No Myth (Romeo in Black Jeans) Lyrics
but wanted to be sure I know
she hopes we can be friends
I think yeah, I guess we can say I
but didn't think to ask her why
she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains
with knots I've got yet to untie
what if I were Romeo in black jeans
what if I was Heathcliff, its no myth
maybe she's just looking for
someone to dance with
and looking for some parallel
can be an endless game
We said goodbye before hello
my secrets she will never know
and if I dig a hole to China
I'll catch the first junk to Soho
some things in life you cannot measure by degrees
I'm between the poles and the equator
don't send no private investigator to find me please
'less he speaks Chinese
and can dance like Astaire overseas

This song is about a man who has been rejected by a woman he believes he could make very happy, but she doesn't give him the chance to do so. It's one of my favorite songs of all time; Michael Penn is one of the most underrated lyricists of his generation and the wordplay here is really cute.
Some of the interpretations above are right, but others misunderstood what the words meant. I'll try to provide my understanding of this song here.
So, she says its time she goes but wanted to be sure I know she hopes we can be friends
It's implied here that a man has approached a woman about entering into a relationship with him. She cares about him, taking the time to "make sure [he] knows she hopes we can be friends" but doesn't see him as more than that. But "it's time she goes," so she leaves him to his thoughts by himself. Then he realizes:
I think yeah, I guess we can say I but didn't think to ask her why
He was so shocked/ upset at her rejection that he's having a hard time collecting his thoughts ("I think - yeah I guess...") and it hits him that it didn't occur to ask her why not. Why doesn't she want to be with him? He thinks he's perfect for her. Some people have been confused by the "but" in that line, but I think that's just a lyrical embellishment. The line really means:
"I guess I didn't think to ask her why."
she blocked her eyes
She doesn't want to see what he's proposing, that they'd be good together.
and drew the curtains with knots I've got yet to untie
She rejected him for reasons he still can't figure out.
(Chorus) what if I were Romeo in black jeans
I think it's distracting to focus on the tragedy aspect of "Romeo and Juliet." He names famous romantic figures. What if he's Romeo and she's his Juliet? Why didn't she stop to think about that?
what if I was Heathcliff, its no myth
He believes that they, like Heathcliff and Romeo and their respective lady loves, could have epic love - REAL epic love. He believes this - it's no myth.
But alas:
maybe she's just looking for someone to dance with
Maybe she isn't into epic right now.
See, it was just too soon to tell
He feels like her decision was rash. She rejected the idea of a relationship a priori (she shut her eyes and tied the curtains up in knots) when she hadn't even given them a chance to tell if it would work out between them.
and looking for some parallel can be an endless game
He's realizing that he could easily torture himself by trying to figure out the whys and wherefores.
We said goodbye before hello
Again, a reiteration of the sentiment that their relationship was nipped in the bud too soon.
my secrets she will never know
Now she'll never get a chance to get to know him and find out that he could be her Romeo in black jeans.
and if I dig a hole to China I'll catch the first junk to Soho
Soho is a neighborhood in LA, where Michael Penn lived at the time, if I recall correctly. I'm not entirely sure what this line means, to be honest. It could mean that even though he has dug himself into a hole so deep that it goes all the way to China, he thinks he'll be okay and get back to himself (home, aka Soho). It could mean that maybe now he may be harder to pin down if she changes her mind. It may be an extremely obtuse way of saying, "you know where to find me, no matter what happens."
Sometime from now you'll bow to pressure
He believes that the pull between them is so strong that eventually she's going to see she made a mistake.
some things in life you cannot measure by degrees
In this case, "degrees" means "increments," not college degrees. =) Some things have no shades of grey and are an either/or situation. This is his response to the events of the first verse. He doesn't WANT to be friends. He wants all or nothing.
It has to be understood that this song is a little bit of a tongue in cheek ego thing. He's saying, you turned me down, but you don't know what you're missing out on! So he's saying, eventually, you're gonna realize that being just friends with me is a loss for you.
I'm between the poles and the equator don't send no private investigator to find me please
Again, he's saying, "I'm not going to wait around for you, you don't know what you're missing out on, I'm still looking for that great love, like Romeo and Heathcliff. If you want me," he says, "don't be discrete and quiet about it - I want all or nothing, I want big epic romances and grand overtures. Don't send a private investigator. Fess up and tell me yourself." =)
'less he speaks Chinese and can dance like Astaire overseas
Again, another great romantic figure - Fred Astaire - and exotic far off places like China are invoked here. He doesn't want an ordinary love, and once she realizes she's made a mistake in rejecting him, which in this song he's confident she will, she shouldn't re-approach him unless she's ready to "dance like Astaire." He'll be "someone to dance with" like she wants, but he thinks they have a lot more potential than that.
This is really a terrific song, about dealing with rejection with hope and humor. Hopefully this has been helpful to others. :)
Andrea1975, you might be long gone from here, but I joined this site just to respond to your post, which I think you did a bang-up job with. I heard the song a little while ago on WFUV-FM (N.Y.C.) and it got me thinking again about the lyrics (all this time and I didn't even know the name of the song).
Andrea1975, you might be long gone from here, but I joined this site just to respond to your post, which I think you did a bang-up job with. I heard the song a little while ago on WFUV-FM (N.Y.C.) and it got me thinking again about the lyrics (all this time and I didn't even know the name of the song).
So She says it's time she goes But wanted to be sure I know She hopes we can be friends.
So She says it's time she goes But wanted to be sure I know She hopes we can be friends.
I think Yeah, guess we can say I But didn't think to ask her why; She blocked her eyes and...
I think Yeah, guess we can say I But didn't think to ask her why; She blocked her eyes and drew the curtains With knots I've got yet to untie.
What if I were Romeo in black jeans? What if I was Heathcliff?--it's no myth. Maybe she's just looking for Someone to dance with.
See It was just too soon to tell And looking for some parallel Can be an endless game.
We We said goodbye before hello My secrets she will never know And if I dig a hole to China I'll catch the first junk to Soho.
What if I were Romeo in black jeans? What if I was Heathcliff?--it's no myth. Maybe she's just looking for Someone to dance with.
Sometime from now you'll bow to pressures. Some things in life you cannot measure by degrees.
I'm between the poles and the equator. Don't send no private investigator to find me please 'Less he speaks Chinese And can dance like Astaire overseas. (Okay.)
What if I was? So what if I was? Maybe she's just looking for Someone to dance with.
What if I was Romeo in black jeans? What if I was Heathcliff?--it's no myth. Maybe she's just looking for Someone to dance with.
...All of the above was going to be posted two days ago, but I had a couple of computer foul-ups, so it has had to wait until now to be sent.
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@andrea1975 i think you are spot on. this is a real love song the way they are intended to be. . with one person not getting what they want.. and feelings coursing through their veins. thats why its better to be a cold hearted assasin when it comes to the opposite sex. like me. but that doesnt make good love song material. More the stuff of rock n roll.
@andrea1975 i think you are spot on. this is a real love song the way they are intended to be. . with one person not getting what they want.. and feelings coursing through their veins. thats why its better to be a cold hearted assasin when it comes to the opposite sex. like me. but that doesnt make good love song material. More the stuff of rock n roll.
@andrea1975 great interpretation
@andrea1975 great interpretation

