| The Zombies – She's Not There Lyrics | 11 years ago |
| The lyrics of this song are very difficult to interpret unless you have been emotionally involved with someone that has NPD (Narcissist Personality Disorder). What it basically describes is that someone - that looks just like anybody else - can 'fake' emotions to hide their truth self (which they themselves don't like) and therefore do not get emotional attached to anyone. However in order to receive Narcissist Supply the Narcissist at the beginning of his or her relationship behaves totally normal and promises love, loyalty, good engaging sex, companionship and everything else that is expected from a loving relationship between two person. But, once they know their partner has fallen in love for them, they show their true colours and become a different person. They do not follow what they promise and most of the times use intimate knowledge to manipulate their partner in order obtain what they want. At this point the relationship becomes about the Narcissist person only and not the other: its a one way traffic. Narcissists do not feel empathy towards others including their lovers. They dont feel sorry that they hurt you and in psychology terms 'projects' anger and hostility towards you for wanting them to feel sorry about the way you feel when they actually are the ones that are causing the pain (and in most cases on purpose). It is a form of self defense mechanism to protect their self inflated ego and their 'superiority' after all, for a narcissist you are an object just like a table or a computer. They see you as a 'cut out' of a person, a statue and two dimensional when we in fact we all know we are not objects and that although we may serve a purpose to others we also have our own feelings and needs and in a Narcissist relationship they are totally neglected by the Narcissist. While in a relationship with a Narcissist, it takes time to realize their disorder and its difficult to come into terms with it but its like you have fallen in love with a 'shell' of a person hence the lyrics 'she is not there'. Narcissists are like vampires, they suck you dry of emotions and everything else and once you are depleted of these things, they move on very quickly into their next victim. A very easy sign to spot a Narcissist is if they say they love you from a very early stage of the relationship because to love someone takes time but they use it as a currency to gain your affection and manipulate you. They rob you of your soul because they ultimately envy you for having one but are unable to connect with theirs and will never truly love anyone as we know the true meaning of love to be and as human beings are entitled to experience nothing but true love. Eduardo London | |
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