Again and again the same situation
For so many years
Tethered to a ringing telephone
In a room full of mirrors
A pretty girl in your bathroom
Checking out her sex appeal
I asked myself when you said you loved me
"Do you think this can be real?"

Still, I sent up my prayer
Wondering where it had to go
With heaven full of astronauts
And the Lord on death row
While the millions of his lost and lonely ones
Call out and clamor to be found
Caught in the struggle for higher position
And the search for love that sticks around

You've had lots of lovely women
Now you turn your gaze to me
Weighing the beauty and the imperfection
To see if I'm worthy
Like the church
Like a cop
Like a mother
You want me to be truthful
Sometimes you turn it on me like a weapon though
And I need your approval

Still, I sent up my prayer
Wondering who was there to hear
I said "send me somebody
Who's strong and somewhat sincere"
With the millions of the lost and lonely ones
I called out to be released
Caught in my struggle for higher achievements
And my search for love
That don't seem to cease


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Same Situation Lyrics as written by Joni Mitchell

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    General Comment

    Rising out of the seething masses, two who have tenitively chosen each other weigh the alternatives before committing.

    Zubbyon June 17, 2006   Link
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    My Interpretation

    Joni has gone on to say that it's about a woman who is in pursuit of love but only comes out finding Don Juan's, ladies man basically.

    The track is her own "You're So Vain" in a way, but much more detail oriented and the way she describes it may be about Warren Beatty (who ironically is also one of the men Carly Simon namechecks on Vain), who had attempted to win over Joni between 1972-73, but she could see right through him.

    Regardless, it's about a player who's always in the same situation, and a girl (or maybe even a man) who has got themselves in the same situation. "Tethered to a ringing telephone, in a room full of mirrors". Always falling for the wrong person who gets your anxiety going bonkers. "A pretty girl in your bathroom, checking out her sex appeal", the man has been in this predicament before where he's about to or has laid down with a woman who's getting ready in his bathroom. He may have been with "lots of lovely women" but these women always get themselves involved with him sexually, for he himself has a sex appeal.

    "With heaven full of astronauts and the lord on death row" -- this line has always interested me and I think it's associated religion with the adulations that often a player will utilize on their victims. The lord on death row almost sounds like someone who has used God for other means besides what God is intended to be for. Salvation and perseverance, for example. Instead he uses his time to lure women, buy fancy cars and drink booze, maybe do drugs too. Involving himself in one or two or three or more of the seven deadly sins.

    "Like the church, like a cop, like a mother, you want me to be truthful" -- point blank is about men who have high expectations on what a woman should be to him. The church being strong, God-fearing and maybe even innocent (perhaps also pure or a virgin), a cop being one who has "morals" per say and a mother, basically someone to take care of him. Cook for him and clean. "You want me to be truthful" -- appease his every needs and desires and succumb to his callings whenever necessary. "Sometimes you turn it on me like a weapon, though and I need your approval" after the previous lines oozes with sarcasm. "Oh because I don't wanna coddle you like a baby and I'm not a sweet, pure little dainty girl, you use that against me to make me feel guilty. That I'm a modern woman and I'm not a dotting housewife or your mother who will take care of you.".

    The last stanza is basically someone who is sick and tired of always catching the same needy men who hides behind a facade that he's not like the rest but really only wants one and one thing only out of her. "I said send me somebody who's strong and somewhat sincere, with the millions of the lost and lonely ones, I called out to be released" -- she wants out of this trap she seems to always get herself into. And the last line is quite sad because she knows that the man after this one will probably end up being exactly like the previous one. "Caught in my struggle for higher achievements, and my search for love, that don't seem to cease" echoes Joni's own love life where she has often got herself involved with men who have toxicity or have toxic tendencies. Whether they're emotionally or mentally abusive or are abusing themselves by means of substances. The same can be said for many young people who try so aimlessly to find love that's either not fulfilling at all or becomes almost like a drug that you can't get yourself off of.

    w0rldcliqueon June 12, 2020   Link
  • 0
    My Interpretation

    Joni has gone on to say that it's about a woman who is in pursuit of love but only comes out finding Don Juan's, a ladies man basically.

    The track is her own "You're So Vain" in a way, but much more detail oriented and also giving the perspective of the woman more so. And the way she describes it may be about Warren Beatty (who ironically is also one of the men Carly Simon name checks on Vain), who had attempted to win over Joni between 1972-73, but she could see right through him.

    Regardless, it's about a player who's always in the same situation, and a girl (or maybe even a man) who has got themselves in the same situation. "Tethered to a ringing telephone, in a room full of mirrors". Always falling for the wrong person who gets your anxiety going bonkers. "A pretty girl in your bathroom, checking out her sex appeal", the man has been in this predicament before where he's about to or has laid down with a woman who's getting ready in his bathroom. This could also be the woman observing herself as she's in yet another bathroom, about to sleep with yet another man who she thinks is in love with her but that's really not the case. He may have been with "lots of lovely women" but these women always get themselves involved with him sexually, for he himself has a sex appeal.

    "With heaven full of astronauts and the lord on death row" -- this line has always interested me and I think it's associating religion with the adulations that often a player will utilize on their victims. The lord on death row almost sounds like someone who has used God for other means besides what God is intended to be for. Salvation and perseverance, for example. Instead he uses his time to lure women, buy fancy cars and drink booze, maybe do drugs too. Involving himself in one or two or three or more of the seven deadly sins. The concept of religion is ingrained in the fibers of this song in almost every stanza.

    "Like the church, like a cop, like a mother, you want me to be truthful" -- point blank is about men who have high expectations on what a woman should be to him. The church being strong, God-fearing and maybe even innocent (perhaps also pure or a virgin), a cop being one who has "morals" per say and a mother, basically someone to take care of him, cook for him and clean. "You want me to be truthful" -- appease his every needs and desires and succumb to his callings whenever necessary. "Sometimes you turn it on me like a weapon, though and I need your approval" after the previous lines oozes with sarcasm. "Oh because I don't wanna coddle you like a baby and I'm not a sweet, pure little dainty girl, you use that against me to make me feel guilty. That I'm a modern woman and I'm not a dotting housewife or your mother who will take care of you.".

    The last stanza is basically someone who is sick and tired of always catching the same needy men who hides behind a facade that he's not like the rest but really only wants one thing and one thing only out of her. "I said send me somebody who's strong and somewhat sincere, with the millions of the lost and lonely ones, I called out to be released" -- she wants out of this trap she seems to always get herself into. And the last line is quite sad because she knows that the man after this one will probably end up being exactly like the previous one and she'll just end up in a constant search for true love. "Caught in my struggle for higher achievements, and my search for love, that don't seem to cease" echoes Joni's own love life where she has often got herself involved with men who have toxicity or have toxic tendencies. Whether they're emotionally or mentally abusive or are abusing themselves by means of substances. The same can be said for many young people who try so aimlessly to find love that's either not fulfilling at all or becomes almost like a drug that you can't get yourself off of.

    w0rldcliqueon June 12, 2020   Link

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