This song is about a broken relationship. How do I know? Because I know what this certain kind of broken relationship, the one the song is talking about, feels like. For anyone who has been through this, the lyrics describe it perfectly, and it's pretty much unmistakable. It's all about a guy (or a girl, I suppose) who is so very sorry that he screwed things up and wants to just erase the huge mistakes he made and go back to the start of the relationship, back when everything was ok and when she still loved him, and he is tortured by the memory of when she used to tell him things about herself and ask him questions about himself, about his life, his story... you know... the way it was at the beginning when she was excited and wanted to know everything about him and he was her world. And he's remembering those times, and how it was back than... especially how she said she loved him, how she used to say it all the time, and how he thought so little of it at the time, and how he never hears her say it anymore, and never will again... and now it haunts him, because he remembers her saying it now, he hears it in his head incessantly... he actually hears it now and pays attention to it now, now when she doesn't want him anymore. And he remembers all of the magic at the beginning, how it was then, when everything seemed perfect, and he understands his mistake... how he played the part of the scientist. How he took her for granted, thinking that her love would be as reliable and logical as a machine, not even realizing that he wasn't giving her the love and understanding and emotion that she needed... and how he analyzed everything and came up with logical reasons for all of the mistakes he made, making her seem wrong for just loving him and feeling hurt when he hurt her, and how he realizes now how he was letting their future love be decided by something as meaningless as a flip of the coin. The flip of a stupid switch. Logical statistics. And now he would give anything to just go back to the beginning and start over again, but it will never happen. His apologies are too late, his confession is too late, his realization is too late. He was the scientist instead of the lover, and he's lost her, and it's over, and he never ever knew, never ever had an inkling of how hard it would be without her.
Very true, she hurts too...it doesn't go away no matter how many miles, years we put between ourselves. We can never get back to where we were. And that hurts.
Very true, she hurts too...it doesn't go away no matter how many miles, years we put between ourselves. We can never get back to where we were. And that hurts.
You touched my heart... I respect your explanation !!!! Thanks to you I am able to tell the guy I love what I feel for him... First I had my doubts about our relationship. But it's true : DONT BE A SCIENTIST, BE A LOVER !!!! So happy that I read your part.. Thanks to you I have to courage and motivation to hold on this love. Thank you !!! God bless you !! Greetings from Amsterdam
You touched my heart... I respect your explanation !!!! Thanks to you I am able to tell the guy I love what I feel for him... First I had my doubts about our relationship. But it's true : DONT BE A SCIENTIST, BE A LOVER !!!! So happy that I read your part.. Thanks to you I have to courage and motivation to hold on this love. Thank you !!! God bless you !! Greetings from Amsterdam
you know i should have listened to this song awhile ago i'm a very similar situation. i'm kind of a "scientist" myself and when i heard your reply it kind of touched me I never really realized it but yes even a year after i cant forget this person and this song kind of helps me out you know. it reminds me im not alone out there and she might feel the same. remember i said similar situation its complicated.
you know i should have listened to this song awhile ago i'm a very similar situation. i'm kind of a "scientist" myself and when i heard your reply it kind of touched me I never really realized it but yes even a year after i cant forget this person and this song kind of helps me out you know. it reminds me im not alone out there and she might feel the same. remember i said similar situation its complicated.
Thank you eliash for writing what you did... you captured my experience as well, of course with slight variations. But the core is exactly the same. Maybe men tend to be scientific and very concerned with what is correct and wrong, because that is how we make it in the working world, and "manage" our surroundings. But that approach is not helpful in a relationship... and sometimes we learn too late. I am working on being able to do better next time, but the memories keep lingering. One other thing that might help -- sometimes the woman (and these behaviors...
Thank you eliash for writing what you did... you captured my experience as well, of course with slight variations. But the core is exactly the same. Maybe men tend to be scientific and very concerned with what is correct and wrong, because that is how we make it in the working world, and "manage" our surroundings. But that approach is not helpful in a relationship... and sometimes we learn too late. I am working on being able to do better next time, but the memories keep lingering. One other thing that might help -- sometimes the woman (and these behaviors do have some gender aspect in them) gets swept away initially and does not communicate well later, when she is not getting what she wants, and then suddenly says "It's over" and then it is too late. It is not all "his" fault, but that is not much consolation when missing the past.
