Perfect

Song MeaningThis is a really good song. A lot of people really need to hear it whether they are parents or children. Alanis is sort of being sarcastic in these lyrics. I remember hearing this song when I was 15 and thinking "Surely she can't be serious." My parents always made me feel like I was on top of the world. They have always been proud of me even though I was not perfect. The song is about parents who have unrealistic expectations for their children. You have to get that 4.0 every term. You have to get into this college. My great grandfather and his father before that went to this college. You have to win the state championship; I'm not having any losers in my family. Get out there and win! You have to get this part in the school play. You have to win the beauty pageant. I never won the beauty pageant when I was your age etc...There are a lot of parents who pull that kind of crap. You really see how ridiculous that type of parenting is when the song reaches the bridge. Some parents live through their children. It's a very small and selfish thing to do. That kind of pressure causes children psychological harm. They deserve better. They are entitled to better. Every parent needs to expect their kids to be the best that they can be, but no child is going to posess all of the qualities that those parents wanted for their children. A big part of love is acceptance. The message these kids get is "We love you just the way you are if you're perfect." A lot of times parents who raise their kids like that have an even more difficult time establishing relationships with them as adults. When those kids finally become their own people and move out they don't want anything to do with their parents. The parents can't figure out why. I had wonderful parents. This song just makes me appreciate my family more.

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General CommentI think this song is about parents who have really high expectations for their children and what they are really unconciously saying

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General Commenti really feel this song has touched anyone who has heard it at one point or another, cause everyone has had those feelings of not "beging good enough" or not "living up" to the expectations of yourself or other. she tells it how it is from the eyes of a child how much pressure is being placed on a kid. so when ya feel like shit and ya need to shed a tear, i recommend this one.

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General Commentwhen jagged little pill first came out i wasn't a smart person when it came to music. i just listened to "ironic" over and over again. when my music sense finally came to me i listened to the whole cd and this song made me cry. dammit, i cried. the lyrics are strong and the message is stimulating. sad song.

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General CommentIt's called "Little Leauge Syndrome". It's an actual disorder. When parents live vicariously through their children it can cause the child a mental disorder. It was this song that gave me the idea to write a play for Directing class on this topic.

I mean, I'm close with my parents but I'm so glad the don't push me to "make up for what they blew."

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General Commentan honest song that made me cry. i can relate entirely to it.
parents with all sorts of high expectations they put on you.... up until the point where your life isn't really yours anymore.
one of my favourites of Alanis' writings.

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My InterpretationJagged Little Pill came out when I was in high school. I was crazy about every track. Whenever I heard "Perfect" I would grouse to myself about my family, my parents, and their expectations.

Just the other day I heard this song again, for the first time as a parent of a 6 yr old. I was just floored, humbled, it's so hard to NOT be the parents in this song.

I'm going to listen to it often just to remind myself that our children's lives are for them, not as a continuation of our youth.

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General CommentI think this song is about parents who have really high expectations for their children and what they are really unconciously saying

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General CommentI think this song is about parents who have really high expectations for their children and what they are really unconciously saying

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General CommentI think everyone can, at some point in their life, realte to this song completely. Personally, my grandparents and parents are that way.. they expect me to be everything I'm not and want me to live their lives. What a great song
*peace*

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