There was a time when I had nothing to explain
Oh, this mess I have made
But then things got complicated
My innocence has all but faded
Oh, this mess I have made

And I don't believe in god
So I can't be saved
All alone as I've learned to be
In this mess I have made

All the untested virtue
The things I said I'd never do
Least of all to you
I know he's kind and true
I know that he is good to you
He'll never care for you more than I do

But I don't believe in love
And I can't be tamed
All alone as I've learned to be
In this mess
I have made the same mistakes
Over and over again

There are rooms in this house that I don't open anymore
Dusty books of pictures on the floor
That she will never see
She'll never see that part of me
I want to be for her
What I could never be for you

But I don't believe in god
So I can't be saved
All alone as I've learned to be
In this mess I have made


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    Definitely this is some guy, kicking himself for the way he took a girl (who adored him) for granted ("All the untested virtue/The things I said I'd never do/Least of all to you")... and when he finally realizes all the crap he's drug her through, she's moved on ("I know that he is good to you/ He'll never care for you more than I do"). So he moves on too, but he still feels like he'll love the girl forever inside ("I want to be for her/What I could never be for you").

    emann333on June 21, 2002   Link

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