Uhm.. Does that relationship end up crashing..? If there is someone in that type of relationship and the two are constantly just bickering and trying to keep it together because they both are trying to get over ones mistake together.. They really want to work it out but its so hard... Do those relationships typically end or have a crashing ending..?
Uhm.. Does that relationship end up crashing..? If there is someone in that type of relationship and the two are constantly just bickering and trying to keep it together because they both are trying to get over ones mistake together.. They really want to work it out but its so hard... Do those relationships typically end or have a crashing ending..?
Very very true! When I was pregnant on my way to work I would cry like mad. His scientist had taken over and become mad and only got worse later. While I admit I am a bad communicator and bad showing my feelings they were always there. But Mr. Jekyll literally became Dr. Hyde. I wish for the beginning to but know I can never go back. Beautiful interpretation.
Very very true! When I was pregnant on my way to work I would cry like mad. His scientist had taken over and become mad and only got worse later. While I admit I am a bad communicator and bad showing my feelings they were always there. But Mr. Jekyll literally became Dr. Hyde. I wish for the beginning to but know I can never go back. Beautiful interpretation.
@eliash wow. I love the way you explained it. I've actually been in this exact kind of situation and I was the one who got screwed over by the guy. Now I hope he feels the way the guy in this song does but I feel like I'm more hurt than he is.
@eliash wow. I love the way you explained it. I've actually been in this exact kind of situation and I was the one who got screwed over by the guy. Now I hope he feels the way the guy in this song does but I feel like I'm more hurt than he is.
@eliash (and perhaps to all)...
Curious. If you don't mind me asking...
@eliash (and perhaps to all)...
Curious. If you don't mind me asking...
Did you just assume that the relationship was finished, given the likelihood of their harsh tone? What have you done to redeem yourself? The love of someone, like such, which was shared, is a rarity; and, more importantly, keep in mind that time always brings about a change...
Did you just assume that the relationship was finished, given the likelihood of their harsh tone? What have you done to redeem yourself? The love of someone, like such, which was shared, is a rarity; and, more importantly, keep in mind that time always brings about a change...
H͟A͟V͟E A S͟T͟R͟O͟N͟G͟ H͟E͟A͟R͟T; yet, more importantly, BUILD G͟R͟E͟A͟T͟ C͟O͟U͟R͟A͟G͟E͟. If you truly believe that you've tried, with ALL YOU HAVE, to REDEEM YOUR REGRETS, then...so be it. I hope you will be so fortunate to confront such a rarity in the future, again... However, if you did not GIVE ALL YOU HAVE as to show your SHEER, DEEPEST REGRETS, then (perhaps) you did not deserve them...from the very beginning.
If they remain in your heart and thoughts,...YOU MUST CONTINUOUSLY PROVE YOUR REGRETS, YOUR LOVE, & YOUR APPRECIATION TO THEM FROM THIS DAY FORTH...despite however long it takes,...you MUST try.
At least you'd have the satisfaction of knowing that you have tried, despite the heartache (and even tears); yet, to just simply submit... Oh well.
I truly wish you...all the very best...in all matters.
*What A R͟E͟A͟L͟I͟S͟T͟I͟C͟A͟L͟L͟Y͟ B͟E͟A͟U͟T͟I͟F͟U͟L͟ M͟I͟S͟E͟R͟Y That This Song Can Truly Convey...
@eliash I guess I was the scientist in my first relationship, which ended a month ago now. Although I gave her plenty of love, she had other needs that I failed to give her and I assumed our love was unconditional, which it wasn't. It absolutely kills me that I can never go back to those days. Your interpretation hits home and I think it's an excellent one.
@eliash I guess I was the scientist in my first relationship, which ended a month ago now. Although I gave her plenty of love, she had other needs that I failed to give her and I assumed our love was unconditional, which it wasn't. It absolutely kills me that I can never go back to those days. Your interpretation hits home and I think it's an excellent one.
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things...
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things that had led us in paths that almost tore us apart. Thanks.
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things...
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things that had led us in paths that almost tore us apart. Thanks.