Saw him live back in the day, and he explained it succinctly. The dude is looking for a relationship and she's just looking for "someone to dance with" using dance as a euphemism for sex.
@Douladawn What do you mean "he explained it succinctly," are you saying he literally explained his lyrics while onstage?
@Douladawn What do you mean "he explained it succinctly," are you saying he literally explained his lyrics while onstage?

I can't believe no one has commented on this song yet. It's a great song, very clever lyrics. It's pretty simple to understand, I believe. Your never 100% sure what the writer has in mind unless you hear it from their mouth. But I feel pretty confident saying this song is about a relationship ending before it even starts. He has a hard time understanding why the relationship was never given a chance. Maybe she just was not lookin for something serious. Relationship are confusing. He's giving up on trying to figure them out.

I think this song is about a one night stand that he was hoping would be more, but she doesn’t want it - she just wanted the one night stand.

The singer likes a woman but the woman rebuffs him by insisting on a friendship instead. Yet, the woman is not acting as a friend anymore. In the end, the singer suggest perhaps this woman is not currently in a serious relationship.
So, she says its time she goes but wanted to be sure I know she hopes we can be friends I think yeah, I guess we can say hi
I modified the lyric from "I" to "hi". I think it makes more sense. Basically, it's the usual "let's be friends" bit. Yet, she makes it difficult for a new friendship as this is an awkward situation for both of them. He agrees.. sure we can still just say "hi".
but didn't think to ask her why she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains with knots I've got yet to untie
Yet, he isn't sure why she has made it so difficult. He is shut out of her life after he suggested to bring their relationship to the next level.
(Chorus) what if I were Romeo in black jeans what if I was Heathcliff, its no myth maybe she's just looking for someone to dance with
What if I were a tragic love character like Romeo? What if I was Heathcliff (from Wuthering Heights, yet another tragic love character). Maybe she just is not looking for major relationships now (and probably does not care for melodrama).
See, it was just too soon to tell and looking for some parallel can be an endless game
It was too early to tell if the relationship could have worked out. Looking for some hidden messages could be an endless game.
We said goodbye before hello my secrets she will never know and if I dig a hole to China I'll catch the first junk to Soho
Basically the relationship ended before she got to really know him even as a friend. She will never know him. Not sure on the China and Soho reference. China being the far out, exotic place. And Soho being a small office / home office environment ilke in NYC. Perhaps he can't forget about her?
(Chorus)
Sometime from now you'll bow to pressure some things in life you cannot measure by degrees I'm between the poles and the equator don't send no private investigator to find me please 'less he speaks Chinese and can dance like Astaire overseas
Not sure on this part. My best guess is she will succumb to peer pressure to find some "big shot". But, he matters not since life is not always measured by "degrees" (as in college degrees).
This plays well into his "between the poles and the equator" which is normally guaged by degrees as well. (via longitude and latitude).
But if she realizes her loss later on, try not to find him unless she has gained in worldly cultures such as being able to speak Chinese and dancing like Fred Astaire.

