Dear darling
Your mom, my friend
Left a message on my machine
She was frantic
Saying you were talking crazy

That you wanted to do away with yourself
Guess she thought I would be the perfect resort
Because we've had this inexplicable connection since our youth

And yes, they're in shock
They are panicked
You and your chronic
Them and their drama
You this embarrassment
Us in the middle of this delusion

If we were our bodies
If we were our futures
If we were our defenses
I'd be joining you

If we were our culture
If we were our leaders
If we were our denials
Id be joining you

I remember vividly a day years ago
We were camping
You knew more than you thought you should know
You said I don't want ever to be brainwashed
And you were mind boggling, you were intense
You were uncomfortable in your own skin
You were thirsty
But mostly you were beautiful

If we were our name tags
If we were our rejections
If we were our outcomes
I'd be joining you

If we were our indignities
If we were our successes
If we were our emotions
I'd be joining you

You and I, were like four year olds
We want to know why, and how come about everything
We want to reveal ourselves at will, and speak our minds
And never talk small talk and be intuitive
And question mightily, and find God my tortured beacon

We need to find like-minded companions

If we were their condemnations
If we were their projections
If we were our paranoias, I'd be joining you

If we were our incomes
If we were our obsessions
If we were our afflictions, Id be joining you

We need a reflection
We need a really good memory
Feel free to call me a little more often


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Joining You Lyrics as written by Alanis Nadine Morissette Glen Ballard

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    My favorite lines in this song are "we need reflection/ we need a really good memory/ feel free to call me a little more often". To me, this song is about best friends who went through a tremendous deal of stuff together. As the years went by, they drifted apart, as friends all too often do. This song is her remembering all the crazy times she had with this person, and the last lines are so beautifully chilling.

    nietzsche_66on June 03, 2002   Link

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