This song is about a broken relationship. How do I know? Because I know what this certain kind of broken relationship, the one the song is talking about, feels like. For anyone who has been through this, the lyrics describe it perfectly, and it's pretty much unmistakable. It's all about a guy (or a girl, I suppose) who is so very sorry that he screwed things up and wants to just erase the huge mistakes he made and go back to the start of the relationship, back when everything was ok and when she still loved him, and he is tortured by the memory of when she used to tell him things about herself and ask him questions about himself, about his life, his story... you know... the way it was at the beginning when she was excited and wanted to know everything about him and he was her world. And he's remembering those times, and how it was back than... especially how she said she loved him, how she used to say it all the time, and how he thought so little of it at the time, and how he never hears her say it anymore, and never will again... and now it haunts him, because he remembers her saying it now, he hears it in his head incessantly... he actually hears it now and pays attention to it now, now when she doesn't want him anymore. And he remembers all of the magic at the beginning, how it was then, when everything seemed perfect, and he understands his mistake... how he played the part of the scientist. How he took her for granted, thinking that her love would be as reliable and logical as a machine, not even realizing that he wasn't giving her the love and understanding and emotion that she needed... and how he analyzed everything and came up with logical reasons for all of the mistakes he made, making her seem wrong for just loving him and feeling hurt when he hurt her, and how he realizes now how he was letting their future love be decided by something as meaningless as a flip of the coin. The flip of a stupid switch. Logical statistics. And now he would give anything to just go back to the beginning and start over again, but it will never happen. His apologies are too late, his confession is too late, his realization is too late. He was the scientist instead of the lover, and he's lost her, and it's over, and he never ever knew, never ever had an inkling of how hard it would be without her.
Very true, she hurts too...it doesn't go away no matter how many miles, years we put between ourselves. We can never get back to where we were. And that hurts.
Very true, she hurts too...it doesn't go away no matter how many miles, years we put between ourselves. We can never get back to where we were. And that hurts.
Spot on!
Spot on!
You touched my heart... I respect your explanation !!!! Thanks to you I am able to tell the guy I love what I feel for him... First I had my doubts about our relationship. But it's true : DONT BE A SCIENTIST, BE A LOVER !!!! So happy that I read your part.. Thanks to you I have to courage and motivation to hold on this love. Thank you !!! God bless you !! Greetings from Amsterdam
You touched my heart... I respect your explanation !!!! Thanks to you I am able to tell the guy I love what I feel for him... First I had my doubts about our relationship. But it's true : DONT BE A SCIENTIST, BE A LOVER !!!! So happy that I read your part.. Thanks to you I have to courage and motivation to hold on this love. Thank you !!! God bless you !! Greetings from Amsterdam
you know i should have listened to this song awhile ago i'm a very similar situation. i'm kind of a "scientist" myself and when i heard your reply it kind of touched me I never really realized it but yes even a year after i cant forget this person and this song kind of helps me out you know. it reminds me im not alone out there and she might feel the same. remember i said similar situation its complicated.
you know i should have listened to this song awhile ago i'm a very similar situation. i'm kind of a "scientist" myself and when i heard your reply it kind of touched me I never really realized it but yes even a year after i cant forget this person and this song kind of helps me out you know. it reminds me im not alone out there and she might feel the same. remember i said similar situation its complicated.
Thank you eliash for writing what you did... you captured my experience as well, of course with slight variations. But the core is exactly the same. Maybe men tend to be scientific and very concerned with what is correct and wrong, because that is how we make it in the working world, and "manage" our surroundings. But that approach is not helpful in a relationship... and sometimes we learn too late. I am working on being able to do better next time, but the memories keep lingering. One other thing that might help -- sometimes the woman (and these behaviors...
Thank you eliash for writing what you did... you captured my experience as well, of course with slight variations. But the core is exactly the same. Maybe men tend to be scientific and very concerned with what is correct and wrong, because that is how we make it in the working world, and "manage" our surroundings. But that approach is not helpful in a relationship... and sometimes we learn too late. I am working on being able to do better next time, but the memories keep lingering. One other thing that might help -- sometimes the woman (and these behaviors do have some gender aspect in them) gets swept away initially and does not communicate well later, when she is not getting what she wants, and then suddenly says "It's over" and then it is too late. It is not all "his" fault, but that is not much consolation when missing the past.
Uhm.. Does that relationship end up crashing..? If there is someone in that type of relationship and the two are constantly just bickering and trying to keep it together because they both are trying to get over ones mistake together.. They really want to work it out but its so hard... Do those relationships typically end or have a crashing ending..?
Uhm.. Does that relationship end up crashing..? If there is someone in that type of relationship and the two are constantly just bickering and trying to keep it together because they both are trying to get over ones mistake together.. They really want to work it out but its so hard... Do those relationships typically end or have a crashing ending..?
