I ain't got a heart of stone
I'm hurtin' more now than I've ever known
If you mean the things you said
I'm gonna wind up out a my head
Can't sleep alone at night
I just can't seem to get it right
Damned if I do
Damned if I don't but I love you

I don't want to tie you down
Don't need a reason to have you around
But each time you walk away
Don't be surprised if I ask you to stay
Can't sleep alone at night
I just can't seem to get it right
Damned if I do
And I'm damned if I don't but I love you
I said I'm damned if I do
And I'm damned if I don't cause I love you

I ain't got a heart of stone
You haven't left me a mind of my own
But it's got such a hold on me
I don't think I could ever be free
How can I survive
I'm fighting to keep myself alive
I'm damned if I do
Damned if I don't but I love you
Can't seem to see the light
I've done everything but I can't get it right
Damned if I do
Damned if I don't but I love you


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"Damned If I Do" as written by Eric Woolfson Alan Parsons

Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group

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  • +2
    My InterpretationThis is a very good song, allowing many meanings to be found in it.

    I find something in particular: losing your identity in another person, or in "couplehood".

    A man needs physical affection ("can't sleep alone at night") but faces a troubled relationship. IMHO men often resort to being a wimp (escapism or passiveness) or a jerk (aggressive, blaming or insensitivity). Thus, they "just can't seem to get it right".

    But trying to do right by a woman, setting aside your needs can result in "You haven't left me a mind of my own. But it's got such a hold on me, I don't think I could ever be free. How can I survive; I'm fighting to keep myself alive"

    Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
    txnuke1201on March 01, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General CommentCan't believe this classic song has no entries!

    Wow! Where do I start?

    Can we say 'lover's dilemma'?

    This song is about a person who loves someone else, but the love may/maynot be reciprocated... and the ensuing, conflicting thoughts are the theme.

    I think the highlight of the song is "conflict" or "clash".

    The person in love is "damned if they do" or "damned if they don't" because their attraction is so strong that they can't think of anything else... but on the other hand, rejection is a looming specter because the person cannot deal with the "rejection" either.
    mobileinfantryon May 20, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentWhen I first heard this song, I thought this was Elton John!
    Warren67on September 15, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song was big about the time I was in college in the early 80’s. When I first met my first love, it was at a college dance. The music was quite loud and we couldn’t hear each other talk so we pulled out our college Id’s and one look at mine I thought he about had a stroke. Turns out his sister was married to my uncle. Apparently we met as children though I didn’t remember it. His mother for some reason didn’t approve of our connection and me not being Catholic didn’t help my cause. During our school winter break, he was on my mind as I was attracted to him but felt we were doomed, as it seemed we were “damned if we got together and damned if we didn’t try”. We had a rocky seven month long relationship mostly due to his unapproving mother though his father was ok with it.
    Green eyed Ladyon February 09, 2019   Link

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