I love this song, it's been stuck in my head the past 2 days... And something caught my ear (and heart) that no-one has suggested that I've seen, but it strikes a chord with me, let's see what everyone else thinks...
The lyrics in the first verse "I think, yeah I guess we can say I..." I read it as " I think, yeah I guess we can say "I", as in he's trying to come to terms with the fact that He and he alone is the only person wondering why the shutout? Why not see if we COULD become like the great love stories, only better? I also think it's that pivotal moment in a breakup when you realize that there really is no "We" anymore... And you realize that obviously she must not think the same thing you do, otherwise there would be no break up.
And the next part "..but didn't think to ask her why she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains with knots I have yet to untie..." Why didn't he ask her why he was alone in this thought? Why is he the only one who thinks they CAN be together and they CAN be a great love story? He doesn't understand her train of thought and why she's so resistant to something that could be (in his mind) the greatest thing that's happened to them both? What if he WAS Romeo? What if he WAS Heathcliff and true love isn't just a myth? But maybe she just doesn't want to believe, she doesn't want something you have to try at... She just wants fun, and probably no strings... Just someone to dance with.
Anyways, just a thought. ^^

Brilliant song
Explanations seem right-on, but it isn't that complicated.
She's gorgeous, she's been hurt before, is being hit on by jerks constantly, and now all she wants is someone to dance with.
He, on the other hand, in love with her. He thinks, well, how does she know I'm not some romantic figure like Romeo or Heathcliff?
At the moment, she doesn't and she doesn't care to. All she wants, at the moment...is someone to dance with.

I think you guys all have the right idea about the "I think yeah I guess we can say I" line, but I'm pretty sure it's literally what he says to her in response to her suggesting they should just be friends. If there was punctuation included in the lyrics, it would look like this:
So, she says its time she goes, but wanted to be sure I know she hopes we can be friends. "I think - yeah, I guess we can," say I, but didn't think to ask her why she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains, with knots I've got yet to untie.
That is how I've imagined it, and it's made it clearer for me to understand. Man, I love this song!
I really liked all of the commentary especially andrea1975 and ctowner1. Additionally to the jivenugget post above, I would add the punctuation to the last line as follows:
I really liked all of the commentary especially andrea1975 and ctowner1. Additionally to the jivenugget post above, I would add the punctuation to the last line as follows:
she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains, with knots I've got, yet to untie.
she blocked her eyes and drew the curtains, with knots I've got, yet to untie.
To me this exposes a dichotomy and an unwillingness to move on. When you draw curtains you usually untie the sash. The sash is usually holding the curtains open. In this case, she draws the curtains and ties them closed. Looking at it from an imagery perspective with the two waking from sex as...
To me this exposes a dichotomy and an unwillingness to move on. When you draw curtains you usually untie the sash. The sash is usually holding the curtains open. In this case, she draws the curtains and ties them closed. Looking at it from an imagery perspective with the two waking from sex as ctowner1 suggests, the physical room they are in is now dark and she has tied the curtains to keep anyone from seeing in. This could symbolize that he believes she is hiding the relationship from the world. Interestingly, he has not decided to untie the curtains and expose the relationship in the state he now finds it. This could be from embarrassment or he is cherishing the knots she has tied as it is the only thing that he has left of her or the relationship.
Amazing piece of modern poetry.
Jivenugget, I think you're right on with your punctuation. That line always bothered me, but I think you've made sense of it.
Jivenugget, I think you're right on with your punctuation. That line always bothered me, but I think you've made sense of it.
Like Lionel Hutz once said (more or less):
Like Lionel Hutz once said (more or less):
"That's a misprint. It should say, 'Works on commission? No! Money down!'"
"That's a misprint. It should say, 'Works on commission? No! Money down!'"
@jivenugget I think grammatically this is how it should read: I think, yeah -- "I guess we can," say I
@jivenugget I think grammatically this is how it should read: I think, yeah -- "I guess we can," say I

Andreas, you hit the target on this song.

i saw Micheal Penn what he said that people miss "is the neither Romeo nor Heatchcliff (heathcliff was an asshole BTW) were good for the ladies they "loved" it was more of an unheathy obsession." so what if i were Romeo is asking "what if i were an abusive bad boy would this have played out different"