me. "Not sad because you lost me, but sad because you thought it was cool to be sad". I love that line, I think everyone knows people that can be described like that.

    browneyedbeautyon May 24, 2004   Link
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    this song is exactly what i just went through this past month. i was dating a boy. a sad one. and he thought it was cool. i really like him, but apparently, he liked being sad more than being happy (which is what i made him), and i had to end it before it was able to truly begin because the pain was too much. and i need a MAN. not a sad little boy. maybe when he grows up we could try again....

    angeleyesudon April 04, 2005   Link
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    This song is Great! I think it means when a guy has said alot of things to you which you want to hear, you know deep down theres feeling there and you like what you see, but he has this other side to him where he doesnt let you in or show you his true emotions, I am in a situation like this at the moment, I love the line '' All energy no meaning, with alot of words' Great track, as always.

    Gemson April 10, 2005   Link
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    I really agree with shadowangel about this being a sort of wake-up call, when you stop thinking irrationally and just simply look at it objectively. She's driven round in circles and ended up at his house, and she suddenly realizes that she doesn't remember any of the reasons why she would still want to be with him - "Cuz I want, tonight what I've been waiting for - But I've seen, tonight, what I've been warned about." And then when she sees that, "I've seen, tonight, how could I waste my time" What I love about this song is how it's not malicious, it's just that she's realized, and she knows she's not going to be coming back to him

    cheetah9714on May 02, 2005   Link
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    on repeat for me at the moment, i love the lines; "You think that you are complicated, deep mystery to all Well it's taken me a while to see, you're not so special" can jus relate to it, wen u choose a guy u wud neva normally go for, u fall for him in a major way, and then suddenly u see that infact he isn't all that, mroe lies beneath that person u fell for and its not rele ll that gr8!

    hunnybee4uon January 20, 2006   Link
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    I'm completely with KatieC on this one. I also like cheetah9714's comment that it's not malicious. It really is just an understanding that "I don't really want you the way I thought I did."

    ...On a personal note, I guess I didn't realize what a universal theme this is. I'm in the process of telling myself what Dido is telling herself here. In the song, it's a sudden, simple realization. If only decisions in life were so easy. Still, it's comforting when I get tied up in what-could-be to listen to this song and think, "He's all wrong for you. And that's OK."

    ElectraInsteadon February 09, 2006   Link
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    I love this song, and I know it sounds crazy, but I always thought this was about someone who is in love with a goth. Ok, so shoot me. I can understand what everyone else is saying, though - your interpretations probably make more sense than mine. :D

    hedgehogkisseson November 02, 2006   Link
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    Hedgehog kisses, so true, emos haha.

    OMG, call me pedantic but I hate it when people misspell "you're"

    It's not that f***ing hard.

    bayberry_moonon December 25, 2006   Link

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