Very very true! When I was pregnant on my way to work I would cry like mad. His scientist had taken over and become mad and only got worse later. While I admit I am a bad communicator and bad showing my feelings they were always there. But Mr. Jekyll literally became Dr. Hyde. I wish for the beginning to but know I can never go back. Beautiful interpretation.
Very very true! When I was pregnant on my way to work I would cry like mad. His scientist had taken over and become mad and only got worse later. While I admit I am a bad communicator and bad showing my feelings they were always there. But Mr. Jekyll literally became Dr. Hyde. I wish for the beginning to but know I can never go back. Beautiful interpretation.
@eliash wow. I love the way you explained it. I've actually been in this exact kind of situation and I was the one who got screwed over by the guy. Now I hope he feels the way the guy in this song does but I feel like I'm more hurt than he is.
@eliash wow. I love the way you explained it. I've actually been in this exact kind of situation and I was the one who got screwed over by the guy. Now I hope he feels the way the guy in this song does but I feel like I'm more hurt than he is.
@eliash (and perhaps to all)... Curious. If you don't mind me asking...
@eliash (and perhaps to all)... Curious. If you don't mind me asking...
Did you just assume that the relationship was finished, given the likelihood of their harsh tone? What have you done to redeem yourself? The love of someone, like such, which was shared, is a rarity; and, more importantly, keep in mind that time always brings about a change...
Did you just assume that the relationship was finished, given the likelihood of their harsh tone? What have you done to redeem yourself? The love of someone, like such, which was shared, is a rarity; and, more importantly, keep in mind that time always brings about a change...
H͟A͟V͟E A S͟T͟R͟O͟N͟G͟ H͟E͟A͟R͟T; yet, more importantly, BUILD G͟R͟E͟A͟T͟ C͟O͟U͟R͟A͟G͟E͟. If you truly believe that you've tried, with ALL YOU HAVE, to REDEEM YOUR REGRETS, then...so be it. I hope you will be so fortunate to confront such a rarity in the future, again... However, if you did not GIVE ALL YOU HAVE as to show your SHEER, DEEPEST REGRETS, then (perhaps) you did not deserve them...from the very beginning.
If they remain in your heart and thoughts,...YOU MUST CONTINUOUSLY PROVE YOUR REGRETS, YOUR LOVE, & YOUR APPRECIATION TO THEM FROM THIS DAY FORTH...despite however long it takes,...you MUST try.
At least you'd have the satisfaction of knowing that you have tried, despite the heartache (and even tears); yet, to just simply submit... Oh well.
I truly wish you...all the very best...in all matters.
*What A R͟E͟A͟L͟I͟S͟T͟I͟C͟A͟L͟L͟Y͟ B͟E͟A͟U͟T͟I͟F͟U͟L͟ M͟I͟S͟E͟R͟Y That This Song Can Truly Convey...
@drm4LF
@drm4LF
She's a nun now so any regret I still have to show is moot.
She's a nun now so any regret I still have to show is moot.
@Evolet
@Evolet
Thanks for telling me that, it makes me very glad. I hope things worked out for you. Love, from Denton TX
Thanks for telling me that, it makes me very glad. I hope things worked out for you. Love, from Denton TX
@eliash This is the most beautiful explanation of any song I've yet read on the site <#
@eliash This is the most beautiful explanation of any song I've yet read on the site <#
@eliash I guess I was the scientist in my first relationship, which ended a month ago now. Although I gave her plenty of love, she had other needs that I failed to give her and I assumed our love was unconditional, which it wasn't. It absolutely kills me that I can never go back to those days. Your interpretation hits home and I think it's an excellent one.
@eliash I guess I was the scientist in my first relationship, which ended a month ago now. Although I gave her plenty of love, she had other needs that I failed to give her and I assumed our love was unconditional, which it wasn't. It absolutely kills me that I can never go back to those days. Your interpretation hits home and I think it's an excellent one.
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things...
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things that had led us in paths that almost tore us apart. Thanks.
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things...
@eliash I remember listening to this when it came out and having an idea of what it was about but not making sense of a lot of it. Yours is the best explanation I\'ve seen. Sadly I came across it because I was living the part about taking her for granted, being caught up in my own world and puzzles and not enough time for her and coming up with logical reasons why she is wrong rather than listening to her. Fortunately it seems to have been in time and your explanation helped clarify some of the things that had led us in paths that almost tore us apart. Thanks.